2008-10-31, 21:41 | Link #841 |
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Join Date: Feb 2008
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Thanks for the reply even if I would have prefered a PM or no mention of some things
I don't try to compare, I know I live in a different generation. At the moment though, I don't feel like changing my mind and as I told you in this PMs, I know the kind of men that I seek still exists in my generation, they are just rare. I just need to end up to meet one who is single this time around One more thing again, I am not afraid to stay single. And another thing, all that you described, I already thought about everything of that and act in agreement with myself (which is the more important for me), I don't plan to change because the world has changed (and I don't care about those around me who want me to change), even if it means for me to stay alone. I made up my mind, and very seriously, so no regrets. I can still be happy even without that. |
2008-10-31, 22:01 | Link #842 | |||
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Join Date: Mar 2003
Location: Northeast USA
Age: 38
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My parents are divorced, as well. Their divorce was arguably one of the better divorces that a couple could go through, but it was still painful and the after affects still cause strain to the family. You do not want to go through a divorce yourself, nor do you want to feel enslaved to a relationship that has soured. For this reason it's critical not to enter a relationship with the conviction that this will be "the one." Think about the future and how you might like to commit to it for life, but do not hold out like that. You say that you're fine being single now, which is good - desperation usually doesn't lead to good things. Yet another concern I have for you is that you want to have children in the future. Once the biological clock starts ticking and you're in your 30's with no dating experience and no signs of a relationship, do you still think you won't feel desperate? Quote:
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2008-10-31, 22:28 | Link #843 |
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Join Date: May 2008
Location: In the eastern capital of the islands of the rising suns...
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To each their own I guess.
Well I already sent a pm to you concluding my thoughts. You seem to be aware of whatever limitations you're currently placing on yourself (as well as such a huge risk) and the consequences involved, so as absolute as you're being at the moment, there isn't much we can say aside from what we've said already. But nonetheless, thanks for taking time to share your beliefs on dating and relationships with us on here though. ^^
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2008-11-01, 00:25 | Link #844 |
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Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: Colorado
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I was going out with this girl that was 16. Im currently 21 and for the first month, it was hell. Everyone that knew gave me so much crap about it to her and me. It was terrible, but we tried to ignore everyone's bashing. Not so long after, we decided that we just remain friends until she turns 18. It's really hard to have to wait for someone, not because they are far away, in school, not ready, or whatever, but because we "can't". Im not opposed to the whole age resitrictions on dating, but people take it too far. I think people should take it seriously if the younger (boy or girl) is unhappy and forced to go out with the older person AND of course rape/incest.
She was the one that asked me out btw, and people tell me I forced her to go out with me. I just thought I give that story out. I wrote a paper on age restrictions on love and how it "should be enforced, but not when love is actually there" kinda thing. I must admit I sounded like a rapist because its one of those topics that will never reach a verdict. (such as abortion)
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2008-11-01, 07:25 | Link #846 |
Ah! Pretty Shining Love!
Join Date: Sep 2008
Location: Australia
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I haven't been following this topic, so apologies if this has been asked already.
Okay, I'm a noob at this stuff. I can talk to girls pretty fine usually, but trying to get them attracted to me, or flirting, is something I don't know how to do. Also, what is everyone's opinions on the friend zone? It seems easier and better to be friends first, but I don't want to sort of spring it on my friend all of a sudden that I'm attracted to them. It could jeopardize the friendship. |
2008-11-01, 09:48 | Link #847 | |
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Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: In Despair
Age: 37
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I hope now you have an idea of how the "friend zone" came about. It's true, it's stupid, but unfortunately it exists for that reason. Perhaps now you know why you should NOT try to be friends with a girl in hopes it might upgrade into a relationship some day. |
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2008-11-01, 09:54 | Link #848 |
Ah! Pretty Shining Love!
Join Date: Sep 2008
Location: Australia
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I don't mean be friends with a girl for the sole reason to escalate it into a romantic relationship. I mean just being friends first to get to know each other better, since I've heard that's one of the main qualms against dating a guy - that she doesn't know him well enough.
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2008-11-01, 10:01 | Link #849 | |
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2008-11-01, 11:28 | Link #850 |
Love Yourself
Join Date: Mar 2003
Location: Northeast USA
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Depends on the girl. In my experience it also helps if you're already dating someone, but of course that provokes a chicken-and-egg scenario (and is also not a situation you want to be in).
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2008-11-01, 14:10 | Link #853 | |
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Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: lost - with no intention to be found...
Age: 38
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One time early in the morning in the uni computers room, a girl sat a couple of computers adjacent to me and I saw here put a dvd inside. It turns out they had FMA eps on them. She was quickly sampling the eps, quietly laughing at the Ed vs Roy ep. I even had to walk past her to leave the room...I didnt say a word. Though in my defense, I only had a few hours of sleep the previous night and I was frantically trying to get an assignment done for a presentation in the next 20 mins...As enjoyable and easy a conversation with her it would have probably been, I had a lot of other things on my sleep deprived mind. You should definitely open your mouth and say something if youre ever in a similar situation. Whatever you do, dont analyse the situation or start thinking about it. Every minute you have that self conversation in your mind, the less likely it actually happen in reality. Its not an option - just take a deep breath and same something! |
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2008-11-01, 14:45 | Link #854 | |
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2008-11-01, 15:31 | Link #855 | |
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Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: England
Age: 34
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Out of all seriousness though, the outcome of a relationship does not necassarily have anything to do with the age of the two persons involved, but instead the way in which they both act, not just towards one another, but also naturally. There are lots of people out there in the world and they are all different. I have met some very mature young females, probably even more so maturer than myself (maybe) and I know that they could probably make a relationship work out fine, then it would depend on the male. If the male was responsible and was very caring, let is use...me as an example, I think that their relationship would work perfectly despite there being quite an age difference. Again, I do not think that age is an important issue in cases such as this, especially when regarding a relationship. |
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2008-11-01, 16:53 | Link #859 |
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Join Date: Sep 2008
Location: Norwich, England.
Age: 32
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Aww people. You've given me hope.
Well I'm doing a course with some people who I have known for years. So once I go to college or get a job, hopefully then I will meet someone. I plan to work at a video game store, and I've seen some girls working there. So its a start! |
2008-11-01, 17:01 | Link #860 | |
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It also reminds me a cute guy who was working in a videogames store here in Paris, he was always talking about Sony and Microsoft, as if it was a war (I didn't understand anything about what he was saying but he was very serious about it ) but he has quit the job apparently. |
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