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Old 2007-09-19, 23:51   Link #141
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Take your time - you are still young. Just focus on your career path and setting up your life for the future. Things will fall in place.
That's some good advice, I'll take it on board
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Old 2007-09-20, 00:25   Link #142
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It's seriously something to consider, I wish i'd been more serious in my studies and less about girls back in HS. >.> I guess I just went along with the social concept of having a Girlfriend, though I realize now it was for the worst. =/
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Old 2007-09-20, 00:57   Link #143
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learn it young before your 24 questioning if you made a wise choice in lifestyle.
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Old 2007-09-20, 02:47   Link #144
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HOLY CRAP i just realized i havent had a gf since i was in the 5th grd im in the 12th grd btw i dont kno maybe girls dont like me cuz i hang out with an odd group of ppl who r really kool friends but my friends alsop havent had gf in a long time or never had one maybe where just uncool...idk but i tried asking out this girl who was in my class and she said get out of my face freak so i guess im destined to be alone.for now any way
Unless you're planning to fail, senior year is probably the worst to be looking for fresh relationships. Well, also, I guess, unless you're looking for a quick fix before your run your ass off to college.

I met my girlfriend in 12th grade. First thing she said to me the night I met yer (before we started dating) was "hey my friend needs a date to the prom." So I said "it's not worth going to if it's not with you"... SMOOTH AMIRITE?
Anyways, about that senior year thing, now we don't go to the same college... hell, I happened to move this summer, and now I live a few thousand miles away from her (but still go to college about 200 miles away). Still going strong though.

Best advice I can give is to be her friend before being her boyfriend. You can tell if someone's in love with you. My style has never been to explore the "likers". Go for the lovers. If she really likes you, you should be able to tell. If it's just a crush, well, usually it's not worth it.
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Old 2007-09-20, 06:39   Link #145
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woah thx for the advice ppl =)
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Old 2007-09-20, 06:51   Link #146
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So I said "it's not worth going to if it's not with you"... SMOOTH AMIRITE?
You're good.

Common advice for the males that I'll repeat here: no matter how hot you think your girlfriend is now, in two years (maximum) you won't see her that way. It's just natural instinct, it probably impacts 99% of all males. Don't base things off of appearence alone, personality is important. But don't downplay the importance of appearence, either. If your girlfriend is frumpy to you, you'll struggle a lot over feelings of physical attraction to other girls who are much more attractive to you.

A relationshp is work. It's trust, knowing when to give and when to take, being able to communicate, and second-guessing yourself. If you can pull it off properly, it won't feel like you're working hard or suffering, and others will likely tell you that it seems so wonderful and effortless. Don't be fooled if you see such relationships yourself. Fairy tale relationships do exist, but those stories never detail what's involved in "happily ever after." Now you know.
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Old 2007-09-20, 12:27   Link #147
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women usually gets prettier as they grow older (until wrinkles and love handles start popping out)
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Old 2007-09-20, 16:21   Link #148
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women usually gets prettier as they grow older (until wrinkles and love handles start popping out)
The grow prettier thing lasts for about 10 years... starting when they're 10. lols!
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Old 2007-09-20, 18:46   Link #149
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women usually gets prettier as they grow older (until wrinkles and love handles start popping out)
Oh dear lord, the same thing happens to men! Only what, they get beer guts...

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The grow prettier thing lasts for about 10 years... starting when they're 10. lols!
hmmm, that's interesting, so either you're going to stop dating when you hit 20...or you'll just keep pursuing younger and younger women? Creepy! *runs away* So I hit the 21 mark...meaning I'm no longer getting prettier?

You guys crack me up!
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Old 2007-09-20, 23:23   Link #150
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Good job on that.

Still, I hope it doesn't turn out to be like...

THIS!

I Loled so hard.


omg...

an attempt was just made at my life....


death from loling too damn hard :P



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Right now, I like someone, but I can't get the courage to say something.
It's a problem since he's a bit older than me.. I feel sort of naive next to him..

Everyone, do your best! Love is a battlefield.
Some guys aren't aggressive, no matter how the masses are. You need to take the first step. If you can't say it to him in person, get his msn, aim, myspace, email, etc. and ask him out over that. After confessing, even if over the internet, it'll become alot easier to say it.
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Old 2007-09-30, 23:30   Link #151
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Hey guys, I'm looking for some advice. I really like someone, and I'm really good friends with her. Problem is, I'm not sure if she likes me back. I'm afraid that if I confessed to her and she rejected me, our friendship would be ruined. Any advice?
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Old 2007-10-01, 00:51   Link #152
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Hey, its the same problem I have. Sheesh, it sure is a small world. I guess what I am doing is passing some time and see what the future holds. But if nothing changes by January, I am just going to ask her.
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Old 2007-10-01, 02:56   Link #153
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It may be awkward for a little while, but it really depends on how you ask. I was friends with one girl that I asked out. There was nothing overly dramatic about it, or even very straight-forward - I just asked if she'd be free to do lunch some time, and named a time (aggressive dating advice: don't name a time, because it makes it easier for the girl to back out). She said she was busy with friends, so I named another time, and she said she was busy again. I wasn't very aggressive about it, and took the hint. It may have been my imagination, but she avoided me for about two or three months after that, before being friendly towards me again.

If you're very direct, I'd imagine that you risk having an awkward situation. That'd equate to ruining your friendship, or diminishing it. If you're already close friends with her, asking her to lunch might not be seen as a big deal. If you don't want to be overly aggressive, make it simple - maybe tell her that you've been feeling closer to her lately, and were wondering if she felt the same (that may still be too "heavy" depending on how close you are to her - but it also may not be heavy enough). Don't freak her out by telling her that for the past X months you couldn't stop thinking about her and want to be "the one" for her, unless she'd get into that. You know best what she's like and how your relationship dynamics are with her. Whatever you do, be confident in yourself! Lack of confidence will drastically cut any chances of anything happening.

There's also the theory about the "friends box" - it basically states that once you know a girl, you have a certain amount of time before she will permanantly mark you as a friend and never consider dating you. It may hold true for the majority, but you hear of plenty of people who have been friends for a long time and begin dating.
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Old 2007-10-01, 05:23   Link #154
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There's nothing wrong being in the friend box while she is dating someone else. Just grab your chance when they break up. It isn't really a healthy way to start a relationship, but hey a man gotta do what a man gotta do. xD

Personally dating a close friends is a definite no in my book. Normal friends(gah don't really know a good word for it)/half-friends are okay and easy targets.

Ledgem nailed it I think. Since I don't really know much about dating friends, but in the end how much does that friendship mean to you? While I think love is overrated, friendship is important. I can still easily risk if I ever fell in love.(I never fell in love, so yeah I would do everything in my power to keep it.) If I fail I get hit hard, but rather get over it fast then slow.

Seems you speak about really like. How important is it to you to have relationship with that girl? Personally I have more fun with girls if they are just my friends then when they are my girlfriend.

On an other note I'm really now seeing my tastes are into older women. -.-""" With older I mean like like 3 to 5 years older. It's kinda a bitch. While I have the confidence in getting a girl my age, but an older girl. Scares meh. :<
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Old 2007-10-04, 00:42   Link #155
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Guess I should've said something earlier, but I don't get to see the person I like very often, either.(we don't go to the same school) I usually get to see her once every few weeks, though I can keep in touch with her via e-mail. Thanks for the help so far, though.
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Old 2007-10-04, 14:28   Link #156
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I'm sure it will get easier!
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Old 2007-10-04, 17:40   Link #157
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Hey thank you all for the advice b4 but i have a new problem concerening this Okay u see ive been friends with this girl i've kno since 8th grd and me and her r really good friends and shes a pretty kool me and her always study together and talk together and take the bus..well u get the point so i was wondering if i should ask her out? or would it just kill r long friendship?
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Old 2007-10-04, 19:09   Link #158
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It could go either way.

Sorry, there's really no such thing as a definitive answer.
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Old 2007-10-04, 21:33   Link #159
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Yeah, I agree with raikage on this matter.

But you wouldn't know until you try, right?
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Old 2007-10-04, 23:53   Link #160
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Hey thank you all for the advice b4 but i have a new problem concerening this Okay u see ive been friends with this girl i've kno since 8th grd and me and her r really good friends and shes a pretty kool me and her always study together and talk together and take the bus..well u get the point so i was wondering if i should ask her out? or would it just kill r long friendship?
I don't really understand why you would "kill [your] long friendship." Even if there is no hope, is the friendship not worth enough to stick around for? Even if I couldn't have someone in a romantic way, just being near them would be enough, I think it proves that you really care for them. But like the others say, if you gauge her interest to be similar to yours, then you should try asking her out.
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