2012-02-28, 15:34 | Link #10202 | ||
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Like that counselor said, she believes that's what men find attractive in women's appearance. By looking like that, you're already giving the signals to men that you want to attract attention. Whether men find you attractive or not, it certainly shows a welcoming intention to conversation and opportunity. My highschool prom date was the only female there who didn't wear make-up. I thought that was such a nice thing from her. ----------- Quote:
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2012-02-28, 16:08 | Link #10203 | |
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Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: The land of tempura
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And I'll also join the club of those who aren't particularly turned on by high heels or make up. I however do not mind seeing women using a slight heel or a very discrete make up from time to time but please ladies, don't overdo it.
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2012-02-28, 16:21 | Link #10204 |
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Join Date: Sep 2006
Location: Suburban DC
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Not to derail the convo (is that possible),
just had to get some things off my chest. Been at the online dating thing a little while and it's a thorough meh for me so far, besides Endless Soul, anyone else have any real strong opinons about it? It seems impossible to get through to people and have them respond to you, albiet these are for various reasons. Long story short, I'm becoming a bit unenthused with the notion of the "first impression" being a picture, a blurb you punch into a template and and what ever "witty and charming" line you use to attract attention. I think I prefer getting rejected better in real life (LOL). |
2012-02-28, 17:07 | Link #10206 | ||
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Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: USA
Age: 36
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So yes, online dating can very definitely work out. You just need to get lucky, I guess.
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2012-02-28, 17:56 | Link #10209 |
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Join Date: Sep 2008
Age: 38
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Hidden psychopaths in real life, too. Overall I'd consider them similar, with two key differences.
Online: People can take their time and overthink things, or just outright ignore them without so much as a second thought. There's also a high chance of short, curt responses that don't allow a conversation to continue. Granted this can happen in real life too, but it's more obvious there if it's due to non-interest or incompetence. Real Life: You don't have as much prior information about a person, including hobbies, likes, and dislikes. I'm at the point where I'm leaning toward the latter. |
2012-02-28, 18:14 | Link #10210 | |
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Join Date: May 2011
Location: Diagonally parked in a parallel universe.
Age: 56
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~looks at the key marks that are still on the door of his truck after all these years~ Endless "Finder of hidden psychopaths" Soul
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2012-02-29, 10:43 | Link #10212 |
The Opened Ultimate Gate
Join Date: Dec 2011
Age: 30
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this not really about "dating" but it about my friend's relationship so i think i should post here.
my friend is a Buddhist follower and have swear to devote her life for it. recently, a high ranked monk ask her to learn buddhism to a higher level but she will have to reject some "normal life" things. a friend of her, who unconditional helped her a lot in the past, absolutely against it and tell her she must stop. now she not sure who she should listen to, she said that if she agree to learn buddhism to a higher level it would be like she betrayed that friend of her, but if she listen to that friend it also like she betrayed the monk's trust and she really want learn buddhism more. she asked me for a solution but i can't think of any. what you think she should do in this situation?
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2012-02-29, 11:06 | Link #10213 |
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Join Date: Nov 2004
Location: USA
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Guys and gals,
A male friend of mine said don't care about whether that person is taken or not, if you like him, tell him, rather than keep it inside and regret. He has dated a lot of experience with dating and still he suggested such a thing. Your thoughts on that? |
2012-02-29, 11:10 | Link #10214 | |
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Join Date: Feb 2004
Location: Massachusetts
Age: 35
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A good idea is to try to be funny starting off as it loosens people up to the idea of talking to you. |
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2012-02-29, 11:14 | Link #10215 | |
Anime Cynic
Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: USA
Age: 36
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However, two things are at play here that both should be pretty strong: friendship and religious oaths. If her friend truly supports her unconditionally, that should continue even with this new direction. Friendship doesn't stop just because you don't agree with someone. At the same time, if you swear to dedicate your life to something, that's pretty darn important and NOT a decision to take lightly. You said your friend wants to pursue a higher level of Buddhism? Then that's what she should do. If it was something extreme like a suicide cult, absolutely not, but Buddhism isn't like that. If it's what she wants to do, it's what she should do.
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2012-02-29, 11:24 | Link #10217 | |
Megane girl fan
Join Date: May 2011
Location: Diagonally parked in a parallel universe.
Age: 56
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And I agree with G2K4, it's her life, it's her decision. Her friend should respect that. Endless "Inquisitor" Soul
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2012-02-29, 11:44 | Link #10219 | |
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Personally, it's not a good sign if my crush dumps her bf for me. That suggests many things about that person, I might not make a judgement on what kind of person she is, but none of those possibilities are traits I want my girlfriend to have. So generally, it's not a good idea. But gut moves and instinct do work a lot of time. The good side to letting your crush know is that he/she will keep her intimacy with his/her partner away from you so you aren't hurt as bad. Unless your crush is gonna be a bitch about it too, then it's just not worth it. Aggressive approach definitely increases your chances, most of us overly-thinking introverts can't get ourselves to do that however. |
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2012-02-29, 12:10 | Link #10220 | |
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Join Date: Nov 2004
Location: USA
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- if they're barely a stranger, tell them regardless - if they've been friends with you, shut your mouth? |
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