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2008-01-10, 22:30 | Link #404 | |
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2008-01-11, 13:24 | Link #407 | |
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Join Date: Feb 2004
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Well, hard one, trying to compete against dreams is always very difficult. There is so much more then just the kissing action involved. Her feromones, serotonines and dopamines won't appear so suddenly, so you better prepare your first kiss. Think about something romantic... if you know on what she reacts sensitive (e.g. whispering in her ear and kissing her neck ~ I guess you should know what she likes - I can only guess). Be gentle, don't rush things... well kissing itself (its different, sometimes the tongue contact and mouth to mouth action isn't the most important thing... it might be more important how you hold her.. e.g. one hand hip, the other neck and bringing her in a position where she is leaning a little bit backwards - but you must hold her gentle yet tight, since you do not want her to fall ... thats again just a guess (happens that some girls do not like the unballanced position... might be sign she does not trust you or your skills/strength )... now tongue contact... don't force her your tongue into her mouth!!! ... you maybe start close to her lips... well I guess you will be able to read the signs and I need not explain in detail how to play or when to increase the contact... maybe, if you are lucky that ends in a frenzy... but I somehow doubt it... first kiss ). Most important, if you always think what to do next, in order to do it right, chances are high you'll fail. In that very moment it should be hard for you to keep a clear thought anyway, so if you want to keep something in your mind, then not to jump the gun on kissing. First amandment is, you both need to feel comfortable. There is no point in one of you having fun and the other being irritated or something alike. Though you should feel that when she is irritated, thats pretty obvious, since she will be rather defensive and stiff in a way. Look into her eyes before you start to kiss her, but not like you want to eat her... more like you would look at the christmas presents under the christmas tree, when you were young. Now I gave you so much advice, that it must fail
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2008-01-11, 13:25 | Link #408 | |
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sorry, couldn't resist...it's very easy, you just go ahead and do it when the moment is right for that first kiss, it should be light at first, and if you sense she liked it, then go for the kill, errr, kiss longer, open your mouth, kiss around it, just experiment and see what works! Also with the first time, hopefully she'll understand if it's not perfect, kissing seems to be one of those things that improves a lot with practice... |
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2008-01-11, 13:55 | Link #409 | |
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2008-01-11, 13:58 | Link #410 | |
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: In my fantasy dreamworld called Clannad
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But anyways, I've never kissed a girl before, so I'm new to this stuff. I'll try to just go with the flow, and go in when the mood is right. I'll try to forget about it, I'm probably over-thinking it all. As Jinto said, I'll try to not plan...
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2008-01-11, 14:29 | Link #411 | ||
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Join Date: Sep 2007
Location: Utah
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Other things to keep in mind... -Asking if you can kiss her isn't necessarily a bad thing, but it can somewhat ruin the moment, so if you're pretty sure she wants you to kiss her, just go ahead and do it. (If this results in her turning her head so you get her cheek or hair, you probably should have asked first.) -I'd say using your tongue at all on the first kiss would be a definite NO. It's another step up from "regular" kissing, and it's best to build up to it a little, especially if you're inexperienced--otherwise it could really put a girl off. (My dad has a story from his college days.... On their very first date, the girl grabbed him and proceeded to stick her tongue halfway down his throat. Needless to say, he did not ask her out again.) That's not to say that you can't go ahead with it, if she indicates she'd prefer it, but it's best not to take the chance of making her feel uncomfortable. -She might not like it right away. It could be because you're not very good yet (if this is the case, hopefully she will tell you, and maybe suggest that you practice kissing together ), it might just be because it's not how she imagined it would be (this happened with me), or maybe it's because she was all tense and nervous about it (more likely to happen if you ask her for permission first), or it could just take some time for her to react. After my first kiss, I felt nothing really--but the next day my brain felt all melted and weird, a little like when I went into shock after falling off my bike and opening up my knee, and I couldn't stop thinking about him... -Real kissing isn't like movie kissing. Find what works for you both, and don't pay attention to what it looks like. Nobody who might see you will be caring how you kiss--and after all, they're not the one you're kissing, anyway. Quote:
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2008-01-11, 15:38 | Link #413 | |
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Before I ever kissed someone I was also wondering how it would go and if I'd meet up to the expecations etc... When the occasion presented itself it just happened. Nothing complicated and nothing you need to do homework for :3 I was relieved when my partner said he liked it |
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2008-01-11, 15:49 | Link #414 | |
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Not only that, even if she knows you even after she breaks up with her bf, it's best not to date her either. From what I heard, Rebounded relationships don't last long. But don't fret, man. "Plenty of fishes in the sea." I'm sure you'll find someone that's single and not just want you to help her with her homework. @Deathreape89: You're lucky to be her first kiss. In relationships, we guys often suffer from the sins of the girls' ex-boyfriends. As long as you follow ChibiMenos' advice, I don't think it'll be that hard to make her feel like "'wow!'" Just choose the right moment, and right location, and right mood, you'll be fine. And despite what Fome said, I think Chrissie is right about the ladder must being V-shaped. If you were higher on the V-shaped ladder, it would just be a lot harder to get across and the fall would even be much higher and more painful. |
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2008-01-12, 12:15 | Link #415 | |
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So if you have a great first time, good for you! If not, practice makes perfect.
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2008-01-12, 22:12 | Link #416 |
Clannad Preacher
Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: In my fantasy dreamworld called Clannad
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Well, we kissed today. Was only kisses to the cheek, but we're getting there ^^ Also accidentally touched her breasts...(hand bumped into them)glad her parents didn't kill me :P
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2008-01-15, 20:10 | Link #418 |
Clannad Preacher
Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: In my fantasy dreamworld called Clannad
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It's going good so far (Thanks, bluejazz), rather stuck on making a "pet name"/couple nickname for her, though. Her name is Destiny, and I can't think of anything to call her >.<
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2008-01-15, 21:13 | Link #419 | |
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Join Date: Sep 2007
Location: Utah
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Seriously, it's not like a necessity or something to have a nickname, even though it can be nice...and Destiny is a pretty name. I'd think that if that's what she goes by, she wouldn't mind you using it. |
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2008-01-16, 00:14 | Link #420 |
Yurippe is mai waifu
Join Date: Sep 2006
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I decided that I should probably move onto someone else. The girl I liked NEVER contacts me first, meaning she probably never saw me as more than a friend in the first place. Also, we have VERY different interests and very different friends. Even if we did have a relationship, it probably wouldn't have lasted long.
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