Sexuality

[synaesthetic]

Originally Posted by Mystique

And technically, none of us can really use our older relatives or people we know as examples, cause it's not like they're gonna divulge their sex life to you now, are they?

We hope not, anyway.

[ChainLegacy]

Originally Posted by synaesthetic

Of course. They're a business. That's their purpose.

I get your point in that we can't 'blame' the business which is always going to be an essentially faceless entity looking for the most profits. At the same time, though, the things they do, especially the pharmaceutical companies in the US, are just horrifying. Outrage is justified even if the culprit is ambiguous.

As for libido, if someone isn't happy with their libido there are plenty of ways to modify/increase libido naturally including herbs like tribulus or increasing zinc intake.

[Kaijo]

I never really understood viagra for females. It makes sense for men, but how is it supposed to help women?

"Having trouble getting your vagina up? Does it go limp at the wrong moments? Try female viagra today!"

Now, a libido stimulant, I can understand...

[xAnimeJx]

Well....I'm just going to give a short answer and say I am pan-sexual...woooot

[Narona]

Originally Posted by synaesthetic

Edit: to protect Narona-chan's delicate sensibilities ^^;

That's not sensibilities I just don't consider it good to assume that kind of things about people you don't know. I was commenting the article, not making comment about myself. And I don't know what I posted that could make people assume that I masturbate.

I never masturbated and don't plan to start.

[RadiantBeam]

Originally Posted by Narona

I never masturbated and don't plan to start.

Glad to know I'm not alone in that. I've never masturbated and I've never had the urge or the interest to; I always thought something was wrong with me because of that for the longest time. Still kind of do, honestly.

[Tsuyoshi]

Originally Posted by RadiantBeam

Glad to know I'm not alone in that. I've never masturbated and I've never had the urge or the interest to; I always thought something was wrong with me because of that for the longest time. Still kind of do, honestly.

Don't compare yourself with guys. We're that much HORNIER than you

No honestly, we are

[MeoTwister5]

The irony in this is that I've had more women friends admit to masturbating openly whereas my guy friends tend to go roundabout or deny it flatout like I was insulting them.

And yes neither have I. Statistics show as a man I'm in the minority in this. Am I supposed to feel emasculated?

[Kusa-San]

Originally Posted by Yoko Takeo

Don't compare yourself with guys. We're that much HORNIER than you

No honestly, we are

I think she was comparing herself with women no ?

And there are a lot of woman who are very horny too

[RadiantBeam]

Originally Posted by Kusa-San

I think she was comparing herself with women no ?

And there are a lot of woman who are very horny too

I was comparing myself to other women, yes. I've talked to a friend who says that masturbating can help for when I have my first time, but I just don't have the urge to do it.

[Tsuyoshi]

Originally Posted by Kusa-San

I think she was comparing herself with women no ?

And there are a lot of woman who are very horny too

Lol, I know, I was just teasing. Btw, the ratio of horny men to women is 7720 to 1!

P.S.: Props to whoever catches the reference

[hinakatbklyn]

Originally Posted by Yoko Takeo

Don't compare yourself with guys. We're that much HORNIER than you

No honestly, we are

Spoiler for Should I respond to that comment?:

Sure it's wrong, even I admit it. Resisting the temptation is another story.

[Narona]

Originally Posted by RadiantBeam

Glad to know I'm not alone in that. I've never masturbated and I've never had the urge or the interest to; I always thought something was wrong with me because of that for the longest time. Still kind of do, honestly.

I don't know for America, but in France, I am not alone. A lot of girls never masturbated (among the french women aged 18-69, only 61% ever did it IIRC), and for those who did it at least once, it's most of the time later in their life when they alreday had sex with their BF (or GF if she's lesbian). And less than 21% of women aged 35-39 (IIRC) do it from time to time. It's less in the other age ranges.

It can't be compared with what most men do.

The topic was actually discussed a bit in a women french magazine after the national sexuality of the french study that was released in 2008.

[Kusa-San]

Originally Posted by RadiantBeam

I was comparing myself to other women, yes. I've talked to a friend who says that masturbating can help for when I have my first time, but I just don't have the urge to do it.

Well you know what's important is you not the other. Don't compare yourself with othet people. each being is unique and so you are. if you don't have the nedd then you don't have that's all.

Originally Posted by Yoko

And there are a lot of woman who are very horny too
Lol, I know, I was just teasing. Btw, the ratio of horny men to women is 7720 to 1!

P.S.: Props to whoever catches the reference

It's not over 9000 ...*run*

But I don't understand your reference, can you tell me ?

[Kaijo]

Yeah, there's nothing wrong with never masturbating; it's just an aspect of yourself that you can choose to explore or not. If you ever plan to engage in sexual activities with someone, though, it helps if you know exactly how you like to be touched, and how big of something you can fit inside. Otherwise, your partner might just guess at what you want, and thus you won't get as much pleasure out of it, and might cause you some pain.

And yes, guys are generally much hornier than women, in general. Although a woman who is really into sex, can be much hornier individually than a man, especially if they like multiple orgasms in a row, heh.

[Kaijo]

Originally Posted by Narona

So those girls lose their virginity using their fingers or an object? Just a question. Hope I don't offend anyone

Virginity is a nebulous thing. There's not a real definition to it other than "something you are, prior to having sex with another person" where sex can be ambiguous. It used to mean penetration by a guy into a girl, but what about two girls now? Or two guys? So it's difficult to describe.

But in this light, if it's just by yourself, you do keep your virginity. It's just exploring an aspect of yourself, like I said, and also to prepare a body for sex.

Part of the pain for a woman is the hymen, but not every female has one, and most these days have it broken for other reasons dealing with physical activity. The other source of pain is being stretched for the first time, if your male lover is bigger than you are. Using an object like a dildo for awhile in advance, can get you used to the feeling, as well as help you practice with your vagina muscles and even help slowly stretch you a bit bigger, so that your first time isn't as painful.

As a guy, I want my partner to be able to enjoy herself; most of my pleasure comes from knowing she likes it just as much. If it's just for me, it loses quite a bit of the meaning. And of course, I don't like causing her pain.

Lastly, for everyone, the size of a guy really isn't that important. I know there is a subconscious focus on "bigger is better" but it really comes down to how well you fit your lover. A lot of women do prefer smaller, because it fits better. Too big, even if you can fit the width, you'll find it bumping the cervix and in most women, that's a bit painful, too.

[cheyannew]

Originally Posted by RadiantBeam

Well, in that case the hymen can be broken by a lot of things; it doesn't just have to be by masturbation. Girls can break their hymens by riding, playing sports... it's a pretty easy thing to break.

Don't forget the usage of tampons and the like.

[RadiantBeam]

Originally Posted by cheyannew

Don't forget the usage of tampons and the like.

Those too. Slipped my mind, I don't use tampons as a personal preference.

[Kaijo]

Originally Posted by Narona

Wrong choice of word, I mean that they break their hymen using object or fingers.

I didn't hear before about not all women having one, only about hymen having different form and rarely it can even be closed completely.

A hymen is a piece of spare tissue that falls down during your early formation and growth, and kinda covers your tunnel a bit. In some girls, it just doesn't happen, though, for one reason or another.

In some cultures, and in the past, a hymen was considered a girl's virginity, and if she didn't bleed on her first time, she was considered bad goods because she obviously had sex before marriage. Back when women had less rights and were treated more as objects to be married off, this caused issues, although women in those days were generally less physically active so odds were better theirs remained intact.

Like RadientBeam said, though, a lot of physical activity can break it: Riding, high kicks (martial arts and cheerleading), cartwheels, and even some jumps (like in anime when you see school kids jumping that box in PE class).

Most? I don't believe so, at least here in France, it's always reported that most girls have it intact before their first sexual intercourse.

Could be differences in how things are done. In America, we have active PE classes. I'm not sure what the real reported rates are here, and how they stack up across the world, but I would assume less have it by 18 then more.

The thing is, at leats here, most girls who start masturbating do it after their first time. That was just what I was reporting. I was not commenting.

I'd say that's because once they discovered sex and how good it could make them feel, it triggered a "wow, why didn' I do this sooner!?" kind of feeling, heh.

That's one way of seeing it. But possible pain aside, what if you're girl don't care about physical pleasure? Just curious.

It might be a bit difficult at first, and would require some discussion. I don't like feeling selfish, and if she's only having sex with me so that I can get something out of it, it might make me feel a bit odd at first. I suppose I'd need some extra love and comfort, and to be told "It's okay, I want you to feel this way because I love and care about you, so please."

[1travel1]

Now i have to know sexuality, thanks for your post