2012-02-22, 08:11 | Link #10142 | |
He Without a Title
Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: The land of tempura
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The question isn't so much of looking for someone to supplement my skills, that would leave gaps somewhere eventually, but having the assurance that anyone of the two members of the household can do at least a passable attempt at every (or most) needed skills as a sort of failsafe.
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2012-02-22, 11:14 | Link #10143 | |
Anime Cynic
Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: USA
Age: 35
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"Set the oven to 350F." "BLARARAGHAGH WHAT'S AN OVEN"
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2012-02-22, 12:35 | Link #10144 | |
Dai-Youkai
Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Vienna
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Sadly, a large proportion of the female population (here in Europe anyways) actually takes pride in not being able to cook anything. And when I say tell them I not only cook very well, I even LOVE cooking, they give me strange looks. I guess it makes me look old fashioned. And maybe I am a little on the conservative side, because I feel there is something sad about the fact that the young female generation couldnt even fix something nice for a special occation for their boyfriend..... and even more concerning is the fact that loads of woman take pride in it, as if though cooking a nice meals means you are playing the slave for your loved one. Ah well, that is for everybody to decide in the end..... and there is something really nice about going out once a week. I have talked with my bf about it the other day and told him, that once we start living together, it would be nice to select one day per week (preferably friday or saturday night) and instead of cooking, we could eat out. I find rituals of this kind soothing and it is a treat you can look forward to all week long. |
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2012-02-22, 16:08 | Link #10146 | |
Love Yourself
Join Date: Mar 2003
Location: Northeast USA
Age: 38
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I think there's also a bit of a barrier to cooking if you've never done anything like it before. It's partly the effort, and partly the fear of failure (particularly the idea that you'll make yourself sick). To be perfectly honest, I didn't start cooking until after I had taken organic chemistry. It occurred to me that if I could put the various chemicals through all of those reactions, then cooking meat and vegetables shouldn't be too difficult. Nerdy, I know, but that was when I started cooking regularly. I think most people just need to try cooking or do something like it, to see that it's really not difficult and that they're perfectly capable of it.
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2012-02-22, 16:21 | Link #10147 | |
Anime Cynic
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2012-02-22, 16:24 | Link #10148 |
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Join Date: Sep 2008
Age: 38
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But not really practical if, as in the example given earlier, you only know how to make pasta (by which I assume it means either plain noodles, or plain noodles + sauce (spaghetti, for example)). There's an intrinsic lack of both knowledge and experience prevelent there that would likely lead to many hockey pucks.
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2012-02-22, 16:34 | Link #10149 | ||
Love Yourself
Join Date: Mar 2003
Location: Northeast USA
Age: 38
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All of this stuff is really pretty simple, but again, it's a lot of new things all at once. However, this conversation has me thinking that when I have children, I'll have them involved in grocery shopping and meal preparation at least some of the time, just so that it's not alien to them. Quote:
It's creativity; the idea that these things might go well together using this certain cooking process. People need to be less afraid of experimentation, and be more willing to try new things. I understand that when you're totally new to cooking, experimentation isn't necessarily the best thing to start with. But you build off of what you know. Your friend does pasta? Vary the vegetables, vary the sauces, vary the meats, add in other things, vary the types of pasta used. There's nothing wrong with having pasta as your base (when it goes on a really good sale, I switch from rice to pasta). But making the exact same thing, over and over? If you really like it, that's fine, but if it's due to a lack of creativity or an unwillingness to try something a little different, then the issue is something external to cooking.
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2012-02-22, 17:07 | Link #10150 |
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I think the best middle ground is to use google. Not only do you save money as you don't buy a book but quite often the guides you find through google are not so professional or dressed up which paradoxically might actually be a good thing to a novice cooker. They don't want to be confused nor do they want to feel intimidated from complex instructions so something more down to earth is much more fitting. And besides by not explaining too much it leaves you, the cooker, to improvise a bit more which I think is a good thing when it comes to cooking. At the end of the day it is not an exact science and it also teaches you how to make decent meals even if you don't have all the ingredients you wished to have. Another good skill to save a bit of money.
Well that is what I did as a student when I didn't want to invest money in a cookbook because I wasn't sure I would even make use of it. And with google there is really no need to buy a book. I just simply type tuna dishes if I have a tuna craving and let google do the rest. But going back to the topic of dating... I do think a good well served dish can be romantic in itself. A candlelight dinner with a bit of wine with your significant other will add another element to the relationship. Do it enough times and I think that would add something to the relationship. It's not going to fix the broken things or make people fall in love again but it will add a nice element to an already good existing relationship. To me personally I think these little gestures matter more than what happens on Valentines day because let's face it, that day has become commercialised; I mean once a treat becomes expected the goodwill tends to be lost somewhat in my eyes. Romance should contain some element of spontaneity and a random romantic meal can deliver that but that is only my personal opinion. |
2012-02-23, 05:40 | Link #10151 | |
Dai-Youkai
Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Vienna
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Many people say, that they dont like the idea of fixating it on a specific day. They say one should show love regularly, if not every day. And they are right, but do we really do that? I mean, once a certain routine is established in a relationship, do we go out of our way to surprise him/her? Of course one should try to make the other feel loved and surprise him with something nice every now and then. But on the top of that, Valentines day offers a nice opportunity to do something above the normal, something truly special. Does it have to be on 14.2. exactly? NO, thats not the point of the event I believe. I have always wondered, why anniversaries are so important for women, while guys often couldnt care less. This is just my theory, so bear with me, but I think this has to do with the fact that women like attention and they like to have some confirmation of his feelings. If he regularly forgets her birthdays and all important days of the relationship.... it is almost the same as saying " I dont care about you". Maybe the guy actually does care and is just bad with remembering days.... but really, thats what personal organizers are for. Women are emmotional beings and have emmotional needs that need to be satisfied. Not only once a year, but regularly. |
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2012-02-23, 08:55 | Link #10152 | |
Megane girl fan
Join Date: May 2011
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I also have a personal organizer. Endless "Forgetful" Soul
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2012-02-23, 16:53 | Link #10156 | |
Anime Cynic
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Location: USA
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Of course, I'm the kind of guy that doesn't notice things like that (I'm notoriously bad at recognizing and remembering eye color, for example), so the fact that I'm commenting means it stood out and was therefore worth the comment.
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2012-02-23, 20:12 | Link #10157 |
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Location: Suburban DC
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I wouldnt say it's wierd, i'd say it's a nice compliment. From Girl to Guy even if not flirting.
Personally, I'd be a bit wary as a dude doing it to a girl, cause ioono, you'd be surprised how sensitive (OMG YOURE SO SEXIST) some people can get. Also (at least in my experiences on the online dating scene), apparently ladies don't like that being reinforced BUT SO OFTEN otherwise I guess you come off as if you are just trolling for sex.....sorry for the ramble. I love the ladies, but as a guy, they are WIIEEERRRDD. |
2012-02-24, 00:28 | Link #10158 | |
思想工作
Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: Vereinigte Staaten
Age: 32
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So yeah, if it isn't awkward, feel free to compliment a guy on his looks. He'll probably like it. |
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2012-02-24, 01:59 | Link #10159 | |
Eternity Wish
Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: Above the Sky
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Thank you for the replies. Now I know I'm not too weird
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And I think Girls loooooove being complimented, too.
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2012-02-24, 02:06 | Link #10160 | |
Love Yourself
Join Date: Mar 2003
Location: Northeast USA
Age: 38
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Basically, for many people, we can't just take a compliment at face value anymore. It's probably a regional thing too, though... I recently moved out of New York City, and now reside in a place where random strangers will wave at me as they drive by. It's so refreshing to just have people acknowledging each other, being kind and friendly...
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