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Old 2009-09-16, 07:46   Link #1601
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Well, I wasn't stammering and blushing or anything. I basically said "there's something I wanted to ask you," took a big breath, and then said "first, are you currently single?" (more or less with that precision, and being 99% certain that she was actually single). As I said, she smiled a really big smile, asked if I was asking her out, and that was it. I don't remember exactly how she viewed me at that time - I think she was just relieved that I was asking her out. I was her first boyfriend, you see. Actually, I guess I'll be her only boyfriend, given that we're getting married
You're the kind of person who calculates the risks, arent you?

Anyways, cute

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Hey, nice - you were asked out by a girl! We were just talking about that... so, it does happen. That's special. She's a rarity, make sure you don't take her for granted!
I wonder if it's more uncommon in the US than here XD
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Old 2009-09-16, 08:03   Link #1602
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Hey, nice - you were asked out by a girl! We were just talking about that... so, it does happen. That's special. She's a rarity, make sure you don't take her for granted!
You sure its that rare of an event? I don't know. Even, I, a complete loser, had my experienced shares of being asked out by girls--some beauties on top of that. Maybe its my money....

On a more serious note, with the opinion of different regions having different women, I object.
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Old 2009-09-16, 08:24   Link #1603
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You sure its that rare of an event? I don't know. Even, I, a complete loser, had my experienced shares of being asked out by girls--some beauties on top of that. Maybe its my money....
It's supposed to be quite rare. When girls come to me with relationship worries (which is never, it only ever happens if I'm the only person around), every time I suggest a course of action which begins with "why don't you ask for the guys number?" or "why not ask him out?" it almost always gets cut-off with a "NO. lol NO."

Girls don't usually put themselves in positions like that. Which is part of the reason why a girl getting rejected before the relationship has begun is virtually unheard of.

That said, most girls will help a guy out with hints and clues, sometimes to the point where the question is begging to be asked and the answer is certain to be yes.
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Old 2009-09-16, 09:11   Link #1604
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It's supposed to be quite rare. When girls come to me with relationship worries (which is never, it only ever happens if I'm the only person around), every time I suggest a course of action which begins with "why don't you ask for the guys number?" or "why not ask him out?" it almost always gets cut-off with a "NO. lol NO."

Girls don't usually put themselves in positions like that. Which is part of the reason why a girl getting rejected before the relationship has begun is virtually unheard of.

That said, most girls will help a guy out with hints and clues, sometimes to the point where the question is begging to be asked and the answer is certain to be yes.
I don't know...I think its just the united states and other western regions....Our part of the world is a bit female dominated.
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Old 2009-09-16, 11:44   Link #1605
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My friend thinks one of my teachers who i have a thing for has a thing for me...

E.g Yesterday:

Him: You know if your sat alone for lunch i'd be happy to sit with you everyday.
Me: Really?
Him: Yes, come to my office at 1:05 and we'll walk down together.
Me: Thanks, it's a date then, *i laughed jokingly*
Him: *winks and licks his lips at me*


And the other day:

Me: Morning sir!
Him: Morning, how're you?
Me: Fine thanks you?
Him: I'm fine, a little pissed off but i'm fine.
Me: Why what's up?
Him: All this paper work and marking has been driving me crazy and to be honest you're the only thing I come to school for.
Me: ... *blush*
Him: *puts arm around me* See ya later.
Me: Bye..



I was like o_O he is so hott and I am just fail!!

Is he trying to wind me up?
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Old 2009-09-16, 13:08   Link #1606
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You have to stop whatever your doing right now because not only will it get you and him into a whole heap of trouble you will regret it.

Ignoring the fact that your underage and he's at the very least 8 years older than you (assuming he's 23 which would be pretty young for a teacher), your under his care and doing anything will be regarded as abusing his position.

It will destroy his career and you'll probably get hurt to.

Your 15 years old, thats a crazy time your hormones are going wild, its not un common for people of your age to have crushes on teachers but its usually just a passing thing.

He shouldnt be saying things like that at all or doing things like that, stay away from him.
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Old 2009-09-16, 13:19   Link #1607
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You have to stop whatever your doing right now because not only will it get you and him into a whole heap of trouble you will regret it.

Ignoring the fact that your underage and he's at the very least 8 years older than you (assuming he's 23 which would be pretty young for a teacher), your under his care and doing anything will be regarded as abusing his position.

It will destroy his career and you'll probably get hurt to.

Your 15 years old, thats a crazy time your hormones are going wild, its not un common for people of your age to have crushes on teachers but its usually just a passing thing.

He shouldnt be saying things like that at all or doing things like that, stay away from him.
^ This. Get the fuck out of it while you still can and you're not balls deep in yet - you'll regret it later if you don't. Lol
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Old 2009-09-16, 14:05   Link #1608
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Heed stubby42's and H23's advice. The teacher shouldn't say anything like that and you shouldn't do things with him.

People WILL find out and his career will be ruined.

Here in the US, there have been cases of teachers engaging in inappropriate behavior with a student or two and it's always a bad end for the teacher. The teacher is supposed to teach and set an example for children, not seduce them.
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Old 2009-09-16, 14:40   Link #1609
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I just had a recent breakup. We were pretty good friends before we started going out.

Before we started going out, she needed a place to move into, so I offered since my friend and I were in need of a new roomate. She was more than happy to move in with us. She had a boyfriend at the time so I really didn't think much of it, I did find her attractive and liked her personality, but that was all. Then two months later, she had broke up with him and got close to me. I was starting to fall in love with her every moment we were together. Had many of my firsts...*cough* and eventually started officially going out.

3 days later she said she can't do it.

I felt used. She had recently broken up with her boyfriend and moved onto me, but didn't want to go out or anything. Like she needed someone there, anyone to be close with, didnt matter who. I just happen to be there since I was living with her.

It's been two weeks now and I'm having the worst experience ever. Things have not been the same since the break up, its just awkward and I just hate how quickly everything changed. Since we are living together it's been hard to get over her. So as of now Im on a trip of "self preservation" or whatever. Been driving around, staying in hotels, friends houses n such. Havent been home for awhile. It's ok, I'm not sure it'll fix the problem, but I felt like I needed to do something out of the ordinary, something I would never do. I just "hate" her right now, when I know I shouldn't. I can't help it. Hopefully it'll all work out for the both of us. She's a great person and I don't want to lose her as a friend, but I can't stand being around her.

Just something to throw out there to you guys since Im bored in this hotel room.
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Old 2009-09-16, 15:01   Link #1610
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It sucks that she used you to be her "rebound." It's always a risk to deal with girls who had just gone through a break-up. Their emotions are all in disarray.
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Old 2009-09-16, 15:18   Link #1611
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It sucks that she used you to be her "rebound." It's always a risk to deal with girls who had just gone through a break-up. Their emotions are all in disarray.
The most frustrating part was that I was trying to give her time before anything were to happen between us. I know timing is everything and it was definitely NOT the right time.

She made the first moves, I wanted it, but I also knew it was a bad idea. That's life for ya.
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Old 2009-09-16, 17:09   Link #1612
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Some girl started talking to me a little more when she had a breakup...nothing happened between us eventually
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Old 2009-09-16, 17:15   Link #1613
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Some girl started talking to me a little more when she had a breakup...
That happens.... a LOT.
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Old 2009-09-16, 17:18   Link #1614
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Yeah, I've been that proverbial "shoulder" to lean on for a few girls in my life...though at the end of the day, I'm still in the friendzone, which is sometimes good but most of the time bad.

The aforementioned girl probably was interested in me for just a moment...any time I tried to ask her out she made excuses

It's whatever to me anyway. She and I both kinda have the same personality but that is where our similarities cease--she's sorta in that hipster clique and I'm just...myself
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Old 2009-09-16, 17:34   Link #1615
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Yeah, I've been that proverbial "shoulder" to lean on for a few girls in my life...though at the end of the day, I'm still in the friendzone, which is sometimes good but most of the time bad.

The aforementioned girl probably was interested in me for just a moment...any time I tried to ask her out she made excuses

It's whatever to me anyway. She and I both kinda have the same personality but that is where our similarities cease--she's sorta in that hipster clique and I'm just...myself
Happens a lot, just gotta be careful not to be caught up in it when you're sure that they're just using you as a "shoulder" to lean on in rough times. Don't get me wrong, feelings and relationships CAN develop further in situations like this - provided that the girl (or the guy - whoever, was seeking comfort) had her feelings sorted out (which takes time, and no, not a week since then it just becomes a rebound.. unless it was a shitty relationship, but if that was the case, the other person wouldn't even feel bad/sad about the breakup lol), and that they are truly over the other person who they broke up with.

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My friend thinks one of my teachers who i have a thing for has a thing for me...

E.g Yesterday:

Him: You know if your sat alone for lunch i'd be happy to sit with you everyday.
Me: Really?
Him: Yes, come to my office at 1:05 and we'll walk down together.
Me: Thanks, it's a date then, *i laughed jokingly*
Him: *winks and licks his lips at me*


And the other day:

Me: Morning sir!
Him: Morning, how're you?
Me: Fine thanks you?
Him: I'm fine, a little pissed off but i'm fine.
Me: Why what's up?
Him: All this paper work and marking has been driving me crazy and to be honest you're the only thing I come to school for.
Me: ... *blush*
Him: *puts arm around me* See ya later.

Me: Bye..



I was like o_O he is so hott and I am just fail!!

Is he trying to wind me up?
That. is. disgusting.

I can't help but cringe at the thought of how this conversation went... that teacher is definitely in the wrong profession if he's gonna pull off shit like that and should be reprimanded. Guy sounds like he's the type that would probably have a stash of child porn or some shit in the hidden folders of his laptop. And before anybody else says it, he deserves the...

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Old 2009-09-16, 19:13   Link #1616
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I just had a recent breakup. We were pretty good friends before we started going out.

Before we started going out, she needed a place to move into, so I offered since my friend and I were in need of a new roomate. She was more than happy to move in with us. She had a boyfriend at the time so I really didn't think much of it, I did find her attractive and liked her personality, but that was all. Then two months later, she had broke up with him and got close to me. I was starting to fall in love with her every moment we were together. Had many of my firsts...*cough* and eventually started officially going out.

3 days later she said she can't do it.

I felt used. She had recently broken up with her boyfriend and moved onto me, but didn't want to go out or anything. Like she needed someone there, anyone to be close with, didnt matter who. I just happen to be there since I was living with her.

It's been two weeks now and I'm having the worst experience ever. Things have not been the same since the break up, its just awkward and I just hate how quickly everything changed. Since we are living together it's been hard to get over her. So as of now Im on a trip of "self preservation" or whatever. Been driving around, staying in hotels, friends houses n such. Havent been home for awhile. It's ok, I'm not sure it'll fix the problem, but I felt like I needed to do something out of the ordinary, something I would never do. I just "hate" her right now, when I know I shouldn't. I can't help it. Hopefully it'll all work out for the both of us. She's a great person and I don't want to lose her as a friend, but I can't stand being around her.

Just something to throw out there to you guys since Im bored in this hotel room.
I'd say ask her to leave, least for the current time, tell her straight up how you feel, how much this hurts to have the memories of being together, of sharing your firsts and to have to see her everyday, reminding you of what you've lost?
You dont have to say it maliciously or anything, but that's just pure torture. For whatever reasons she cannot be with you, you cannot share the same space with her, at least not for the meantime.

Yeah I see ya frowning at me, but you offered her room to assist, you didn't make the first moves, or take advantage it seems going by your statement, however you were both incredibly emotionally vunerable and still are, you need space, however you actually have rights to regain that space from her.

Unfortunately, you were her rebound and it sucks to hell. But if she's smart, she'll be well aware of that and if she denies it, drive it home to her. You're hurting cause of this and only wish her happiness, but trust me, being away will allow you to have some moments of peace and some times to heal without a physical, constant reminder.

As for keeping mates, tell her that too. Be it a month of being apart and healing in your own ways, keep in touch, talk about your feelings or just talk about the day in small doses, see how you get on.

Thus be my two pence, if she sees you in pain as much as she is without being angry or anything and the facts are laid out as clear as day, whether she meant to or not, she's in the wrong and should take a little responsibility for that to make things easier for the both of you.

Thus be my two pence, good luck.
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Old 2009-09-16, 21:23   Link #1617
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I'd say ask her to leave, least for the current time, tell her straight up how you feel, how much this hurts to have the memories of being together, of sharing your firsts and to have to see her everyday, reminding you of what you've lost?
You dont have to say it maliciously or anything, but that's just pure torture. For whatever reasons she cannot be with you, you cannot share the same space with her, at least not for the meantime.

Yeah I see ya frowning at me, but you offered her room to assist, you didn't make the first moves, or take advantage it seems going by your statement, however you were both incredibly emotionally vunerable and still are, you need space, however you actually have rights to regain that space from her.

Unfortunately, you were her rebound and it sucks to hell. But if she's smart, she'll be well aware of that and if she denies it, drive it home to her. You're hurting cause of this and only wish her happiness, but trust me, being away will allow you to have some moments of peace and some times to heal without a physical, constant reminder.

As for keeping mates, tell her that too. Be it a month of being apart and healing in your own ways, keep in touch, talk about your feelings or just talk about the day in small doses, see how you get on.

Thus be my two pence, if she sees you in pain as much as she is without being angry or anything and the facts are laid out as clear as day, whether she meant to or not, she's in the wrong and should take a little responsibility for that to make things easier for the both of you.

Thus be my two pence, good luck.
Thanks for the advice and the time to read my story.

So some things happened 2 hours after I posted this. I was going through my facebook and saw her status "Anyone in need of a new apartment? bla bla bla" I couldn't believe what I saw. I was angry, upset, and disappointed that she was serious about it. Those were my first thoughts and I immediately without hesitation drove down to where she worked, I just knew she would be there.

I stormed into the restaurant, walked into the back where the cooks are, found her, and gave her a big hug, "please....don't leave. Don't move out"

Her: I have to, you left the house, thats pretty much saying you dont want me to be there, its obvious that it's hard on you that Im there.

me: Sure that may be, but thats something Ill have to deal with, the last thing I want is for you to leave the house.

Her: why? Its best for you, why do you want me to stay?

me: Your a good roomate, and a greater friend.

sadly, I started to tear up because I knew if she left, we wouldnt be friends anymore, thats just how it is with breakups. Living in the same house is an opportunity for us to share stories, know whats going on in each others lives and so forth. It's maybe true that it would be the for the best for me, its a fact. But Ill take that challenge and Ill make sure I overcome it if it means for her to stay. Call me stupid, naive, retarded, but if I did this without thinking, then I must be serious about it.

Based off from a true story that occured about 2 hours ago :P.
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Old 2009-09-16, 21:34   Link #1618
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My friend thinks one of my teachers who i have a thing for has a thing for me...

E.g Yesterday:

Him: You know if your sat alone for lunch i'd be happy to sit with you everyday.
Me: Really?
Him: Yes, come to my office at 1:05 and we'll walk down together.
Me: Thanks, it's a date then, *i laughed jokingly*
Him: *winks and licks his lips at me*


And the other day:

Me: Morning sir!
Him: Morning, how're you?
Me: Fine thanks you?
Him: I'm fine, a little pissed off but i'm fine.
Me: Why what's up?
Him: All this paper work and marking has been driving me crazy and to be honest you're the only thing I come to school for.
Me: ... *blush*
Him: *puts arm around me* See ya later.
Me: Bye..



I was like o_O he is so hott and I am just fail!!

Is he trying to wind me up?
....why are you such a weirdo magnet, Imouto-chan?

Anyway, I concur with everyone else up to now. This ain't anything good, so you should damn well keep your distance from this pedobear before you end up doing something you'll regret. And if he becomes too persistent, keep your SMACK FOR GREAT JUSTICE ready in hand.

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Thanks for the advice and the time to read my story.

So some things happened 2 hours after I posted this. I was going through my facebook and saw her status "Anyone in need of a new apartment? bla bla bla" I couldn't believe what I saw. I was angry, upset, and disappointed that she was serious about it. Those were my first thoughts and I immediately without hesitation drove down to where she worked, I just knew she would be there.

I stormed into the restaurant, walked into the back where the cooks are, found her, and gave her a big hug, "please....don't leave. Don't move out"

Her: I have to, you left the house, thats pretty much saying you dont want me to be there, its obvious that it's hard on you that Im there.

me: Sure that may be, but thats something Ill have to deal with, the last thing I want is for you to leave the house.

Her: why? Its best for you, why do you want me to stay?

me: Your a good roomate, and a greater friend.

sadly, I started to tear up because I knew if she left, we wouldnt be friends anymore, thats just how it is with breakups. Living in the same house is an opportunity for us to share stories, know whats going on in each others lives and so forth. It's maybe true that it would be the for the best for me, its a fact. But Ill take that challenge and Ill make sure I overcome it if it means for her to stay. Call me stupid, naive, retarded, but if I did this without thinking, then I must be serious about it.

Based off from a true story that occured about 2 hours ago :P.

So. Many. Uses.

I don't know if you're going to listen to me anyway, but all I gotta say is, your next destination is Heartbreak Hotel, bud. It's darn clear that neither of you are ready for each other yet, so the wisest course of action would have been to make a clean break for it.

Well. What's done is done. Update us on how it goes.
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Old 2009-09-16, 21:38   Link #1619
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My friend is in a similar situation, and I believe you should listen to the people here. It's not worth your trouble, pain, and I don't think it's worth his career, though I do not know this man.

Maybe he is just trying to wind you up, but if not... :E
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Old 2009-09-16, 22:06   Link #1620
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Thanks for the advice and the time to read my story.

So some things happened 2 hours after I posted this. I was going through my facebook and saw her status "Anyone in need of a new apartment? bla bla bla" I couldn't believe what I saw. I was angry, upset, and disappointed that she was serious about it. Those were my first thoughts and I immediately without hesitation drove down to where she worked, I just knew she would be there.

I stormed into the restaurant, walked into the back where the cooks are, found her, and gave her a big hug, "please....don't leave. Don't move out"

Her: I have to, you left the house, thats pretty much saying you dont want me to be there, its obvious that it's hard on you that Im there.

me: Sure that may be, but thats something Ill have to deal with, the last thing I want is for you to leave the house.

Her: why? Its best for you, why do you want me to stay?

me: Your a good roomate, and a greater friend.

sadly, I started to tear up because I knew if she left, we wouldnt be friends anymore, thats just how it is with breakups. Living in the same house is an opportunity for us to share stories, know whats going on in each others lives and so forth. It's maybe true that it would be the for the best for me, its a fact. But Ill take that challenge and Ill make sure I overcome it if it means for her to stay. Call me stupid, naive, retarded, but if I did this without thinking, then I must be serious about it.

Based off from a true story that occured about 2 hours ago :P.
Just a few curious questions. Did she atleast look sad or upset when she saw you tear up after saying that? I'm guessing she decided to stay with you aswell?
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