2009-03-30, 18:26 | Link #1061 |
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No, no, notice that I said "at the end of parties?" When they are tired and calmed down already (and of course we'd had some fun before that), most of them don't bother let their hand be held (and yet they let their fantasy goes wild, like "this guy is unconsciously attracted to me" or things of the like ) Believe me, it's a much more safer and stable approach.
And as the first impression is important, if you too smoothly kiss a girl the first time you meet her, and she's the doubtful type, it will cause lots, lots of trouble later. If you know that 70% of women in relationship spy on their partner |
2009-03-30, 19:43 | Link #1062 |
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Join Date: Apr 2008
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Cut-Tongue's Pointers for Getting a Date in the First Place:
- shave - work out, get down to your height's optimal weight - don't wear wolf shirts, trench coats, ponytails, cargo pants - do wear jeans, sweaters, button up shirts, stylish haircuts - smell good (small amount of cologne, brush and floss every day) - if you can, use contacts - don't talk about geeky hobbies too much - smile and make jokes - don't be too aggressive - DO NOT LEAVE NOTES OR FLOWERS OR ANYTHING LIKE THAT AT HER WORKPLACE - leave one voicemail at a time - offer to eat lunch or have coffee with her - go dancing - go do physical things like light sports, running, go to the beach |
2009-03-30, 23:03 | Link #1063 |
Protecting the Throne
Join Date: Feb 2009
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I've gone on some dates before back when I was residing in New York. A very important rule for me is "no kisses on the first date". But I believe alot of other girls have the same rule. Actually being part Asian, I absolutely don't do kissing at all on dates.
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2009-03-30, 23:13 | Link #1064 | |
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Why would being part Asian keep you from kissing someone on a date? Also, both boys and girls are going to have a problem with a person who never kisses them. |
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2009-03-30, 23:22 | Link #1065 |
Protecting the Throne
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Well, principals come into play. And it's a big no-no for my parents. And yes from previous posts it's how you were raised. In my opinion, not kissing each other isn't really a big problem. Hugs are already good enough for dates. Hugs and kisses are both signs of affection kissing being more extreme.
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2009-03-30, 23:38 | Link #1066 |
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Aren't Asian people generally conservative about touching other people in most situations anyway? My mom who is Chinese occasionally talks about how it seems strange to her that Westerners are so open to touching and kissing (pats, hugs, stuff like that).
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2009-03-31, 00:50 | Link #1069 |
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In the end, it comes down to how much feeling those action convey. But should one's opinion, or one's partner's opinion matter more in this? I mean, an Asian guy may not refrain from kissing his Europe girlfriend, because she doesn't care much of it. On the other hand, an Europe guy may not be so aggressive toward his Asian girlfriend.
Well, the rarer you do it, the more effective it will bring when you put it into action. So, well, I guess in Asian case it may be considered an investment? |
2009-03-31, 11:23 | Link #1070 | |
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"What!? You have never done that before? how shameful." Are we untouchables if we don't want to do it? I personally don't like it......though i wouldn't call meeting a guy who is just a simple friend like other gals a Date. People who have asked me before end up being my brothers forcefully Its a good way of getting rid of them..(well they call me a bully for converting "flirts into brothers") |
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2009-03-31, 17:25 | Link #1071 | |
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Join Date: Feb 2008
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And not only some asians are sometimes different... I don't like when people touch me (so if they dare touch me, they expose themselves to my wrath ). As for kissing, i want to wait for somebody that I will really love So the boys tricks to steal a kiss don't work on me Anyways, whatever your choices and even if sometimes you might feel like criticizing (at least for me, sometimes i have that feeling, some people here know about what I am talking about XD), keep in mind that each person should live the life he/she wants, the way she/he wants. So, don't do the same mistake as some people who can be mean or use sarcasm, because the other people, even if they live differently than you, have also the right to make their own choices in life. |
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2009-04-03, 04:15 | Link #1072 |
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Yes. I have Chinese girlfriend who I recently hooked up with who is from Macau. She tells me all about it. Not to mention I've had quite a few Asian friends throughout the years that are not from the USA. Luckily for me my girlfriend pretty much rebels against all of those rules. We're into more PDA than most couples.
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2009-04-04, 11:34 | Link #1073 | |
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2009-04-04, 20:45 | Link #1076 | |
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2009-04-08, 10:50 | Link #1079 |
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Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: England
Age: 30
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I need help guys!! :]
Okay so I went out with this boy last year for 3 months, but I stopped being with him because he was super paranoid. Currently he has a girlfriend who happens to be one of my friends, but Sunday night he told me that he didn't love her and how he needed a new girlfriend. He said he wasn't sure if he wanted me back yet. But later that night my friend (M) got drunk and tried to kiss him, he told M to back off because his lips were only to be touched by me.. Do you think he is still into me.. because I am so confused. I have always liked him but I cant ask him out if he is with my friend. Although we have done some stuff together which counts as cheating anyway and I really dont want her to know.. AGH!
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