I do understand where you're coming from; I myself have some personal ticks for some series that may or may not seem fair. They're all minor details but they can annoy you.
I can't make you like a story you don't like; in the end, I'm only asking not to judge the author because of the story he chooses to write, I don't think that's too unreasonable. I mean, we Anime fans already have a Stigma, no need to discriminate each other further
Secondly, I cannot make you like a character you don't like; but I think you shouldn't judge a character base solely on his interaction and relationship with the opposite gender. If this was only a romance/comedy series, I would have nothing to say because that's ALL you have to judge him with. But because this is also an action series, you should also take into account how well he performs under fire.