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Think about it. If you break up with him, you're essentially saying, "I don't trust you enough to be honest with me, and I'd rather go with my gut than believe what you're saying." If he says he wasn't flirting, accept that he wasn't flirting and move on. Rather than looking for opportunities to convict your boyfriend, you should trust that he'll stay faithful until you're absolutely positive otherwise. As a side note, why do so many people think fervent denial equates to absolute guilt? Isn't it possible someone is denying something because, I don't know, they didn't do it?
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2011-12-31, 09:26 | Link #9942 | |
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2011-12-31, 19:10 | Link #9944 | |
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2012-01-02, 01:47 | Link #9945 |
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You know it's REALLY HARD to give advice on this cause we'd have to see it. Everyone has their own picture and everyone has a different gague if you will. Easy there.
(to lighten the mood) also I have to ask is love really like this? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gOo8aBv2tEI |
2012-01-02, 17:20 | Link #9946 |
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A question for men :
Your best female friend VS. your girlfriend Which is more important? Would you satisfy your girlfriend's needs first or your best friend's?
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2012-01-02, 20:36 | Link #9949 |
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Really depends on the context. Girlfriend is pretty much a bestie with added bonuses. Most scenarios, I would prioritize my girlfriend over the female bestie. Very tricky though, speaking in a general sense. Like if both had a really bad day, girlfriend does come first. If I could get away with it though, I would set both of them up to talk about it while I go do my thing.
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2012-01-03, 00:54 | Link #9951 |
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Girlfriend's, obviously. As far as the difference goes, my best female friend is attractive and nice and likes a lot of the things I do, but her values, goals, and deeper personality ("issues," if you will) are completely at odds with what I'm looking for in a girlfriend. My girlfriend has all of the latter things, so while she may not quite be a knockout appearance-wise, I'd take her over my best female friend any day.
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2012-01-03, 15:57 | Link #9953 |
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Speaking of needs, a girlfriend has needs that only you can satisfy. Your best friend can find satisfaction within your common social circle, although it would really help if you were part of it as well. I've never been in this kind of situation, in my case I prioritize based on time - the early bird gets the worm, so if one or the other made plans first, she'll be the one I occupy.
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2012-01-16, 16:30 | Link #9955 |
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A lot of men, before courting a girl, usually ask, "Do you have a bf?" and if she answers "yes," they give up on her or try to forget her. The way I see it, giving up in this case is not a noble act but only confirms that their "love" for her is NOT true love, or not strong enough. To me, "noble" is when you accept your lover for who they are, both strengths and weaknesses. If she is married, then that's a different story..lol But for the dating stage, I personally believe that if you loves someone, Prove it. There's no such thing as "I sacrifice my happiness so you can be with him". Don't give up at the sight of a love rival. If you've lost or been owned badly by the rival, then it's time to give up, yes. On the other hand, some people think that you can be happy just by watching your love interest being happy; only selfish men would continue pursuing taken women. What's your take? Last edited by Hera; 2012-01-16 at 16:40. |
2012-01-16, 16:48 | Link #9956 | |
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2012-01-16, 17:02 | Link #9957 | |
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if you meant 'stuck with you but not happy', then that's not what I was talking about at all. I didn't say you don't give her a choice but until she's made her final decision, you shouldn't give up on her. |
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2012-01-16, 17:06 | Link #9958 | |
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2012-01-16, 17:24 | Link #9960 | |
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Is that really what you want?
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