2015-07-03, 22:27 | Link #1801 | ||
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Depending on your view on marriage, equal treatment under the law can mean different things. So as much as one side would consider themselves fighting for equality, I would have to respectfully disagree on that assertion. |
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2015-07-04, 00:19 | Link #1802 | |
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I guess I personally take a more... flexible view. Marriage is what you put into it. There are plenty of people who have the audacity to go "before god and these witnesses" and swear "'till death do us part"... and then get divorced for petty reasons. Heck, including my own parents! I don't think the gender of the participants "defiles the institution of marriage" any more than the fact that people are routinely lying at the alter, cheating on their partners, and leaving kids in broken homes because of the (often) stupid childish squabbles and indiscretions of their parents. "Let those who are without sin cast the first stone." So basically I say that if people are going to take the commitment truly seriously and work every day to live up to their vows (and that's why they want to get married in the first place), that's much more important than their gender. I feel like people who are so focused on this "gender taboo" are losing sight of what it is they're ultimately fighting for (or what is actually worth fighting for).
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That said, from a certain perspective, it's not about choosing one aspect of marriage over another. |
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Also further more such behavior is insanity, imo. "Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." - Albert Einstein. Because if you tell them 12 times and nothing changes, why would you think further telling them would accomplish anything at all? Quote:
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Equality under the law must have a context to it. It means you cannot discriminate based on things that have no relevance, like paying workers differently based on ethnicity. But you can certainly discriminate based on relevant factors, like paying workers differently based on job requirements and performance. So the issue with marriage equality isn't about mere equality, but about defining what marriage is and, therefore, what factors are relevant to it to determine how one can be treated equally under the law with respect to marriage. |
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2015-07-04, 03:03 | Link #1806 | |
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The one conciliation I guess I would offer is... I don't feel it's a good idea for a couple try to compel/force religious leaders (ordained ministers, etc.) to marry them if they aren't aligned with the institution's beliefs or stated policies (even if the couple may be within their legal rights to press the issue). There should always be others who are perfectly willing to marry them anyway, so dragging people kicking and screaming on this issue isn't going to engender goodwill on any side. Sometimes there's wisdom in "live and let live". (I do realize the above may be a bit Pollyanna in a way, but I just don't think that -- generally speaking -- anything good would come from confrontations about this. Maybe there would be some cases where it's unavoidable, though. Perhaps I'm just trying to avoid conflict.)
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2015-07-04, 03:16 | Link #1807 | ||
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On the one hand, I hope that is indeed the case. On the other hand, I'm not familiar enough with their actual role within the legal system to know whether this particular exemption would be lawful. |
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It's the exact same case and logic that was used to try to keep the interracial marriage ban, allowing segregation in place, or numerous other cases as "equality". Men being able to marry women, but women not creates a men have a right that women do not, and reverse which is why it's a "separate but equal" deal because they do not have equal rights under the law. Which failed then and which is why the same arguments fell apart here because separate but equal will never fly under the law. It has nothing to do with "redefinition" or "defining it", that word is choice purely exists to create a stir among conservatives & such to make their fear-monger slipper sloppy fallacies tactics to scare people against it seem convincing as in actuality the USA Constitution (nor it's Amendments) never defined marriage thus nothing was changed. DOMA was the only thing do so which happened ruled unconstitutional by one of those amendments and it was merely an act, not a Constitutional Amendment, so I'm not acknowledging that point further because it was never a legitimate argument when referring to legal issues in the USA because it's a fallacy. Quote:
Hence allowing religious exemption for someone in a public position like this where they've taken an oath is highly problematic as general thing because it would allow states a tricky loophole, but might be ok on more case to case basis for those whom are directly related to a church only. Case & Point: Texas Same-Sex Marriage in Texas: Democrat Files Complaint Against Attorney General for SCOTUS Ruling Obstruction Quote:
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Those other earlier prohibitions fail without having to redefine marriage because their inequality is self-evident with respect to marriage. Prohibitions against same-sex marriage only show inequality when you no longer put meaning to having both a husband and a wife in a marriage. Quote:
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2015-07-05, 07:08 | Link #1810 |
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If opponents of same-sex marriage don't want marriage to be redefined, then call it something else but treat it as equally under the law as marriage. If whatever you call it supporters agree to this, there should be no problem for opponents of same-sex marriage since whatever you call it doesn't redefine marriage; it extends equal rights.
Historically, separate but equal has been anything but equal. Maybe this philosophy can be applied in an unprecedented way. Hopefully. But it might be too late to argue over definitions http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/marriage the state of being united to a person of the opposite sex as husband or wife in a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by law (2) : the state of being united to a person of the same sex in a relationship like that of a traditional marriage <same-sex marriage> http://www.oxforddictionaries.com/us...glish/marriage The legally or formally recognized union of a man and a woman (or, in some jurisdictions, two people of the same sex) as partners in a relationship http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/marriage (broadly) any of the diverse forms of interpersonal union established in various parts of the world to form a familial bond that is recognized legally, religiously, or socially, granting the participating partners mutual conjugal rights and responsibilities and including, for example, opposite-sex marriage, same-sex marriage, plural marriage, and arranged marriage Furthermore, the definition of anti-hero doesn't change the definition of hero.
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2015-07-05, 07:27 | Link #1811 | ||
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If that's the case, then let's just make it clear that I was never talking about that. I was talking about marriage itself and that alone has nothing to do with the idea of separate but equal. Quote:
With same-sex marriage, some people don't even want to recognize the distinction and just want to call it marriage. And that idea is reflected in the definitions you've cited. Just to be clear, I'm not arguing over what the word marriage has come to mean for many people. I'm only saying that the issue of equality is born out of this new definition. |
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I always find it humorous when those who argue for the "sanctity of marriage" forget that it's only been a religious thing for a few hundred years. Before that, it was all arranged marriages or bartered marriages done solely to increase your family's standing by marrying into a more powerful or wealthy family. The man would even have to buy the daughter from her father. So if you want to argue for traditional marriage, then fine, put a price tag on your daughter.
And that's not getting into the whole divorce thing, which is denounced even more in the Bible than homosexuality. And yes, it matters. You cannot cherry-pick which aspects of marriage you like and which you don't and use that as a basis for controlling others. |
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Marriage has not always been a union between a man and a woman. Furthermore, marriage has not always been a union designed, or endorsed, by God or the church. Heck, Marriage predates monotheism (the belief of one god). If I recall marriage wasn't even treated as a religious ceremony until around 16th century Europe. Marriage has evolved constantly over the course of human history, and it will continue to do so. Marriage will continue to be re-defined.
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2015-07-05, 13:22 | Link #1818 | |
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Have you never studied history at all? Sorry, but everything you're saying implies you don't know anything about history further back then 30 years or so. According to the second article below, the church didn't sanctify marriage until 1563. If you want a general timeline of events: http://www.livescience.com/37777-his...-marriage.html And another fun fact article: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/0...n_4589763.html |
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