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Endless Soul · 2012-06-13, 15:35

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Originally Posted by Ruby Princess

Does anyone have any advice for how to date four guys at once without any of them finding out about each other? There's been plenty of times where I've dated two guys at once no problem, and three's a fun challenge, but four might be too tough for me.

Endless Soul: So, how will this end?
Kosh: IN FIRE!

Endless "Playing with fire" Soul

Ruby Princess · 2012-06-13, 18:13

I'm not a troll. ._. And as for the guys... ah...

Guy 1: The main boyfriend. We've been dating for a few years.
Guy 2: A person I've been seeing for about six months. He's the lighthearted playboy type, but he's getting serious enough that I could imagine him getting jealous if he knows I'm seeing other people.
Guy 3: A man I've been dating since October. He's started using the 'L word' recently. >.> Eep.
Guy 4: A person I've dated a few times this past month. He's so charming that I just couldn't help but go for him.

Six guys, MUAHAHAHAHA?

That's impressive! Sounds like I could learn a thing or two from her. ^^;

Endless Soul · 2012-06-13, 18:28

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Originally Posted by Ruby Princess

Guy 3: A man I've been dating since October. He's started using the 'L word' recently. >.> Eep.

Leprechauns?

Endless "Good guesser" Soul

Kirito · 2012-06-13, 18:34

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Originally Posted by Ruby Princess

Guy 3: A man I've been dating since October. He's started using the 'L word' recently. >.> Eep.

Wow!... that will be a problem!

Have you tried to play chicken with this one?

Rising Dragon · 2012-06-13, 18:41

Speaking from experience here, just one guy finding out about another guy in your life can get ugly, really, really quickly. Four is just asking for trouble. ._.

cyth · 2012-06-13, 19:04

LOL, why do I get the feeling like this thread condones dating multiple people at the same time without them knowing? Ruby Princess, obviously you've never been hurt enough in a relationship before to know what that shit does to ya when it gets out. As others have said, this shit turns ugly when it does.

Mr.Raw · 2012-06-13, 19:25

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Originally Posted by Ruby Princess

I'm not a troll. ._. And as for the guys... ah...

Spoiler for *snip*:

Wow seriously... 4 guys!? Though I understand poly's a bit this is going wayy too far for me

Unless it's just cheating we're talking about, then I can't help ya D:

Like another wise person already said...if they do find out, your life won't be as nice as it is now.

GDB · 2012-06-13, 20:16

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Originally Posted by Godlike1889

Wow seriously... 4 guys!? Though I understand poly's a bit this is going wayy too far for me

Unless it's just cheating we're talking about, then I can't help ya D:

Like another wise person already said...if they do find out, your life won't be as nice as it is now.

If the guys don't know, as is evident by her posts, then it's clearly just cheating. Can't even call them "open relationships" when you have to ask how to keep them a secret. 100% cheating. I'm not going to condone this at all by laughing it off, either. I held my tongue when I first read it, thinking maybe they all started around the same time. But you've been going out with each of them, not counting the fourth, for months or years each. They're obviously serious about you, and you're so not serious about them that, in addition to the fourth you've started, you think it'd be nice to get a fifth and sixth. It's just despicable, pure and simple.

Dextro · 2012-06-13, 20:53

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Originally Posted by GDB

If the guys don't know, as is evident by her posts, then it's clearly just cheating. Can't even call them "open relationships" when you have to ask how to keep them a secret. 100% cheating. I'm not going to condone this at all by laughing it off, either. I held my tongue when I first read it, thinking maybe they all started around the same time. But you've been going out with each of them, not counting the fourth, for months or years each. They're obviously serious about you, and you're so not serious about them that, in addition to the fourth you've started, you think it'd be nice to get a fifth and sixth. It's just despicable, pure and simple.

I'll have to join in as well: dating multiple people without having them knowing about each other is nothing more than cheating and can only end badly. While I won't pretend to be a Saint I would never even consider such a thing and am sorry to say that if it were to happen to me I would consider myself seriously insulted and would probably kick up quite a fuss.

My only advice to you is to break up with ALL of them asap. Nothing good can come out of it and lies have a tendency to get out so cut your losses and get out of that hole you dug yourself into. I have no idea how you should do it and can only hope that you manage to get out without them finding out what you've done.

I was going to apologise for being so harsh on my words but considering what you say you are doing I'll pass on that. Playing with other peoples emotions is despicable and that's all I can say.

ReaperxKingx · 2012-06-13, 21:05

Wow, um I think I agree with most of the folks here that this needs to end Ruby Princess. I used to hang out with a guy who played with women (yes I know you are a women, but similar situation) and it resulted in a miserable life though I had no pity for him. Best to end it now, before they find out themselves than you are in pretty much no longer in a hole, but the oceanic trench. Some guys can get pretty violent, and considering that you done this for a long time means you are pretty much in some deep trouble. All I got to say is end the relationships with the other guys and tell the guy you been with the longest the truth. Who knows he may stay with you or leave you, but you got rid of the guilt and if the guy has some patience he will stay with you(maybe not certain). Honestly, I really don't know how you got into this situation and I only thought this type of situations happens in fairy tales or manga. I usually don't condemn people base on their actions, but I say what you are doing is like playing kick ball in a minefield.

word sux · 2012-06-13, 21:31

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Originally Posted by Ruby Princess

I'm not a troll. ._. And as for the guys... ah...

Guy 1: The main boyfriend. We've been dating for a few years.
Guy 2: A person I've been seeing for about six months. He's the lighthearted playboy type, but he's getting serious enough that I could imagine him getting jealous if he knows I'm seeing other people.
Guy 3: A man I've been dating since October. He's started using the 'L word' recently. >.> Eep.
Guy 4: A person I've dated a few times this past month. He's so charming that I just couldn't help but go for him.

Six guys, MUAHAHAHAHA?

That's impressive! Sounds like I could learn a thing or two from her. ^^;

wow thats pretty heartless, ice cold. I feel bad for these guys...

Cold~as~Ice · 2012-06-13, 22:22

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Originally Posted by Ruby Princess

I'm not a troll. ._. And as for the guys... ah...

Guy 1: The main boyfriend. We've been dating for a few years.
Guy 2: A person I've been seeing for about six months. He's the lighthearted playboy type, but he's getting serious enough that I could imagine him getting jealous if he knows I'm seeing other people.
Guy 3: A man I've been dating since October. He's started using the 'L word' recently. >.> Eep.
Guy 4: A person I've dated a few times this past month. He's so charming that I just couldn't help but go for him.

Six guys, MUAHAHAHAHA?

That's impressive! Sounds like I could learn a thing or two from her. ^^;

looks like somebody wants attention. If your story was true then it should of been kept private and why ask in an anime forum out of all places?you are asking how to date 4 people whithout them finding out but it seems you are having no problems right now since you already dated all 4

hero147 · 2012-06-13, 22:45

Though I've never actually seen/finished school days...This scenario does remind me of it...

ReaperxKingx · 2012-06-13, 22:55

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Originally Posted by hero147

Though I've never actually seen/finished school days...This scenario does remind me of it...

Well if you had to think of a worse scenario in these types of a relationship, the ending of that would be School Days' ending. Though I wish for no one to experience that, stuff like that stays in the fiction world just like Japan's Dark pornography.

warita · 2012-06-14, 00:21

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Originally Posted by Ruby Princess

I'm not a troll. ._. And as for the guys... ah...

Guy 1: The main boyfriend. We've been dating for a few years.
Guy 2: A person I've been seeing for about six months. He's the lighthearted playboy type, but he's getting serious enough that I could imagine him getting jealous if he knows I'm seeing other people.
Guy 3: A man I've been dating since October. He's started using the 'L word' recently. >.> Eep.
Guy 4: A person I've dated a few times this past month. He's so charming that I just couldn't help but go for him.

Six guys, MUAHAHAHAHA?

That's impressive! Sounds like I could learn a thing or two from her. ^^;

I cant help but wonder, if you would find it equally amusing, if somebody you care about turned out to have 4 girlfriends besides you. And you posting about it casually in a forum is like asking for them to find out.

MUAHAHAHAHAHA · 2012-06-14, 01:32

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Originally Posted by Ruby Princess

Six guys, MUAHAHAHAHA?

That's impressive! Sounds like I could learn a thing or two from her. ^^;

Oh no, it's not impressive at all.I could never understand why she would go to such lengths. All I know is it seems fun to her. Like others have said, you never know the pain of being betrayed until you experience one. I am not in the position to condemn you, since I hardly know you and all, but do consider the consequences. Sure, it seems exciting atm, going out with 4 different guys and trying to keep it a secret but when the years go by, and time has consumed your beauty and youth, and you look back, I don't think you will find it something to be proud of. Sorry if my post seems harsh, but this is what you should expect when you post it in an online forum.

Kimidori · 2012-06-14, 01:54

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Originally Posted by tolido17

looks like somebody wants attention. If your story was true then it should of been kept private and why ask in an anime forum out of all places?you are asking how to date 4 people whithout them finding out but it seems you are having no problems right now since you already dated all 4

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Originally Posted by warita

I cant help but wonder, if you would find it equally amusing, if somebody you care about turned out to have 4 girlfriends besides you. And you posting about it casually in a forum is like asking for them to find out.

1. anime is niche, the chances those 4 are people who watch anime is slim let alone browse this forum.
2. who know who this Ruby Princess is in real life, it could be anyone.
3. she think 4 is too tough and ask for a better way to handle them.

warita · 2012-06-14, 02:16

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Originally Posted by Kimidori

1. anime is niche, the chances those 4 are people who

You would be surprised how easily things can get out of hand. It would be completely enough if she uses the same username for different websites, so all he has to do is to google her username out of curiosity and BANG, he stumbles upon a post were she asks for advice on dating people other than him.

Or some nosy class mate that could never stand her snoops around and sees the post and then cant help herlself and alerts one or more of her bfs.

But that wasnt the focal point of my post anyways. My main argument is, that if she was head over heels in love with some guy and then found out he is seeing other girls besides her and even considers it entertaining..... I am sure she wouldnt find it that amusing. But hey, the way she is going, thats gonna happen anyways I think.

Ruby Princess · 2012-06-14, 02:21

lol, I've never been faithful to any boyfriend I've ever had and I don't ever plan to be. You only live once, and I'm going to get as much pleasure out of this one life as I can. But I think I'll be leaving the thread now because I'm obviously not making any friends here. ^^; Sorry for the disruption.

Ascaloth · 2012-06-14, 02:23

I swear, this is probably one of the few rare places on the Internet where someone bragging with a story like Ruby Princess's can get chiding, reasoned responses from genuinely upstanding people, instead of an automatic derogatory 'slut' response. Hmmm.

2012-06-13, 18:41	Link #10365
Rising Dragon Goat Herder Author Join Date: Jun 2008 Age: 37	Speaking from experience here, just one guy finding out about another guy in your life can get ugly, really, really quickly. Four is just asking for trouble. ._. __________________

2012-06-13, 18:13	Link #10362
Ruby Princess Member Join Date: Mar 2012	I'm not a troll. ._. And as for the guys... ah... Guy 1: The main boyfriend. We've been dating for a few years. Guy 2: A person I've been seeing for about six months. He's the lighthearted playboy type, but he's getting serious enough that I could imagine him getting jealous if he knows I'm seeing other people. Guy 3: A man I've been dating since October. He's started using the 'L word' recently. >.> Eep. Guy 4: A person I've dated a few times this past month. He's so charming that I just couldn't help but go for him. Six guys, MUAHAHAHAHA? That's impressive! Sounds like I could learn a thing or two from her. ^^;

2012-06-13, 19:04	Link #10366
cyth Banned Join Date: Dec 2006 Age: 38	LOL, why do I get the feeling like this thread condones dating multiple people at the same time without them knowing? Ruby Princess, obviously you've never been hurt enough in a relationship before to know what that shit does to ya when it gets out. As others have said, this shit turns ugly when it does.

2012-06-13, 21:05	Link #10370
ReaperxKingx Emperor of the Expected Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Florida	Wow, um I think I agree with most of the folks here that this needs to end Ruby Princess. I used to hang out with a guy who played with women (yes I know you are a women, but similar situation) and it resulted in a miserable life though I had no pity for him. Best to end it now, before they find out themselves than you are in pretty much no longer in a hole, but the oceanic trench. Some guys can get pretty violent, and considering that you done this for a long time means you are pretty much in some deep trouble. All I got to say is end the relationships with the other guys and tell the guy you been with the longest the truth. Who knows he may stay with you or leave you, but you got rid of the guilt and if the guy has some patience he will stay with you(maybe not certain). Honestly, I really don't know how you got into this situation and I only thought this type of situations happens in fairy tales or manga. I usually don't condemn people base on their actions, but I say what you are doing is like playing kick ball in a minefield.

2012-06-13, 22:45	Link #10373
hero147 Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2008	Though I've never actually seen/finished school days...This scenario does remind me of it...

2012-06-14, 02:21	Link #10379
Ruby Princess Member Join Date: Mar 2012	lol, I've never been faithful to any boyfriend I've ever had and I don't ever plan to be. You only live once, and I'm going to get as much pleasure out of this one life as I can. But I think I'll be leaving the thread now because I'm obviously not making any friends here. ^^; Sorry for the disruption.

2012-06-14, 02:23	Link #10380
Ascaloth I don't give a damn, dude Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: In Despair Age: 38	I swear, this is probably one of the few rare places on the Internet where someone bragging with a story like Ruby Princess's can get chiding, reasoned responses from genuinely upstanding people, instead of an automatic derogatory 'slut' response. Hmmm.