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@Samari & RadiantBeam,
That's the thing, usually when she asks me to "tell me something", she's usually expecting me to tell her about something that happened today (we usually save the deeper stuff for the...ahem, more intimate moments. ). Thing is, I don't usually have a lot going on in my daily life; I'm the kind who prefers to relax rather than to go out of my way to occupy myself. That's part of the reason why I don't feel like I usually have very much to tell her. Quote:
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Hmmm. It's been a great first few months, but I'm afraid our dissimilarities are starting to catch up with us. |
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2009-12-03, 22:06 | Link #2363 | |
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2009-12-03, 23:07 | Link #2364 | |
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I guess it depends how on how much your into her, but perhaps you could get a little more involved in what she likes, something you know little about, and ask her to explain things to you. It may make you feel silly, but that could be one thing or You could try to doing things that neither of you are really interested in and maybe develop a fondness for it. Have you guys ever really discussed what you want out of this relationship or relationships in general?
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2009-12-03, 23:38 | Link #2365 |
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I agree with Crusade on this. Try to take interest in the things she tells you about or likes. And tell her about what you like so she and you have something interesting to talk about. And taking an interest in what she likes can be fun and enjoyable as well.
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2009-12-04, 04:56 | Link #2366 | ||||
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Anyway, instead of pointing your finger at me as the cause of your lack of french cultures If it can help you, you can PM or come on msn if you want to ask anything about France and the French to Teacher Narona~~ Quote:
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2009-12-04, 12:55 | Link #2367 | |
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By which, I mean I'm not as much of a French-otaku as she is. I hope that makes my meaning clearer.
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Joking aside, you're right. I guess I still have some way to go where fixing my defeatist attitude is concerned. |
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2009-12-04, 16:07 | Link #2368 | |
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2009-12-04, 22:23 | Link #2369 | |
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That's why I don't know. Is this something to worry about, or is this just normal? |
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2009-12-04, 22:57 | Link #2370 |
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If you aren't willing to talk to her about yourself when she gets curious and asks about it, then yes, it can become a problem. It's perfectly normal to be nervous about talking about yourself or your day, but it's part of what makes a relationship work, being able to just talk about your day even if you don't think it's interesting. If it's something you can't talk about on a consistent basis, then it becomes a problem because she thinks you aren't willing to open up to her.
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2009-12-05, 01:00 | Link #2371 | |
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2009-12-05, 07:41 | Link #2372 |
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That's somewhat common in relationships. Boost your confidence and tell her what you can about yourself. And if your not too sure about what you want to say talk about a recent movie or about what you watched on the news, anything.
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2009-12-05, 08:30 | Link #2373 | ||
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I don't really understand what makes you so defeatist. You say those months were great, so what is it? What do you feel (that's what is important)? |
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She's a cultured lass. Sometimes I feel like such a plebian next to her. XD Quote:
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2009-12-05, 09:07 | Link #2375 | ||
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Joking aside, you should not worry so much about that (I say that because apparently she didn't show anything that could make you think that she is annoyed about you not knowing as many things as her). And you still have the time to learn a lot of things. Why not asking your GF to tell you even more things about french and France? No need to be a pro to show some interest in what she likes. |
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2009-12-05, 09:37 | Link #2376 | |
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That aside, thanks for this piece for advice. I'll try to take this more optimistic view towards my plebian status in relation to her. |
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2009-12-05, 10:04 | Link #2377 | |
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You do really not know anything that she doesn't know yet? Is she doing the same studies as you? Last edited by Narona; 2009-12-05 at 10:25. |
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2009-12-05, 10:31 | Link #2378 | |
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And no, she's majoring in Communications and New Media, while I major in Sociology. That works to my benefit, actually; I get to tell her things she never suspected in the workings of human society, and that's one of the few instances when I'm sure I can get to impress her just a bit. |
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2009-12-05, 10:39 | Link #2379 | ||
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Anyway, what about asking her? Like "what do you mean by *uh huh*?" Don't tell me you fear women's reactions that much ;( Joke aside, I think I know what you mean. You're scared that she might think that "you're pointing out the fact that she doesn't understand english that well" and so that you belittle her. Am I wrong? Just be careful about what you say, and how you say it. Quote:
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