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Originally Posted by Ledgem
There is a sort of theory among males which states that once you meet a girl, you have a limited period of time before you are essentially tossed into the "friends box." In other words, once the period of time is up, the girl will only ever see you as a friend. You won't have a very good chance, if any chance at all, of ever being seen as more than that. The period of time depends on the girl and your circumstances.
There are exceptions, of course. However, I have asked a few girls (not a statistically relevant number for this to apply to most girls for certain) and they stated that it's more or less true - once they know you well enough, they make a decision in their mind and either sort you into an interest that could be elevated, or just friends.
It doesn't mean that you should give up on relationship hopes if you've known a girl for a long time. Just be aware of it.
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I think it's also a cultural thing. My Japanese uncles tell me that relationships in Japan usually start off as friendship. The girl and boy hang around for a while, become good friends, and eventually become a couple. I was completely surprised to hear this at first, as it was completely contrary to prevailing American attitudes, but I feel like that the Japanese way makes more sense.