2010-04-21, 21:09 | Link #3641 |
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Join Date: Dec 2007
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We don't knowabout the seriousness and nature of the thread ( his parents's behavior), but given it's SaintessHeart ( someone than showded in the past both weirdness and brain) I would keep a open mind while asking for more informations.
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NYAAAAHAAANNNNN~
Join Date: Nov 2007
Age: 35
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Looks like two things : 1. Singapore government has got excellent transparency in legal operations. I knew most of that from solely Google. 2. I am screwed due to those laws. Quote:
And either reason constitutes to a "No. F*** off." under the legal system. As of now, though I have secured a job paying a minimum of 1k per month, I am lacking in attendance over at my school, which disallows me to take exams at the end of this semester. I am contesting it to the school management and all they quote is the bloody "school rules", "student-school contract" and "financial assistance plan" which I don't qualify for due to my overall family income (including my father's who doesn't even give a single cent). Another of the dumber suggestions I get is that I work first, then further my education later. If anyone of them read the Key Household Income Trends, 2009, Feb 2010 (Occasional Paper), Singapore In Figures 2009 and Report on the Household Expenditure Survey, 2007/08, plus the relevant articles listed on this page like Economical Statistics, all of the indicators point towards economical growth and/or inflation. And due to : 1. My parents are set to retire in 5 years time (meaning I have to feed them under Obligatory Parental Support). 2. I am holding a job, not a career (meaning no opportunity for personal and financial growth). 3. My job is increasingly outsourced to foreign nationals and permanent residents due to insufficient locals wanting the job and lower cost of hiring foreigners (meaning there will be a recontract at a lower pay in the future). 4. I am only holding 'O' Levels (my 'A's don't count since I got bad grades). 5. Rising costs of living (and possible further rise in the next few years) 6. Certification limbo (either overqualified, underqualified or unqualified for most jobs). 7. Lack of time for a response (I can only miss 1 more day of school, and I have 5 more days of work training which I cannot miss). 8. Unable to submit continuous assignments (50% of overall mark weightage) due to not being able to attend school and meet the lecturer (which of course, is due to the work training). 9. Requirement to pay damages if I quit my job due to training being provided by the government and company is unable to claim from the Workforce Development Scheme as I have quitted halfway through. 10. No guarantee of a job sufficient to paying off a bank loan even after I graduate (which I can't even get in the first place). ================================================== ========================================== And no, I cannot take my dad to court because : 1. Under the Women's Charter, Part 8, Section 69, it states : Quote:
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================================================== ========================================== I have three options : 1. Commit suicide 2. Commit homicide 3. Continue looking for options (the most feasible and realistic ones are already crossed off) Which one should I choose (for 3, please indicate a valid solution)?
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2010-04-22, 07:46 | Link #3643 |
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Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Australia
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Knowing you, i am surprised and really feel sorry for the situation that you are in, SaintessHeart.
Don't have much recommendation because i don't know well your situation. But from my own experience, i think you should create a mind map (of your current situation) to see if there is any option that you missed (including anyone whom you can depend on). Then assuming that you only have 7 days to live before deciding your action. But seriously, instead of suicide or homicide, wouldn't it be better for you to collect all of your valuable item, quickly turning them to cash, and restart your life somewhere else? It may sound terrible, but changes always are for better or for worse. And the first two are worst already
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2010-04-22, 07:59 | Link #3644 | |
NYAAAAHAAANNNNN~
Join Date: Nov 2007
Age: 35
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Unless I sell my ass, I have no other valuable item to sell (my computer is a NECESSITY, not a VALUABLE ITEM).
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2010-04-22, 10:21 | Link #3645 | |
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Location: Australia
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But if you adopt a child (or having one, a girl perhaps), then can you keep your money to fund your kid future? Or that Parental Support Act would still allow your father to leech your money off? Maybe not now, but in 5 years time when he quit his job PS: I don't even knows if it can help you that way, but i'm trying to let you re-focusing your mindset here, so that hopefully some new options can be opened up.
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2010-04-22, 13:01 | Link #3646 | |
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Change identity and move to another city. Move to another country.
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2010-04-22, 22:20 | Link #3647 |
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Join Date: Sep 2007
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I don't know about the law much but i think the law is not that unflexible. If your parents apply for maintenance, you can tell them the situation. Maybe you still have to pay but the amount of maintenance could be reduced to only a token sum.
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2010-04-23, 02:31 | Link #3648 | |
Moving in circles
Join Date: Apr 2006
Location: Singapore
Age: 49
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If not, it would be an abuse of the law. It's meant to protect parents — not to give freeloaders a meal ticket. As for your circumstances, my sympathies. In the light of the situation you described, I don't think you'll get fruitful answers here. There are probably a great deal of other details that you have not revealed, details that are understandably very private and best not discussed online with an anonymous online community. Furthermore, not knowing you in person, any advice I could give would come across as a pat answer, and very unlikely to be helpful. I also risk pre-judging the different parties involved — again, not very helpful. For a start, though, I would suggest approaching the Workforce Development Agency for help over the terms and conditions of your job-training bond. Seems to me that your first priority should be to protect your rice bowl. |
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2010-04-23, 06:07 | Link #3649 | |
NYAAAAHAAANNNNN~
Join Date: Nov 2007
Age: 35
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Regarding the WDA, I have thought through that but I doubt I have the time to make a F2F interview. The other options I have considered in the past is to peddle drugs or be a loanshark runner, but I wasn't as desperate as I am now so I ditched them. Wished I had take them up and saved money back then when it is still available - having a conscience kinda sucks. Looks like this hell week is going to repeat itself for the next 104 cycles until I graduate. And I guess this is what Santa meant by those who don't work don't deserve to eat. P.S I have been a hikkikomori for 2 months and a shut-in otaku (the less social and more extreme type of otaku) since 16. Hopefully my sanity outlasts this shit, but the "I have been through this for 2 years, so what is another 2?" self-motivation technique is getting old.
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2010-04-23, 09:11 | Link #3651 | ||
Moving in circles
Join Date: Apr 2006
Location: Singapore
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And let's not forget, the parent has to be at least 60 or above. So, unless your father is already at that age, I'd say he is the least of your problems at the moment. Quote:
And why don't you have time to make a face-to-face interview with WDA? Can't you make time when your livelihood depends on it? While its commendable that you're trying to continue education while working at the same time, if you can't balance the two, you have to sacrifice one or the other. Hence, I strongly suggest you do whatever you can to save your job first. MeoTwister5 (below): Don't know what you mean by "emancipation laws" in this context. You'd have to elaborate. |
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2010-04-25, 00:54 | Link #3657 |
Obey the Darkly Cute ...
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Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: On the whole, I'd rather be in Kyoto ...
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"Shounen" means - it was published by a publisher house that labels itself "shounen". That is ALL it means. It has *nothing* to do with the content other than some publisher thinks a certain demographic might be interested in reading it. Publishers of "shounen" or "sienen" or whatever will also pick up anything that they think will be a hit whether or not if fits completely in their demographic targets.
This seems to be a common misunderstanding among young or new western anime fans who aren't familiar with the culture and businesses behind the stuff they're reading.
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2010-04-25, 02:02 | Link #3658 | |
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Or are you saying a publisher can determine the "type" of the work based on his judgment? What is "shounen's" use then? |
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2010-04-25, 12:15 | Link #3660 | |
Obey the Darkly Cute ...
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Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: On the whole, I'd rather be in Kyoto ...
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Naruto is "shounen" and so is Love Hina and so is Kamichu! Ergo, worthless as an explanatory label in defining taste.
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