2009-11-07, 12:24 | Link #2121 | |
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Now I'm wondering what I can do about the long-distance thing. Maybe we can send each other packages and stuff. I don't really know.
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2009-11-08, 13:37 | Link #2125 | |
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2009-11-08, 14:06 | Link #2127 | |
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Normally this will happen with time, and if you're a busy person in general who has obligations other issues will compete for your time and attention. But in teenage years some are more hormonal than others, and this feeling can be more intense and tricky to handle. All you can do is acknowledge it, get used to it for now, and try to deal with it. Alternatively you can act and get what you want. The best way to do this would be to go to a party, get yourself and a girl drunk, and hey presto - you get rejected and try again until it works. I would recommend not losing your dignity over this, however. |
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2009-11-08, 14:16 | Link #2129 | |
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for srs, I'll modify: the most "efficient" way to have sex and kiss a girl is the aforementioned, generally speaking. |
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2009-11-08, 14:30 | Link #2130 | |
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To be obsessed to that extend, I am not a boy so maybe most boys your age are like you, but you really go far. You might want to try to consult a psychiatrist? There's no shame in doing it. |
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2009-11-08, 14:44 | Link #2132 |
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Humm I think the first step is to talk to this to your parent, then ask them if you can see a psychologist. Serioulsy, I'm more for a psychologist than a psychiatrist. So try first a psychologist and if it doesn't work then go see a psychatrist.
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2009-11-08, 14:59 | Link #2133 | ||
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So they might be more competent than a psychologist. But i could be wrong, I never consulted any. The psychoanalysts on the other hand should be avoided (you didn't talk about it but i just give the infos) cos they can work without any diploma, and there's no refund from the social insurance when you consult them. |
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2009-11-08, 15:00 | Link #2134 | |
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2009-11-08, 15:06 | Link #2135 | |
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Thus why I chose to pursue psychology instead of psychiatry; I use a more holistic approach to ailments and whatnot, so the lean towards counseling as opposed to prescribing meds appealed to me
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2009-11-08, 17:37 | Link #2137 | |
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Mental medicine is always expensive. I went through counselling sessions worth $50 per session, and that isn't cheap considering how that much can feed you for an entire month. Psychiatric treatment can be more expensive due to medication costs, but psychoanalysis reports and testing (inclusive of IQ, EQ, mental stability, lodging for stay-in monitoring) can outstrip the cost of the former easily too.
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2009-11-08, 18:32 | Link #2138 | |
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2009-11-08, 18:39 | Link #2139 | |
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Why are you so concerned with your virginity or intimate experience? Are you trying to keep up with friends who have gone ahead of you in this situation? Does your personal self-worth somehow link to your ability to seduce those of the opposite sex? Do you feel like you're failing somewhere if you do not have a partner in your life? Those and other questions are things you should be asking yourself, and likely will for most of your life. Up until you're an independent adult (hell, for a good while after that TBH), you're still trying to figure out who you are, and it's an easy pit to fall into: linking your personal self-wroth with your ability to have/keep a partner. But in reality, if you're not confident in who YOU are (sexually active or not or whatever) you won't be able to go ahead and grow as a person, much less have a healthy relationship with someone else. So sit down and seriously ask yourself WHY this is so important to you? The answer might go a long way in helping you smooth things out
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2009-11-08, 18:42 | Link #2140 | |
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I also need to stay away from alcohol and going out to parties because those just make it worse (alcohol and its depressant properties make me feel VERY depressed, even a bit suicidal sometimes, and parties just make it worse since I see all these couples hooking up and such). I actually decided today that I'm not going to drink again until i get this solved since it always ends up badly when I drink. |
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