2009-09-02, 10:22 | Link #1441 |
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Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Ontario, Canada
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i just wanted to see if anyone here is or has suffered with this problem that i think i'm having right now.
so i used to watch a loooot of anime and have read a few mangas, and then now moved on to a massive amount of j, k, and tdramas. i also check up on a lot of japanese and korean celebrities because they are just so good looking! but i also have a boyfriend, and he knows that i love my dramas and asian celebrities and respects that, but i feel that all the romance animes, mangas, and dramas have made my standards and expectations in a relationship go completely skyhigh. i can't appreciate fully the things my boyfriend does for me and it frustrates me that i can't. its almost heartbreaking. he's my first boyfriend, and im lucky to be with such a good boyfriend to start. but everytime i have to choose between my boyfriend and watching my favourite shows and checking up on my favourite male celebrities .. in my heart, i lean towards the latter. i know.. i really am a horrible girlfriend but does anyone have this problem? or a solution? or an explanation? im a total noob at this and the basis of my knowledge in relationships is fiction. :S |
2009-09-02, 10:53 | Link #1442 | |
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Join Date: Apr 2004
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All I can say is that although Japanese love stories are great, I watch them too, they are VASTLY different from the real thing. You're probably not going to get crazy evil step mothers that are going to stop you two from dating for no apparent reason. You're not going to get some crazy amnesia that is only going to delete your boyfriend from your mind, and the love between you two bring you back together. He's not going to be as rich and as stupid and as wise as Domyouji from HanaYoriDango. He's probably won't be able to kick ass and look good at the same time. The real thing, you face real problems that are much uglier and darker. You face financial problems. You face abusive problems. Etc. Be careful not become a drama queen, because that's never a good thing. |
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2009-09-02, 11:09 | Link #1443 | |
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Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: The land of tempura
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Anyway, what jonli said seems right: you need to go through this and learn from it. Anime isn't the real world, quite far from it and that is a lesson that comes with maturity and all the hardships (and good things as well) real life throws at people.
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2009-09-02, 21:09 | Link #1445 | |
Love Yourself
Join Date: Mar 2003
Location: Northeast USA
Age: 38
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First, you don't list your age, so it's hard to say. If you're 13, then you don't have anything to worry about. If you're 18+ then maybe. 25+ then definitely. (Age ranges are approximate.) Let's walk through it, then. You say that you have a great boyfriend. What's great about him? What sort of things does he do that makes him great? Then let's consider your expectations to find out if they're really over the top. What do you want that your boyfriend isn't giving or doing? What do you want that your boyfriend isn't? (Tall, certain hairstyle, certain type of voice - you get the idea.) What is it about dramas/anime and pop stars that makes you want to spend time there than with your boyfriend? Or is there also something about the reverse - that there's something about your boyfriend that makes you prefer to spend time in fantasy?
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2009-09-03, 08:37 | Link #1447 | ||
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2009-09-03, 21:38 | Link #1450 | |
I don't give a damn, dude
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: In Despair
Age: 37
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2009-09-05, 09:17 | Link #1456 | |
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Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: England
Age: 30
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I would have dated him if I wanted too but I don't and he won't stop touching me and being obsessed with wanting to go out with me, he always stands close to me and looks at me its wierd and annoying. I have tried, Confronting him, having a go at him, telling him to leave me alone everything.. I don't know what else I can do. Grrr...
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2009-09-05, 10:08 | Link #1457 | |
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2009-09-05, 10:35 | Link #1458 | |
I don't give a damn, dude
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: In Despair
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2009-09-05, 10:50 | Link #1459 |
Komrades of Kitamura Kou
Join Date: Jul 2004
Age: 39
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Or crush his ego in such a way that he'll never bother you again. Stubborn men like this usually have egos far too big for their own good. Putting him in his place should teach his some degree of perspective.
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2009-09-05, 11:29 | Link #1460 |
Love Yourself
Join Date: Mar 2003
Location: Northeast USA
Age: 38
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Stubborn men would just continually hit on a girl, without taking hints and without being fazed by outright rejections. "Creepy" behavior (such as ignoring personal space boundaries, uninvited physical contact, etc.) could indicate a mental disorder or potentially dangerous behavior, at worst (rape, kidnap, and so on). Either way, Miko Miko should be careful about him.
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