2013-02-18, 08:56 | Link #43 |
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As an introverted person myself, I find the surrounding world increasingly hostile to my "being". Seeing how things progress, I fear I may become sour and hostile to others as the years go by.
Job interviews are a nightmare, social media intrudes on my daily life, everyone can call me on the phone whenever they feel like it, not when I consider it appropriate. Heck, even gaming is getting rídiculous. Always online? Persistent worlds? Reliance on thers? Drop-in coop? Not a lot of people with similar ways of thinking around either. Music is the only saving grace now. The last bastion of my sanity, if I were to feel overly dramatic. What about you guys? Do you find it difficult being introverts in today's world? Yes or no, feel free to tell why. Others might learn something useful from it.
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2013-02-18, 09:39 | Link #44 |
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I often find that having a personality like mine makes it difficult to survive in the world, but that's not because of introversion itself. I don't think I have any psychological disorders, but on top of being an introvert, I'm also shy, pessimistic sometimes to the point of paranoia, hypersensitive, ... the whole lot.
Blushing when answering a question in class, no matter how simple, even if I know my answer is right. Finding it difficult to initiate conversation with a customer who comes into the store. Always stuttering during phone conversations, sometimes not being able to articulate my thought processes on the spot. While traits like these are often found in introverts, they're caused by other factors that happen to be correlated with introversion and not by the introversion itself. I'm not going to complain about all these though. The world and the economy has transformed in certain ways for a reason, and if I can't change the world, I'll have to change myself. Discriminating against people who are shy and have those other traits I listed above, thankfully, is different from racism. While people can't change their ethnicity, many psychological traits can be changed, and I hope to change them. On the other hand, I believe introversion is innate and cannot really be changed, but I hope to embrace it and harness its strength rather than complain about it. |
2013-02-18, 09:58 | Link #45 |
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Major introvert here. Funny thing is (or not so funny depending on your outlook) I've been raised and surrounded by extroverts for most of life. This made me think for a long time that there was something wrong with me. Most people in my life for example would always be saying that I should snap out of my antisocial outlook, or just generally acting like it's an excepted thing that I'm not normal and need to change.
Anyone else had similar experience of being an introvert surrounded by extroverts who act like there is something wrong with being an introvert?
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2013-02-18, 10:09 | Link #46 | ||
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Most of my friends. I was never a partygoer, which is something they have never been able to understand. This continues to this day and while I'm a little more outgoing now, it's more of a necessary evil. They cannot fathom this. I miss the days of a simple night at the movies and retarded discussion the entire night...
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2013-02-18, 11:02 | Link #47 | |
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You cannot change if you are introverted, but you can learn to be more open and outgoing to new people. Not that learning to be open to people is necessary, I'm just saying it is possible to learn traits of the opposite personality.
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2013-02-18, 11:49 | Link #48 | |
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2013-02-18, 11:57 | Link #50 |
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Kaijo mentioned that extroverts cannot understand introverts as well as we can understand them. I think he's correct, at least typically. If you're like me, and do not have many 'typically associated' traits of being an introvert, the confusion is probably even greater.
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2013-02-18, 12:07 | Link #51 |
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Well, the girl in your avatar is definitely an introvert.
The girl in your sig is probably an introvert as well. But Nanoha is almost certainly an extrovert. That's interesting - Nanoha/Fate are an extrovert/introvert pair. That's an interesting wrinkle to their relationship that I never really considered before. The girl in my avatar probably leans slightly extrovert. The girl in my sig is probably introverted.
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2013-02-18, 14:20 | Link #53 | |||
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2013-02-18, 14:34 | Link #54 |
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I don't know... I think being yourself is generally good policy. If you're someone else, and someone makes friends with you, then actually they're not making friends with the real you, are they? Not much point in having them as friends (in terms of conversation). Also, carrying a charade of "being someone else" is quite stressful too. You have to live a life of biting your tongue, all day every day.
That said, there are situations where you shouldn't "be yourself", say, Job Interviews: "I like to spend all day playing video games and watching anime, while avoiding work of any kind..." "Right..." |
2013-02-18, 14:45 | Link #55 | ||
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Madoka - Slight extrovert Homura - Introvert Kyouko - A tough one. She's a definite loner but she's eager to speak her mind. Hhhmmm... I'm going to go with slight introvert. But I could be way off here. Mami - Slight extrovert Vita - Extrovert Signum - Slight introvert Yuuno - Slight extrovert Subaru - Extrovert Teana - Introvert Precia Testarossa - Introvert Jail Scaglietti - Extrovert. The guy clearly loves company given what he creates. What do you think, Archon? Quote:
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2013-02-18, 18:05 | Link #56 | |||
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It is nice to talk about freedom, but in order for things to go more orderly, concessions have to be made since other people aren't likely to make way just for you. Unless you are 1.) totally awesome 2.) Manipulative 3.) Or just have a generally likable personality for many . Quote:
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Although I would say that being yourself is something that just happens and doesn't have to be said. If someone has trouble being themselves then there are other issues otherwise they would have done that already. Basically it wouldn't even have been an issue in the first place thus dispensing said advice is useless to people that actually need it. It's also harder for some people to be themselves depending on what it is, due to acceptance. I mean what's our common joke about writers like Mari Okada anyways?
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2013-02-18, 18:08 | Link #57 | |
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Oh and where is Nanoha? Fate misses her already. On topic: Not too many extrovert characters that I like. The characters that blurt out w/e they're thinking at the moment were never too appealing to me. I like the calm, thoughtful characters...Who may sometimes have trouble expressing their feelings and opinions, but are more than capable of it if asked directly.
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2013-02-18, 18:22 | Link #58 | ||
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2013-02-18, 18:42 | Link #59 | |
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Regarding introverts and extroverts, I wonder if part of it is "chemistry" with other people, and possibly perception of oneself. I was a shy introvert for much of my life, preferring to be alone and finding it very draining to be around others. A few years ago I made a group of friends that changed my views. I'd always enjoyed spending time with friends, but not too much time; with these guys, we could spend days doing things together and it was fun and energizing. Farther after that, my self-confidence and self-respect grew, and I found that engaging even with some random strangers could have an energizing effect. It seemed that increased confidence had expanded my "chemistry compatibility" with others. I still slip into a shy mindset at times, and I still enjoy spending time alone. Some people are still draining to me; there are some days where it feels like everyone is draining to me. But now it seems as if I've developed extrovert characteristics. I suppose it makes sense. We talk about introverts and extroverts as if they're traits like the color of your skin, but they're psychological traits. A person's psychology isn't unchangeable.
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