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solomon · 2011-12-16, 02:39

As long you don't reveal you're a communist, drop your bank number or let it slip out that youve been eyeing her cleveage for 20 minutes, just TALK. Any random old thing, don't over think.

ChainLegacy · 2011-12-16, 06:53

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Originally Posted by solomon

As long you don't reveal you're a communist, drop your bank number or let it slip out that youve been eyeing her cleveage for 20 minutes, just TALK. Any random old thing, don't over think.

I disagree, I've had the most success just coming out with my communism. I even referred to one girl as 'comrade,' instant ticket to the bedroom.

HasuMasu · 2011-12-16, 06:58

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Originally Posted by ChainLegacy

I disagree, I've had the most success just coming out with my communism. I even referred to one girl as 'comrade,' instant ticket to the bedroom.

Smooth.

Paranoid Android · 2011-12-16, 07:33

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Originally Posted by solomon

As long you don't reveal you're a communist, drop your bank number or let it slip out that youve been eyeing her cleveage for 20 minutes, just TALK. Any random old thing, don't over think.

What if I'm Made in China!?!

(Still not a communist however)

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I disagree, I've had the most success just coming out with my communism. I even referred to one girl as 'comrade,' instant ticket to the bedroom.

You deserve a 80ft gold statue carved in your name.

Gamer_2k4 · 2011-12-16, 11:51

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Originally Posted by solomon

As long you don't reveal you're a communist, drop your bank number or let it slip out that youve been eyeing her cleveage for 20 minutes, just TALK. Any random old thing, don't over think.

This. People overthink and overcomplicate dating and relationships. Girls (and guys, for the ladies reading) are just people. Talk to them like you'd talk to your friends and you'll do fine.

Endless Soul · 2011-12-16, 12:28

I have to agree about simply talking to people. I used to be pretty shy and quiet around people, especially girls. It was really getting me nowhere. Fortunately I broke out of my shell in senior year of high school and I learned to talk to people. It seems hard, but it's really quite easy. Just talk about anything (within reason - no need to talk about underwear fetishes with random strangers) to anyone, even when you're standing in line at the check-out.

How can one learn anything about someone without talking to them?

Gamer_2k4 · 2011-12-16, 13:07

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Originally Posted by Endless Soul

How can one learn anything about someone without talking to them?

Scared of talking? Try stalking!

Paranoid Android · 2011-12-16, 13:35

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Originally Posted by Gamer_2k4

Scared of talking? Try stalking!

We've probably all tried that some point in our lives

Endless Soul · 2011-12-16, 13:40

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Originally Posted by Gamer_2k4

Scared of talking? Try stalking!

You can't say Stalking without talking.

Jinto · 2011-12-16, 14:10

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Originally Posted by Endless Soul

You can't say Stalking without talking.

You refer to the kind of stalking, where the stalking person tries to remain in contact with you... sending you unwanted SMS (text messages), calling your number...??? Its annoying like hell, I tell you.

Who · 2011-12-16, 16:26

It's like not I haven't talked to her randomly. Just this one instance and I walked away with her looking disappointed. Overexaggeration on the above post on my part.

Endless Soul · 2011-12-16, 16:43

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Originally Posted by Jinto

You refer to the kind of stalking, where the stalking person tries to remain in contact with you... sending you unwanted SMS (text messages), calling your number...??? Its annoying like hell, I tell you.

No sir. I was pointing out that the word talking is inside the word stalking. That's all there is to it.

Endless "Bad Joke" Soul

Jinto · 2011-12-16, 18:02

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Originally Posted by Endless Soul

No sir. I was pointing out that the word talking is inside the word stalking. That's all there is to it.

Endless "Bad Joke" Soul

Indeed a bad joke, if that was all there is to it.

I thought about a second meaning of this (of something that actually makes sense)

DonQuigleone · 2011-12-16, 20:15

With all this talk going around, it makes me realise that I have to get back in the game.

It's been at least a year since I properly stalked a girl! Got to figure out a good one first though, then I got to get back into the whole "gathering info" cycle! So much fun!

HasuMasu · 2011-12-16, 23:59

"And thus, my secret life as a stalker was discovered..."

Shinji01 · 2011-12-19, 05:39

I gotta say, getting a "yes" from someone out of you league is cool, but also finding someone who understands your love for anime is also important too.

Many couples in Japan nearly divorce because the wife does not understand why the husband collects figurines, and throws them away, or forbids them from investing in more DVDs etc (you get the picture)

I have a dilemma right now that i am in the best realationship ever, but i have no one to go watch the next Evangelion movie with me. I probably will go by myself.

DonQuigleone · 2011-12-19, 06:22

Hobbies ... aren't everything.

I'm probably leaning in the direction of not wanting to go out with an anime fan. Though a tolerance to it would probably be a reasonable thing to expect.

solomon · 2011-12-19, 07:03

While those sterotypical Japanese reactions are knee jerk and unnecessary, the Don is right.

People make connections for things more deep than just similar hobbies you know. You have to discover that, and you'd be surprised where you can find it. Otherwise, you may have to go with the ol' "live and let live" approach as far as certain hobbies and pastimes are concerned.

As Homer said "Our differences are only skin deep, but we share a deep mystical connection! WOOHOO WE'RE NUMBER 1! IN YOUR FACE SPACE COYOTE!!!"

Marge: "Space Coyote?"

Paranoid Android · 2011-12-19, 07:28

That's not a simple hobby, that's more of an obsession. If my girlfriend likes firearms, that's one thing. Having a depository of 50 assault rifles and going to the shooting range twice a week is another story, and I'd be a creeped out.

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Originally Posted by solomon

People make connections for things more deep than just similar hobbies you know. You have to discover that, and you'd be surprised where you can find it.

You mean they have to discover that. The one jumping to conclusions and doing the rejecting would be the other person who doesn't appreciate your anime/manga 'hobby'.

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I gotta say, getting a "yes" from someone out of you league is cool

Make sure when you view people of other 'leagues', that you don't assume their position is in anyway superior. They're simply different and riskier (exciting) than someone who is very similar to you.

As an asian person who lives in an area that's 99% caucasian. I'm in my own league =( And I understand how awesome it is to get a 'yes' from someone who is so different.

Gamer_2k4 · 2011-12-19, 11:12

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Originally Posted by Shinji01

I have a dilemma right now that i am in the best realationship ever, but i have no one to go watch the next Evangelion movie with me. I probably will go by myself.

Really? THAT'S a dilemma?

Relationships should be built on a deeper connection with shared interests. If you want someone to like based on their interest in your hobbies, look to your friends. That's why they're your friends - they like the same things you do. If you're satisfied with your romantic relationship, on the other hand, it's matters little that your partner isn't into anime. You like the person, right? You're attracted to them? They feel the same about you?

That's enough.

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You mean they have to discover that. The one jumping to conclusions and doing the rejecting would be the other person who doesn't appreciate your anime/manga 'hobby'.

Not in this case. If I understand Shinji01 correctly, the rejection is in his mind, not in his girlfriend's. The mindset I interpreted from his post was, "I think this may not work out because we have different hobbies," not, "She thinks this may not work out because we have different hobbies."

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Originally Posted by Paranoid Android

Make sure when you view people of other 'leagues', that you don't assume their position is in anyway superior. They're simply different and riskier (exciting) than someone who is very similar to you.

Another concern is from the other person's perspective. If they also think they're out of your league, it's very possible that they'll put less effort into the relationship because they don't believe they have to. Sadly, I know this from personal experience.

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Endless Soul Megane girl fan Join Date: May 2011 Location: Diagonally parked in a parallel universe. Age: 55	I have to agree about simply talking to people. I used to be pretty shy and quiet around people, especially girls. It was really getting me nowhere. Fortunately I broke out of my shell in senior year of high school and I learned to talk to people. It seems hard, but it's really quite easy. Just talk about anything (within reason - no need to talk about underwear fetishes with random strangers) to anyone, even when you're standing in line at the check-out. How can one learn anything about someone without talking to them? __________________ Signature by ganbaru

2011-12-16, 23:59	Link #9875
HasuMasu Senior Member Artist Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: The Middle Way	"And thus, my secret life as a stalker was discovered..." __________________

2011-12-16, 02:39	Link #9861
solomon Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Suburban DC	As long you don't reveal you're a communist, drop your bank number or let it slip out that youve been eyeing her cleveage for 20 minutes, just TALK. Any random old thing, don't over think.

2011-12-16, 16:26	Link #9871
Who Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: NY, USA Age: 33	It's like not I haven't talked to her randomly. Just this one instance and I walked away with her looking disappointed. Overexaggeration on the above post on my part.

2011-12-16, 20:15	Link #9874
DonQuigleone Knight Errant Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Dublin, Ireland Age: 35	With all this talk going around, it makes me realise that I have to get back in the game. It's been at least a year since I properly stalked a girl! Got to figure out a good one first though, then I got to get back into the whole "gathering info" cycle! So much fun!

2011-12-19, 05:39	Link #9876
Shinji01 Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Half Australia, Half Tokyo, Bits and pieces in US	I gotta say, getting a "yes" from someone out of you league is cool, but also finding someone who understands your love for anime is also important too. Many couples in Japan nearly divorce because the wife does not understand why the husband collects figurines, and throws them away, or forbids them from investing in more DVDs etc (you get the picture) I have a dilemma right now that i am in the best realationship ever, but i have no one to go watch the next Evangelion movie with me. I probably will go by myself.

2011-12-19, 06:22	Link #9877
DonQuigleone Knight Errant Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Dublin, Ireland Age: 35	Hobbies ... aren't everything. I'm probably leaning in the direction of not wanting to go out with an anime fan. Though a tolerance to it would probably be a reasonable thing to expect.

2011-12-19, 07:03	Link #9878
solomon Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Suburban DC	While those sterotypical Japanese reactions are knee jerk and unnecessary, the Don is right. People make connections for things more deep than just similar hobbies you know. You have to discover that, and you'd be surprised where you can find it. Otherwise, you may have to go with the ol' "live and let live" approach as far as certain hobbies and pastimes are concerned. As Homer said "Our differences are only skin deep, but we share a deep mystical connection! WOOHOO WE'RE NUMBER 1! IN YOUR FACE SPACE COYOTE!!!" Marge: "Space Coyote?"