2011-02-21, 15:09 | Link #8221 | |
Kaiba
Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: David Tennant's bedroom in the TARDIS
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I'm not gonna push him into anything though. Well, if I win and she hates me then she wasn't a good friend in the first place. If she wins, I won't hate him and I won't hate her...I'll be mad for a while, yeah, but I'll get over it, and I'll definitely still be friends with him even if not her. I've done plenty of thinking, and I'm damn sure it's what I want. And, well, it hasn't been that long so I'll see how it all plays out...but I'm pretty sure of the way it's going, and I also think she may see that as well and that may be part of the reason she's vying for him now...
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2011-02-21, 15:13 | Link #8222 |
Dictadere~!
Join Date: Oct 2010
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Maybe they can all be friends and realize that sharing in a human society is impossible more often than not? Let him decide. Soon enough one will seem more viable than the other, as someone has to "crack" at some point.
No offense to anyone.
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2011-02-21, 16:02 | Link #8225 | |
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Join Date: May 2007
Location: Massachusetts
Age: 35
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It seems like your in one of those MTV reality shows with all this drama. |
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2011-02-21, 16:15 | Link #8227 | |
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Just kidding, mostly. I admit I'm more cynical and jaded than most, so while yours is technically possible, I guess I just don't hold enough faith in humans for that, heh. Yep. And it's an interesting feeling when it happens, because it puts earlier crushes in perspective, and makes you really understand later if you are truly in love or not. |
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2011-02-21, 16:29 | Link #8228 | |
Dictadere~!
Join Date: Oct 2010
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Already I can tell I'm not in love in my relationship. How do I end it?
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2011-02-21, 16:34 | Link #8229 | |
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Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: Athens (GMT+2)
Age: 35
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Well if you're serious about it, you can say that you're looking for love and you just don't feel it with her...a more subtle way of doing things would be to end it over time. Relationships are things that go away if you forget about them, so the less time you spend on one, the more it fades. You don't have to end one just because you're not in love though, having anyone by your side is better than being alone. |
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2011-02-21, 16:42 | Link #8231 | |
Frandle & Nightbag
Join Date: Oct 2009
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If you genuinely want to end your relationship, then it's as simple as telling her that you're not feeling what you want to feel in your relationship with her. If you want to be in love, there's not really any two ways about it.
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However, all this is assuming that you're actually putting your best foot forward in the relationship to begin with. Love is not something that just passively happens over time, neither is basic attraction. Either will, if neglected or pushed away, eventually dissolve. So ask yourself: have I done the best I can? If the answer is yes and you are still dissatisfied by the relationship in spite of that, it's time to let go for both your sakes.
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2011-02-21, 16:49 | Link #8232 |
Dictadere~!
Join Date: Oct 2010
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Done the best I can? I'm saying it again in a more detailed manner, but she isn't particularly funny, bright, caring... Her methods of speaking are starting to really irk me. It has nothing to do with acting in my prime.
Granted, this is my first real relationship, and I have no experience, but I can tell when things aren't connecting. It really started with her liking me, so I decided to try. Who knows? Maybe it will turn around, I'm not sure. In fact, I have no assurance whatsoever, being new. All I can say now is that it's not what I'd call true affection. On either side.
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2011-02-21, 16:58 | Link #8233 | ||
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2011-02-21, 17:02 | Link #8234 |
Dictadere~!
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I don't think she shares the same inclination towards splitting, and quite frankly, being a high school girl in her fantasies of love, doesn't understand the situation. Me and my highly sympathetic qualities couldn't bear the thought of ending something so abruptly in which the other party would be hurt. That's my problem. A lack of balls, you could say.
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2011-02-21, 17:04 | Link #8235 | |
Kaiba
Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: David Tennant's bedroom in the TARDIS
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and yes it does Sometimes my life can be like a rather screwed up chick flick...XD yeah...it's fucked me over, too
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2011-02-21, 17:14 | Link #8236 | |
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2011-02-21, 17:17 | Link #8237 |
Dictadere~!
Join Date: Oct 2010
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Do you realize how a typical high school girls mind can work? A three week relationship ending can result in a night of crying in your room for christ's sake. You think she'll realize what you stated when I break it to her? I highly doubt it. I predict it'll turn to tears or silence.
I understand you point, but unfortunately, not everyone does.
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2011-02-21, 17:21 | Link #8238 | |
Frandle & Nightbag
Join Date: Oct 2009
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Or you can wait it out, in which case she'll get upset anyway, then bored or angry, and then feel like she wasted time, or that you wasted her time. Take your pick.
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2011-02-21, 17:23 | Link #8239 |
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Thought I was. Asuras put it best:
The first time is always a litmus test. You always think "this is it!" and usually you realize in the end it wasn't what you thought it was. In agreement with this. I'm actually talking to someone now and it makes me realize why I ever thought I was in love with the previous girl I was talking to.
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