2014-04-15, 07:44 | Link #11081 | |
Knight Errant
Join Date: Dec 2007
Location: Dublin, Ireland
Age: 35
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2014-04-19, 05:34 | Link #11082 |
Knight Errant
Join Date: Dec 2007
Location: Dublin, Ireland
Age: 35
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So I've been out with a few girls now, and the pattern I've been noticing is that I might have 2 or 3 dates, but then the chemistry fizzles out. Now I think I have two problems:
1. The only activities I've been doing is dinners and coffees. There's only so much you can talk before you start to run out of stuff. 2. I haven't really "built up" any intimacy, no kissing or even hand holding. So things basically drift into that "Friend zone" people talk about. Now I think both problems can be solved with one solution, namely planning a greater variety of activities that also "break" the touch barrier. So far I've only come up with one: Social Dancing (Ballroom, Salsa, Swing etc.). I'm alright at it (though not amazing), it's unique and fun, and it requires physical contact (and so makes future intimacy easier). However, I'd like to have more possibilities that I can use depending on the interests of the girl in question. Any date ideas that you have found to give a fun time? I have a first date coming up on Monday that might be a good opportunity to try something out. |
2014-04-24, 07:37 | Link #11083 |
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Scanlator
Join Date: May 2010
Location: Unspecified
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Just having interesting convo
1) do you ever in romantic relationship? 2) how do you differentiate like and love? 3) how does it feel to feel in love? For note I don't have love problem atm. It just I never feel in love
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2014-07-12, 07:03 | Link #11085 |
Deadpan Snarker
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: The Neverlands
Age: 46
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Don't know if anyone is experiencing rains of fire, floods, disease, famine and locusts
But prepare for Armageddon peeps, ...I got a date tomorrow Odd situation I must say 2 weeks ago I've gotten in contact with a lady If someone would've said I'd be going out with a financial sector employed, career oriented vegetarian who also likes soccer 10 years ago Well,.. I'd still be cracking a smile over the idea now if I survived the outburst of laughter then ...but there are a few things in which we connect, and it's not like I would want to meet a lady who's the female variant of me (I probably also matured a little over those 10 years - emphasis on 'a little' ) after only a week of contact (no mail-bombing back and forth, a few mails a day) she asked to meet 'live' which I consider a good thing: Spending too much/long time communicating as your 'internet persona' can not work out well in a real life setting Gotta prevent 2 things now: -putting my foot in my mouth -give a damn The first is always a good thing, I envy a buddy of mine who always had the habit of going silent when he got nervous around a lady he fancied The second is gonna be hard to pull off I think it's a testament to my life when I say that I'm less worried about things going wrong, but would be screwed if things go right From experience I've learned that the more I want/put effort into something, the bigger the chance is for mistakes and disappointment BUT, in good conscience, I can't downplay the situation into "something trivial" or treat it with apathy just because I'm used to things going wrong doesn't mean I want them to, hell, I'm not a masochist Ah well, I'll find out soon enough
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2014-07-13, 17:16 | Link #11086 |
Deadpan Snarker
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: The Neverlands
Age: 46
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Well, judgment day has been averted for awhile
The lady in question did not feel a 'spark' and therefore decided not to continue further Consider it a shame, not only did I have a conversation with a girl on equal terms since,...ever but there was also more common ground than I expected Can't force what isn't there Back to the old "Shut off all emotions to continue functioning as expected"
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2014-07-14, 12:12 | Link #11087 | |
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Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: Athens (GMT+2)
Age: 35
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2014-07-14, 18:28 | Link #11088 |
Deadpan Snarker
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: The Neverlands
Age: 46
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I'm able to stay away form the buddy sortie 'till weekend
I've heard the BS cheerups before, and have no illusions that they'll be as shallow as usual "Yeah, my goal was having a nice chat on a beachterrace, mission accomplished, I can rest peacefully now" "Ok, since when is failure a boost of selfconfidence? Don't worry, I'll add it to the rest of my 0% succesrate" "Enjoying the moment? Like that bubblegum I just spat out you mean?" Edit: Man! It's been over a week and that gnawing feeling is beginning to bite...
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2014-08-19, 08:45 | Link #11089 |
I don't give a damn, dude
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: In Despair
Age: 37
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Alright, so.
For any of the former usual suspects who's still reading and/or still gives a damn, an update on my situation. As of last Friday, 15/8/14, I am officially married. Granted, my girl and I were simply registering at the local Registry of Marriages, which makes it more like an engagement than anything, and the wedding ceremony or whatever it might be would be held some time next year (in her hometown, for what it's worth). But either way, we're now husband and wife, and I wouldn't have it any other way. So, end of the dating game for me. You guys and girls keep up the good quest. |
2014-08-19, 08:49 | Link #11090 | |
NYAAAAHAAANNNNN~
Join Date: Nov 2007
Age: 35
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Did you have to apply for a special marriage license?
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2014-08-19, 08:56 | Link #11092 |
NYAAAAHAAANNNNN~
Join Date: Nov 2007
Age: 35
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What I meant is this. *runs*
Btw when you are having the ceremony drop me a call on what wine you want. I might be able to pull some contacts.
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2014-08-19, 09:01 | Link #11093 | |
I don't give a damn, dude
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: In Despair
Age: 37
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And I'll keep that in mind. |
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2014-08-19, 09:12 | Link #11094 | |
NYAAAAHAAANNNNN~
Join Date: Nov 2007
Age: 35
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Can I be the godfather of your daughter-*is shot*.
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2014-08-19, 10:25 | Link #11098 |
Senior Guest
Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: Athens (GMT+2)
Age: 35
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GG Ascaloth, congratulations I'm still working on the whole dating thing but it really looks like I'm damn unlucky at times...
- I go camping to meet up with another 30 people. - 13 of them leave less than 12h after I get there. - Out of the rest, most girls are 19 year-old locals who come by at six pm and leave at midnight...and the rest (of the general "rest") are already in a relationship >_< Not that I went camping to meet girls, but...it would have been nice to take one home as a souvenir :P |
2014-08-19, 13:07 | Link #11099 | |
He Without a Title
Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: The land of tempura
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2014-08-19, 13:34 | Link #11100 | |
癸亥 (guǐhāi)
Graphic Designer
Join Date: Jun 2010
Location: (ノ◕ヮ◕)ノ
Age: 40
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back as well once i'm officially married with my girl. we both just starting out right now, but i've known her for more than 2 years. wish me best of luck as i'll also hope for the best for you and your newly waffle, man.
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