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Though I hope you're not grouping them in with the "rejects" you're talking about... =p Quote:
Though I haven't actually dated for... going on 4 years now. Bleh. It'll be hard to get used to dating again. Dx
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2009-03-02, 12:31 | Link #1042 |
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I think you can read and memorize all the tips and tricks that go with dating, but they never really help much. As a guy, what helped me most was to dive straight in and get experience. It really is a simple matter of doing it.
What do girls look for in a guy? Who gives a shit. How can I get a girl to like me? You can't, you can only be yourself and believe that a girl will like that person. You say that, but a girl has never approached me or shown interest in me? That's because you don't give yourself the chance. Go to parties, or someplace with a crapload of ladies. You'll make mistakes and feel like a complete douche without a doubt, just don't take it too seriously because it doesn't matter. Most girls will overlook any flaw if they like your vibe. Hakisak's advice is good because it doesn't overcomplicate the issue. And yes, please get over 2D girls if that happens to be holding you back. |
2009-03-02, 13:32 | Link #1043 | |
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Now, I can easily make small talk and make girls laugh. I can't seem to get beyond this though. I have plenty of female friends, but that seems to be all I ever get. Everytime I talk to a girl I end up in the friendzone even though I'm confident and funny. I'm not the best looking guy (slowly working on this, got a good haircut this weekend, working on getting rid of the last remnants of my acne, losing some weight) but I'm not bad either. Maybe it's because I look much younger than I am. I'm short and have a baby face and girls always call me "cute" and want to hug me but unfortanetly I think it's the bad type of cute. How can I escalate things beyond just a small chat? I really don't know what to say. I can literally talk with girls for hours on end but nothing ever goes beyond this. What do I start to say or do so things go beyond this? I mean I want to bring things to the next level with a girl, but I really have no clue what to do. Probably doesn't help that I never started trying till college, so I'm really confused on what to do. Do I ask them out on a regular date? But what about meeting a girl at a party, seems kind of weird to ask them out there? I'm just really confused, I honestly have no idea what to do. I know what I want but have no clue of how to get there. |
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2009-03-02, 14:53 | Link #1044 | |
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Ah, always wanted to say this. I'm tired of seeing so many people on the internet not getting something so basic
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2009-03-02, 14:57 | Link #1045 | |
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And yeah, you shouldn't ask a girl out at the party, you simply exchange numbers at the end of the party and call her later to organise a date later. Give her your number first of course, and then she should give you hers. You sound like a great guy so it's only a matter of time. |
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2009-03-02, 15:41 | Link #1046 | |
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2009-03-02, 17:58 | Link #1047 | |
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Do you have any tips regarding the follow up phone call type stuff? I've never been that good on the phone. |
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If you ever want to kiss a girl, play with her hair and say how soft her hair is, then lean in. Never fails. Quote:
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2009-03-02, 19:38 | Link #1049 | |
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y.. you are awesome.. especially the quotes If you ever want to kiss a girl, play with her hair and say how soft her hair is, then lean in. Never fails. and Ask to see her hand and say how small it is or w/e, and rest your head on hers. you are a very playboy, aren't you? or is it usual to do for boys ? i haven't seen boys doing that in Japan.. maybe they are shy . They aren't good at praising girls . i think praising girls to get a girlfriend is not so bad..if i were treated like that, i wouldn't feel bad (though if it seemed very intentionally or exaggerated, i would withdraw )but how will you keep that attitude to her in your relationship ? i just wonder.. if you do that by your natural personality, it's good. But if you just pretend,and stop that when you are tired, that relationship wouldn't turn good , and as a result hurt her . How do you think about it?
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2009-03-02, 20:15 | Link #1050 | ||
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2009-03-02, 22:16 | Link #1053 | |
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The men just don't like praising women even in casual scenes. i have rarely been praised by Japanese men, and most of the time that they praised me, they were really thinking so from bottom of the heart , and not having the intention to make me happy or whatever.
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2009-03-03, 09:24 | Link #1055 | ||
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Seriously i don't like at all people thinking like that. Each woman is unique don't make generality. I know many woman who don't like that and the truth is i will never do that to a woman. For me, it's not respect them.
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2009-03-03, 09:49 | Link #1056 | |
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A girl can, for example: - Accept that type of approach and so, accept to be kissed. - She can refuse. Not all the girls like to see a man touching their hair or wanting a kiss just after having met each other, or even just after a few rendez-vous. And not all the girl accept to share a kiss just because they received a compliment. - Depending on the girl and what she thinks is right. If she doesn't like when someone touch her hair out of the blue, and/or if she doesn't like those who aim for a kiss just like that, she can go as far as kicking you in the balls. (I saw that kind of things happening) etc etc. There's not a thing that works for sure. And it's the same about what she will think of it, a girl can see that as totally normal, while another will just see that as a playboy/gigolo trick that she dislikes. And so will reject him. Last edited by Narona; 2009-03-03 at 10:14. |
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2009-03-03, 10:56 | Link #1057 | |
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I meant after going out with a girl at least a couple times, that technique has worked for me every time. I'm also making the assumption that people have enough common sense to discern the mood and act accordingly, as well as realising that it very much depends on the relationship dynamic. Most girls I've dated have shown interest in me beforehand, so it's easier to make that sort of move with that in mind. If you have no clue exactly how a girl feels about you, and it almost seems like an uphill battle for her approval, I would never be quite so bold.
Really, most people will know if the time is right for a kiss, it's just a matter of not being clumsy about it and ruining the moment. That's more what I meant by the 'never fails' part. Gets the job done and it's pretty smooth like xia said. Quote:
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2009-03-30, 14:03 | Link #1058 | ||
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That can even go, to the friends-field too. Not all of them might like it, that is true, but no way, it is not respect. And i think Kakashi's "never fails" was more of a simple-cool-statement, not that literally "never fails". 8D |
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2009-03-30, 16:08 | Link #1059 | |
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Going directly for a kiss often sounds cool, but girls always digs it up and think "he did kiss me swiftly, didn't he? Why not with others girl?" When they are actually on the right track, it's a bother to us men |
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2009-03-30, 17:52 | Link #1060 | |
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Well, it's not about being on the right track For some girls (not all, but I am talking about a certain category), they want sincerity. In that case, a kiss is seen as something important, while some men just do that on purpose, while they are not in love at all, and just want to have some fun with a girl. Xris deleted a post while I was about to reply to it, but I guess I am in the category of girls who dislike (a lot) the men who just try to score. Sometimes, it feels as if people talk about "tricks" to get a girl. It feels like it's not about making said girl to fall in love because the man loves her, it feels as if it was "how can I *trick* a girl to get in her bed". |
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