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Originally Posted by Kusa-San
Hum i understand what you mean but i have some problem with that. I'm someone who really don't like lying and when i lie i'm feeling bad about it. So if i must say a compliment to an old woman i will say that "she is charming for her age" but i won't only say "she is charming" because it's a half lie for me. I think you can be polite and honest at the same time even if sometimes it's difficult.
Some people said that politeness and respect is not the same but i don't agree here. Politeness is, by extension, a sort of respect. When you say "Hello" to a
bus driver, you're not only saying "hello". You're showing him that you respect him and respect what he did. And i think it's something very important that people must do.
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I won't say that people shall not lie. But it depends on the situation. Few examples:
- If a man that scares me ask me if I have already a BF, I will reply yes, in hope that that man will stop to talk to me. It's a lie, but in this particular case, I think it would be the best choice.
- Now on normal and/or serious topics with normal people, I don't think there is a need to lie just to be polite. I guess the other people personnality. If it's somebody who is, for example, susceptible, or if I fail at guessing said personnality, I will handle him/her with kid gloves. No need to be rough, or to lie. Just be gently.
Being polite doesn't equal lying.