Dating

[ChainLegacy]

Why not? Sounds like it could be fun and interesting, but yeah, don't expect anything serious from that.

[synaesthetic]

Originally Posted by ChainLegacy

Why not? Sounds like it could be fun and interesting, but yeah, don't expect anything serious from that.

Not to mention profitable. ^^;

[RadiantBeam]

Originally Posted by Crusader

Another update on my situation

I believe i'm over my crush, I just said forget it. As others have said there are plenty of fish in the sea. However on my birthday, my mutul friend told me she was asking questions about me, he says she wanted him to call me to see what i was doing, but he didn't. I feel that she's interested, but if she has a boyfriend, and me being the coward i am, don't want to step into another situation were physical harm could be induced. So i just said i was going to leave it alone.

Strangely enough, Another co worker confessed her feelings about me, and i was floored I saw the signs though. She's 40 and i just turned 23, i have never considered a puma, all that appealing, but i find her attractive very attractive. Further more, i can be a gold digger at the same time cause she makes several digits more than me on her pay check. okay that was a joke. My only worry is the co worker she told is the CNN of people's personal business. I think i'll pursue this one because i don't have much going on, but i'll play this one close to he chest.

This is seriously giving me a bad vibe. I don't think you should do it, to be perfectly honest. It's a major age difference and she might be looking for something very different from what you have in mind, not to mention what might happen if people find out about it.

[Gin]

Originally Posted by Crusader

I feel that she's interested, but if she has a boyfriend, and me being the coward i am, don't want to step into another situation were physical harm could be induced. So i just said i was going to leave it alone.

Yeah, getting into fights over girls is lame.

Originally Posted by Crusader

Strangely enough, Another co worker confessed her feelings about me, and i was floored I saw the signs though. She's 40 and i just turned 23, i have never considered a puma, all that appealing, but i find her attractive very attractive. Further more, i can be a gold digger at the same time cause she makes several digits more than me on her pay check. okay that was a joke. My only worry is the co worker she told is the CNN of people's personal business. I think i'll pursue this one because i don't have much going on, but i'll play this one close to he chest.

Go for it, you can break down gender barriers by staying home and letting her support you. It will be like moving back in with your parents, except not sad.

[Crusader]

Originally Posted by Mystique

For one the term is 'cougar' (if you mean middle aged sexy women), and hmm...
Two, it doesn't sound like the wisest of decisions or reasons to pursue this path to be honest.
'Just cause I don't have much going on'

Given her age and lifestage, i doubt it'd last very long to be honest, short of her perhaps looking for some fun with you, rather than a serious relationship?
How'd you feel about being a toyboy for a while?

I'm familiar with couger, but Puma is so much better in my opinion. However, I don't see a deep relationships between us. I am always a nice guy, and for my reward i get nothing, not even a decent lady, so I'm just gonna have fun with her. Hey this is actually one of my dreams coming true.

As for the other one she's mad about it, but i don't get it. She want's her cake and eat it too. My lust er love for her is turning into disappoitment espcially if she thinks i'm gonna wait for her.

Not to mention if you have to fight for someone's affection, you will always be fighting that battle as there is always someone better than you.

[Samari]

Unusual incident today. I'm on the bus on my way to see my girlfriend so we can turn in the lease papers for our new place. So I'm just drawing...drawing...drawing on my little sketch pad. This gorgeous, just goddess of a girl (Asian girl...international student I think) gets on the bus and happens to sit next to me. After taking a quick glance I just keep on drawing. Out of my peripheral vision I noticed she was watching me sketch a bit, which added a tiny bit of pressure to make sure my skills were up to par. After a while she comments that she really likes my pictures. I rebuttal by being quite modest, but thanking her for her encouraging comment.

Suddenly the bus gets really crowded (like a slave ship). I'm practically at my stop. There is an elderly man standing up in front of me, and I offer him my seat since I'm about to get off. Before he can reply this drunk ass homeless man adjacently standing groans that he wants to sit down because he is handicapped and entitled to a seat. I simply reply "Uhh...okay proceed..." I stand up to let him sit. As he tries to squeeze his way through the crowd, he gets to my seat, and just rudely sits down and starts jabbering to the girl about her not giving him enough space or some BS like that...(you could just tell he was a homeless crazy asshole) and also threatening her. I immediately start yelling at him to leave her alone. The entire bus goes silent. There had to have been 70 packed people on that thing. He stops for a second, but then starts again and I do the same thing (honestly I felt like some enraged parent). He stops and doesn't speak to her anymore. I get off the bus at my stop and so does he coincidentally. Before I get off I tell the girl to have a good day. And she gives me this dreamy look with a smile and basically says thank you in a shy manner. I tip down my aviator shades and go about my business. Probably the best icebreaker I've ever had...actually her inquiring about my drawing was good enough, but that entire episode made it hot and spicy. If I was single that would have been the jackpot of all opportunities.

[Mr.Raw]

You Get Rep For That! Keep up the good Work .. For the others As members, take an example to this guy

[Dextro]

Originally Posted by Godlike1889

You Get Rep For That! Keep up the good Work .. For the others As members, take an example to this guy

My nickname is Dextro and I approve of this message. That's some epic story up there, thumbs up!

[synaesthetic]

oh why did you not take off your glasses and put them back on whilst firing off a cheesy one-liner

YEAAAAAAAAAH

[Crusader]

Wish i could top that story, but i can't.

Anyhow, I saw my couger today, and she came up behind me and pinched my waist. Of course i nearly pee'd my pants because she startled me. Today i was wearing my tongue ring, and she just seemed so suprised by it. She giggled like a little school girl, and her face went red. I don't know what impression i gave her, but everytime i saw her afterwards, she just started blushing an giggling. On these encouters i never said a word merely giving a smile. I hadn't even made any real advances and i get this sort of reaction.

[Gin]

That's a much better story.

[Samari]

Originally Posted by Gin

That's not really that impressive of a story, the highlight of it (for me) was when you repeatedly yelled at a handicapped, mentally infirm, homeless man. Also, you didn't even ask her what her name was, which is pretty rude.


YEAAAAAAAH, I agree. That would have definitely made it a better story.

Why would I ask her her name? She started talking to me first. I was just minding my own business drawing. Do you honestly ask the name of every stranger you come into contact with? Especially the ones that talk to you first? I like how your logic works. Yes it was so rude of me not to ask the name of a stranger who started talking to me first. Besides, I have a girlfriend, and was on my way to see her. After yelling at that guy there was really no time to "have a little" chat with the girl...as I was getting off the bus. Doesn't matter if the guy "claimed" he was handicapped. He was clearly demented and was scaring the girl. Damn I can't believe all of that went over your head. If you are going to try and rain on someone's parade at least do a good job, seeeesh. You're just coming off as a "hater" who clearly didn't read what I wrote. Or at least didn't understand something not very complicated.

[Samari]

Originally Posted by Gin

I'm sorry, I thought this was a thread about dating and romance, so I thought your story was about how that girl was flirting with you. If you didn't exchange names or phone numbers then it doesn't really seem like she was that into you. I will stop here because I'm not trying to start an argument. Sorry for 'raining on your parade'

Really...if I had started another thread just to post this story, I think it would get shut down due to the strict rules of this forum. This thread was close enough. I'll break it down for you YET AGAIN, as to what happened between us:

- I was drawing on the bus and an attractive girl happened to get on.

- She sits next to me. I keep drawing.

- After a few minutes she makes a comment to me that my drawings are very nice. I tell her that I'm not at the level where I want to be yet, but thanks for the encouraging comment. In a very modest manner.

- The bus gets crowded pretty much right after. I pack my things because my stop is close by.

- The altercation happens.

- My stop comes up right after the altercation and I say a quick goodbye and head to my girlfriends place. There was practically no time within any of that bus ride to exchange names and or numbers. And there was no reason to in my case as I'm not single.

The end. Honestly I can't believe I had to dumb this down this much for you to comprehend. Everyone else clearly understood...and didn't bitch about it not being in the right thread or whatever. The entire point of the story was about how good of an icebreaker this would have been if I was single in the first place. I probably would have continued to converse with her after she talked to me instead of just continuing drawing...if I was single. It's not even the fact that you didn't like my story, could care less about that...it's just the fact that you clearly came across as a douchebag trying to start something for no reason...and you did a terrible job even at that.

[RadiantBeam]

Hello all, I come again seeking advice. Same guy as before.

Okay, so... I'll admit, I kind of chickened out on talking to him and have more or less avoided him ever since the year ended and I started college, which wasn't so hard since he chose to stay home. The last few days however I've been home for Thanksgiving break and won't be back at school until Monday.

Today he called me to wish me a Happy Thanksgiving. I sent him a text message reply (too cold?) and turned off my phone after that, so I don't know if he responded. He seems to have stopped bugging my family about the whole incident, but I get the feeling he's still looking for me.

Now, here's my problem: one of my friends from high school wants to hang out, which isn't so bad, except he's a mutual friend of me and my former love interest. My biggest fear is that I'll pull up at his house and Marco (the guy I loved and gave up on) will be there, forcing a confrontation. So what am I supposed to do?

I know sooner or later I have to honestly talk to him and let him know the door is closed; we'll never have a relationship, not after what happened between us. But at the same time, I'm scared and want to hope it'll just die off on its own.

[whitepearl]

I've a bad feeling about this.

As he is a mutual friend of his, he will find out. And I don't think he will take it kindly.

I think you do have to have that talk with him to remind him the door is closed...or perhaps just hope he can find out on his own and resign to that fact.

[RadiantBeam]

Saw him today in the food store while I was shopping with my mother, but he was so busy chatting with one of his friends that he didn't even notice I was there. I probably should have said something to him then, but I didn't want to call attention to myself unless he noticed me on his own.

[Rodolfo]

Hi! RadiantBeam

I think in the near future you'll have more of these casual encounters that are perfect to do a move in the love's chess.

It's ok you prefer he notices you on his owm, but sometimes you have to go around near him with an attitude like he isn't there.

And It dosen't matters he's shy or not I'm sure if You give him a lolita's-little sexy-one side- but discrete SMILE you'll take his mind and he'll start thinking what's up, this type of smile is a powerful weapon from yours... girls and us men fall with this hahaha!.

Good Luck!

[RadiantBeam]

He's not someone I want to date. He's the guy who broke my heart during our senior year of high school, and I still have a hard time talking to him face to face. I know I have to because he's definitely interested in me now, but I want nothing to do with him at this point in time.

[Mr.Raw]

Tease him with your beautiful smile , make him suffer

But seriously, Do you still have feelings for him too? Because that would be a great chance

[RadiantBeam]

Do I still have feelings for him? No, those died a long time ago. I can barely even stand being around him as just a friend right now. I just want to get away from him and get him out of my life as soon as possible.