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Originally Posted by cheyannew
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Spoiler for unrelated, but F ood For Thought:
Though I am not against Child Protection Services or such of these organisations, I am pretty much against 80% of the people they hire. Why? They tend to hire people with academic rather than experiential qualifications. It should only be considered as a last resort.
Back then I had a family counsellor for some time sent by my school. I managed to drive her away by lodging a police report and accusing her of unnecessary trespassing. By some dirty means, as supported by my family members and me, it went through. My parents are just angry almost 24/7 because of the straight chain series of Asian Economic Crisis, my father's loss of his job followed by 911. Rather than her coming to our house and given idiotic and unrealistic solutions such as "settle down with your family", "rebuild family before your job" and discouraging my mother to take a full time job, we went the other way and sacrificed some family time so all of us can survive in the turbulent times.
A family does not need to stick together by being together physically, it is the thought from the bottom of the heart that counts.
From your advice, it seems that you need experience from dealing with REAL serious and extreme cases, like which the child is pregnant and the father runs away, seriously injures/kills someone in school, hardcore drug/sex addict, part of a large gang (includes the situation in which you get beaten up), etc. I haven't seen any of the previously mentioned ones, but as a person who wants to help others, sometimes you have to be part of the horde, then find out each and every of their grievances. Only then will counselling REALLY work, of course, coupled with time and spirit to turn people around. Dying for such a cause isn't that bad if you have nothing to live for other than their future well-being
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Helping another is a free-spirited endeavor. You don't need to be part of any organisation to do such a thing. IMO, this kind of thing doesn't work if you have numbers of people, rather it works if you have connections, tactics, resources (both illegal and legal) and a healthy dose of luck. You have to literally sacrifice a limb and a leg before you achieve success.
That isn't even called honest. A friend who counselled me once said the following :
He was right in knocking sense into my head. That is what I call brutal honesty.
Anyway from your paragraph he is starting to overreact a little already. Airsoft guns are not dangerous unless they are fired into the eye or ear. I am not being insensitive, but this might be a little bit getting towards the orange or yellow zone. Like I said, play on his strengths, and Claeis offered some good airsoft advice.
I am still suspecting bullying or sociophobia for one. He wouldn't play CS at home if he doesn't have enough friends that drag him out to play in LAN shops. From what I know there are 2 kinds of hardcore gamers :
1. Soloist hardcore
They prefer to play alone. Nuff said. A large number of this kind have some sort of social disability like low EQ and such that prevents them from effectively communicating with others (or so called communicate in a mature way, which is totally politically correct and totally bullshit if you ask me).
2. Team hardcore
They play with the same group over and over again, then go out there to challenge others. Is good and bad in some way. If your brother is in this, pray hard that none of them take drugs or engage in casual sex. Getting into trouble in school is fine, boys will forever be boys.
P.S If it is bullying, you will have a tough time in your hands. Are you willing to stand outside the school gate with some friends with metal bars in your hands to protect him and tail him, or are you just going to call the police?