2007-11-14, 20:38 | Link #141 |
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Bad news. The girl I was after has a boyfriend. I think I'm going to be sick. I guess on the bright side we had two good conversations today...and got some contact information. It seems like I'm beginning to make a real good..."friend". Man I hate that word sometimes. But really, what a let down. Something like this always happens. Maybe I'm too shallow.
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2007-11-16, 17:08 | Link #143 | |
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2007-11-22, 05:06 | Link #144 | |
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Here's something I posted on another board. I'd like your thoughts about it as well:
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2007-11-22, 21:31 | Link #150 |
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I think that "desperate" is flitting from girl to girl within seconds, and perhaps even begging. If you're single and young, there's nothing wrong with experimentation of that sort. If you have any sort of attraction for another person, there's nothing wrong with checking it out. You're not committing to marriage (although if the relationship sours, breaking it is generally quite unpleasant). I know that the ideal situation is where you get the know the person 98% well as their friend and then elevate your relationship status, but it's not realistic. If the relationship starts out as or quickly escalates to a romantic one, there's nothing wrong with letting that go and seeing what happens. It doesn't mean you're desperate - it just means you're open and ready for a relationship. Best of luck!
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2007-12-08, 01:04 | Link #151 | |
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2007-12-08, 03:39 | Link #152 |
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Join Date: Oct 2007
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Look at asian girls in gereral. Look at the world's perceptive of asians.
Smart, Tricky, Greedy. Being an asian myself... and my own azn friends. I have to admit, azns are generally much more conservative toward others than americans. Why did i mention this? What is the key factor here? "Greed". Other races and cultures, date ppl of their own ethinity. Asian girls? Nah. Asian guys want to date asian girls? Yes. Asian girls tend to look for support, riches, confidential enviroment, and fulfilled destiny. Us, the azn guys over the seas. How many of us dosnt have citizenship. How many of us have to worry about scholarships? How many of us feel left out, timid, and shy? So ask yourselves... why would asian girls date us when they can live a fine life with somebody from another race and not having to bear with the prejudice that bears on us... If asian girls marry asian guys, wont that partly seperate them from this enviroment? What really depresses me about this is... How come asian girls dont care about their own culture and race? Where is the pride... |
2007-12-08, 03:44 | Link #153 |
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Life tends to be about the people around you .... in a multi-cultural multi-racial country like the US, there's just a lot of interesting variety and possibilities. Your remark "Other races and cultures, date ppl of their own ethinity." is only usually true when the majority of people around you are of your ethnicity.
Frankly, its a bit insulting to say asian girls "don't care" about their own culture and race. Many of them go out of their way to make sure their offspring get the benefits (and maybe fewer of the downsides) of their culture. There's really no such thing as "race" --- that's just surface variation. Humans have always been pretty fluid about expanding the gene pool. It makes a bit more sense to talk about culture though that is also a rather fluid thing over the centuries.
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2007-12-08, 03:44 | Link #154 | |
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2007-12-08, 04:25 | Link #155 | |
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As an Asian guy currently living in the states, I'll admit that we do get a bit shafted in the dating department. A disturbing number of my Asian guy friends graduated high school without any dating experience. To paraphrase my Psych textbooks- much of attraction is influenced by the media and how society reacts to the appearance of certain individuals. By this principle, you can pretty much understand why other races with more media presence have a tendency to date within their own race. I've been in the States for quite a while and the presence of Asian men on TV is virtually zero. Actors like Jet Li and Jackie Chan represent a tiny fraction of Hollywood celebrities. Asian men are far more likely to be portrayed as "nerdy" than "hot/attractive". That's just the current reality. The worst thing is that a majority of Asian guys don't dress well and aren't that sociable, which only confirms what the media stereotypes. @bluejazz87: Thanks a lot for posting this, many Asian guys need to just take that one step and break the ice, NOT desperate at all. If you live right next to Stanford (I live on campus) you should know, pickings here are not at all slim for Asian girls. If you date exclusively Japanese it would be tough, since there are oh so few Japanese girls here. Which is all the more reason not to let up on her! ganbare!
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2007-12-09, 03:49 | Link #156 | |
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2007-12-09, 07:13 | Link #158 |
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Yes I am black. I know the topic is about Asian girls not dating Asian men supposedly, but I thought this would be an appropriate place to talk about my situation. Instead of making an entire new thread about it. Especially since the discussion evolved way beyond the article.
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2007-12-10, 00:59 | Link #159 |
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aye, it isn't off-topic so much as just an example of how the thread topic isn't as "true" as myth would have it since bluejazz is having some trouble getting the lasses to drop shields
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2007-12-10, 07:58 | Link #160 | |
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idolizing girls will get you no where, just makes you believe they are to good for you... honestly this is one of those threads where there is no right or no wrong answer as it will vary differently with every one with many different reasons. |
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