2009-10-18, 08:43 | Link #1941 | |
I don't give a damn, dude
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: In Despair
Age: 37
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I'll keep that phrase in mind for possible usage if and when I decide to propose to her. |
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2009-10-18, 09:49 | Link #1942 | |
He Without a Title
Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: The land of tempura
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Oh well, my point is that probably it's just a local thing. Maybe the big population centers have become that way but I'm willing to bet that there are still a lot of decent girls and probably some of them just go along with that type of conversation to fit in and not because that's what they really think. (Or at least I want to believe that )
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2009-10-18, 11:16 | Link #1944 | |
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Okay, okay, seriously. You don't have to be good looking to find a girlfriend. What a lot of girls look for in a man is a good personality, someone who can relate to them and share their interests. If he's good looking, that's certainly a plus, and it's true that a lot of women look for handsome men first before they look for sweet men. But beauty is only skin deep. Looks can attract a girl, but a good personality can convince her to stay.
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2009-10-18, 17:14 | Link #1945 | |
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Seriously, I have a lot of awesome friends who aren't the best looking but have an awesome personality like no other. Yet the girls in my school seem to go after the good looking dumb ones. XD But this is only senior high school, so it doesn't really matter.
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2009-10-18, 17:27 | Link #1946 | |
I'll end it before April.
Join Date: Jul 2008
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However even if I say that, I think your physique is something you need to take care of. I think it's normal for a girl to like more a boy who is good looking.
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2009-10-18, 20:38 | Link #1947 |
Rollin' Like A Boss
Join Date: Apr 2006
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Honestly, If you think it is all looks. You are doing something way ****ing wrong. Normally the guys with good looks also develop something on the side called confidence...which leads to charm, good sense of humor, fun to be around, and all that jazz. The type of guy who can actually carry on a conversation with a lady without it being awkwardly painful.
When you have a nice chest. What are you more bound to do: Act awkward, change in the corner, wear a shirt while going swimming, etc? Or are you more likely to just rip it off and get on with your life? Now who is going look more fun to be around. One seems to have confidence and the other doesn't. I also used "chest" since it is something you work on. Not are given. Very few people are "ugly". Most so called ugly people just don't give a **** about their appearance, therefore they look terrible(Note I say most, not all) "And it's the same girl who have sex just for fun >_> " You know, it's possible for girls to enjoy sex also. Just like a guy. You're making it sound like they are some shallow whore >_>
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2009-10-18, 21:54 | Link #1950 | |
Love Yourself
Join Date: Mar 2003
Location: Northeast USA
Age: 38
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Of course, how a person looks does have something to do with it. Some people are just naturally more attractive than others, and no amount of confidence, makeup, clothes, working out, or wonderful personality will change that. I do not believe that it represents the most important element, though. How you project yourself has much more to do with it. And lastly, the grounder - you have to recognize that even if you perfect the art of being confident and projecting yourself well to others, not everyone will be attracted to you. It doesn't mean that you're ugly or a terrible person, it just means that one person did not find you attractive. Everyone has a different opinion... don't take it to mean more than it does.
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2009-10-19, 02:09 | Link #1952 |
Love Conquers All!
Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: The Suzumiya Haruhi Section of AnimeSuki, (I placed my main Otaku HQ box there)
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But I don't think sex for fun would be as good as sex for actually loving the person.
Thats just me, I read too much romance, but I don't get the point of sex for fun, why do it with someone unless you really love them?
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2009-10-19, 03:22 | Link #1954 | |
Love Conquers All!
Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: The Suzumiya Haruhi Section of AnimeSuki, (I placed my main Otaku HQ box there)
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I still object to people going on looks though. But I know I cannot change this. I just don't see the big deal, it's such a minor thing. Everyones human, everyones covered in skin, theres so little difference, it doesn't matter that much, if at all. Thats why I go for personality, because I just don't see the big deal, and I'm sure theres some people who would agree with me, male or female.
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2009-10-19, 03:29 | Link #1955 | |||
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So, you'll have to add to it "C'est pourquoi, je veux devenir ton mari. XXXXXX (<<< name of your GF), (that's when you will look at her in the eyes, she'll have to remember that look forever) veux-tu m'épouser" <<<<<<<<<<<< you better have a ring with you when you say that. But there are girls who don't really care if you have it or not. What's important are your feelings. Quote:
And there are people in HS who have sincere feelings and try to build something serious, don't forget that. Quote:
If the person is not good looking, (well, i guess it's easy to say, but not easy to do), instead of crying all days about it, they should try to develop something else that could be seen as attractive. And build a bit of confidence (even if some girls like shy boys too, but as I discussed it with Ledgem, at least the confidence to, for example, confess). And as I said ealier, to take care of their body. No need to be brad pitt to do some sport. But anyway, I'll also add that not all the girls date boys in highschool (i didn't) Last edited by Narona; 2009-10-19 at 03:47. |
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2009-10-19, 03:50 | Link #1956 | |
I don't give a damn, dude
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: In Despair
Age: 37
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*saves away in the "Quotable Quotes for the Future" archive* |
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2009-10-19, 03:55 | Link #1957 |
NYAAAAHAAANNNNN~
Join Date: Nov 2007
Age: 35
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Although I would like to believe that Singaporean females are not like that, what I have ACTUALLY experienced is making me look like some self-deluded fool. Consequently, despite hanging out with them back in school, some of my male friends commented during our guy outings that these girls are so backstabbing and materialistic, constantly shopping for clothes and criticising other girls during almost every outing or hanging out after school. DOTA and Warcraft matches have become a common excuse not to go watch movies with them because we just couldn't stand them. IMO, I feel that it is pragmatism misinterpreted from the female's perspective. Here, working hard is espoused as the only road to success (bull, luck and streetsmart plays a part too), hence it is often summarised that chasing after the paper is that down-to-earth method. Subsequently, the paper evolved not only to educational accreditation, but also the paper currency : money. What the females feel about intimate relationships is giving herself to the guy, and thus what she wants is security, especially in the financial area because of the incredible power of money. Consequently, the general society are spoiling them. Due to the fact that all guys here have to go through National Service, the "get that job done and over with" mentality is locked into their heads, thus their general ignorance towards what is taken from them. Coupled with the sheltered life these girls have, it eventually leads to a "take more than give" subconscious that when provoked, could lead to serious consequences. So while a "f*** you" could generate a "my mouth or my back?" from a male, the word "b*t**" said to a female can lead to altercations lasting months. Ultimately, the fast paced and high stress education system removed an important element in the females, character. Many I have seen are just mild salt, sugar, pepper or flour, the taste isn't even there. The guys are not that bad, their real characters flourish in National Service (I know of a quiet Nagato-type otaku becoming an officer cadet), but the females just live as they are for quite a long time. Character building and accepting other characters is very important in relationships, any side lacking in it could put slack in the ties that bind. Despite having said all that, I will keep holding the doors open for them and listen in during their politicising talk, and occasionally let the word "b*t**" slip when they go too far. I don't like to be proven wrong, and I don't intend to be proven wrong about my belief that this is the epitome of the modern female. @ Narona : Do girls really like those kind of long boring phrases? I wonder if (pardon me, I just picked this out of a French dict with some help from BBF) : vous êtes la chose la plus mignonne que j'ai jamais placé mes yeux dessus works.
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2009-10-19, 04:18 | Link #1958 | ||
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Join Date: Feb 2008
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I don't see many girls wanting to hear "Hey ma cocotte, tu es aussi bonne que la dernière bière belge et j'ai autant envie de me marier avec toi que d'aller voir le match de foot Real de Madrid VS Milan AC!" instead No, just no... Quote:
That depends if you use it as a sentence to try to pick up a girl, or if you say that to your girlfriend. I'd say it can work as a "pick up" sentence, but not all the time (depends on the girl's character), and works better if you alreday know the girl (that's a good sentence before adding "j'aimerais sortir avec toi" (i'd like to date you)) edit: forgot to add, and it has to be sincere from you, always be careful about what you say Can work if the girl is your GF. Last edited by Narona; 2009-10-19 at 04:41. |
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2009-10-19, 04:21 | Link #1959 |
Love Conquers All!
Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: The Suzumiya Haruhi Section of AnimeSuki, (I placed my main Otaku HQ box there)
Age: 29
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It seems more guys ask advice on girls then girls ask on guys. Why is that so? I would expect it to be equal.
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2009-10-19, 04:36 | Link #1960 |
Lost.
Join Date: Sep 2009
Location: Bay Area, California
Age: 32
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Oh no, it's the subjunctive, run! Reminds me of high school French class xD. Nolstagia <3.
If you're referring to this topic, my guess is that there are more guys than girls on this forum. Though there may be a more sophisticated reason about the psychology of guys vs girls on this topic. Perhaps it's because men are potatoes; they're clueless unless directed. |
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