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Knightrunner · 2011-09-21, 21:15

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Originally Posted by whitepearl

So girl #2 gets back to me about the trip to the museum on Saturday. She's asking if her friend can come along (friend is a girl).

Feels like yet another setback. Would've preferred if it were just me and her only without anyone else tagging along. ( -_-)

Ouch. Seems like your getting friendzoned here too. I'm kind of wondering if she is bringing her friend just for security reasons or maybe she only sees you a friend so far. Or maybe a bit of both. One way or the other just enjoy yourself and have a good time.

whitepearl · 2011-09-21, 22:55

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Originally Posted by Knightrunner

Ouch. Seems like your getting friendzoned here too. I'm kind of wondering if she is bringing her friend just for security reasons or maybe she only sees you a friend so far. Or maybe a bit of both. One way or the other just enjoy yourself and have a good time.

Probably security. Best-case scenario, she's a wingman for her. I told her it's okay to bring her friend. I'll just figure things out from there when it happens.

Dextro · 2011-09-22, 14:30

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Originally Posted by whitepearl

Probably security. Best-case scenario, she's a wingman for her. I told her it's okay to bring her friend. I'll just figure things out from there when it happens.

Then get a wingman of your own. A true wingman will take the bullet and take care of the possible grenade for you.

DonQuigleone · 2011-09-22, 14:34

Double Date!

solomon · 2011-09-22, 14:35

I wouldn't worry too much about that this one time.

Have fun and see if you can't strengthen your rappaport and relationship with the lady (while not totally disregarding her friend too). Doesn't mean that you can't still have fun.

Still, sometime in the future (SOONER rather than later). I'd try and carefully choose a time and place that you want to meet up (JUST YOU TWO) so that you can really judge if she wants to "take the next step".

Not trying to be pushy or anything, I'm using the "if I were in his shoes". I've let a lot of things go by because I didn't persue them enough in a direct fashion and after a while, especially if I were pinning for another. I'd follow what Mystique said, "tie up loose ends and try another angle". You're gonna want to let the woman know that you are interested in her as MORE THAN A FRIEND. Otherwise, shit will just get dragged out.

whitepearl · 2011-09-22, 19:41

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Originally Posted by solomon

Still, sometime in the future (SOONER rather than later). I'd try and carefully choose a time and place that you want to meet up (JUST YOU TWO) so that you can really judge if she wants to "take the next step".

Not trying to be pushy or anything, I'm using the "if I were in his shoes". I've let a lot of things go by because I didn't persue them enough in a direct fashion and after a while, especially if I were pinning for another. I'd follow what Mystique said, "tie up loose ends and try another angle". You're gonna want to let the woman know that you are interested in her as MORE THAN A FRIEND. Otherwise, shit will just get dragged out.

I hear ya. I've been down that road quite a lot. After the weekend I'll reach out to her to see if she's interested in doing something during the week.

I tell her it's cool to bring her friend along and I asked if she wanted to do something after the museum closes up at 6PM (thinking maybe to go somewhere to eat). She replies that she's going to a dinner/going away party for her friend (unknown if the party is for the same friend going with us to the museum) and that I should "come with."

Cyanoctopus · 2011-09-22, 20:00

You should probably go with.

solomon · 2011-09-22, 21:07

Yea dude, go. You can earn points.

Not saying you need to ask her steady right this second.

Just makes sure to aim for some clarity sooner than later.

Dextro · 2011-09-23, 16:47

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Originally Posted by whitepearl

I hear ya. I've been down that road quite a lot. After the weekend I'll reach out to her to see if she's interested in doing something during the week.

I tell her it's cool to bring her friend along and I asked if she wanted to do something after the museum closes up at 6PM (thinking maybe to go somewhere to eat). She replies that she's going to a dinner/going away party for her friend (unknown if the party is for the same friend going with us to the museum) and that I should "come with."

You should seriously go for it. It's a great chance to get some talking in a nice setting and, if anything goes wrong, it might be a good way to meet some new people.

Kaijo · 2011-09-23, 17:02

Whitepearl, I'll post this link, and you can look it over. Although I feel it's good advice for everyone. And despite it being a cracked link, the ending is kinda sweet. ;p

5 Ways You Know It's Time To Get Married

Building off my previous link, it's never really the person you developed feelings for and wanted to date that is the good person you need to be with. It's the friend who can accept you totally and who you don't feel you need to put on airs for. In short, girls who friendzone are completely missing the point, because the friend really is the best person they could ask for.

So, whitepearl, if you feel you are putting on any kind of show for either of the girls, you may want to rethink things. Just go, hang out, have fun. Don't make any moves, unless it is blatantly obvious they want you. Don't let yourself be used by #1, either; many girls will get you to do things for them but have no plans of giving anything back in return. So if you do decide to do things for her (resume, cover letter, etc.), make sure you are okay with the knowledge that nothing may come of it.

If you are yourself, and they like you, then you're good. It's a nice way to weed out those that aren't good, because if you are yourself and you're honest and they run for the hills, then they aren't as good a person as you thought.

whitepearl · 2011-09-23, 23:46

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Originally Posted by Kaijo

Whitepearl, I'll post this link, and you can look it over. Although I feel it's good advice for everyone. And despite it being a cracked link, the ending is kinda sweet. ;p

5 Ways You Know It's Time To Get Married

Building off my previous link, it's never really the person you developed feelings for and wanted to date that is the good person you need to be with. It's the friend who can accept you totally and who you don't feel you need to put on airs for. In short, girls who friendzone are completely missing the point, because the friend really is the best person they could ask for.

So, whitepearl, if you feel you are putting on any kind of show for either of the girls, you may want to rethink things. Just go, hang out, have fun. Don't make any moves, unless it is blatantly obvious they want you. Don't let yourself be used by #1, either; many girls will get you to do things for them but have no plans of giving anything back in return. So if you do decide to do things for her (resume, cover letter, etc.), make sure you are okay with the knowledge that nothing may come of it.

If you are yourself, and they like you, then you're good. It's a nice way to weed out those that aren't good, because if you are yourself and you're honest and they run for the hills, then they aren't as good a person as you thought.

Thanks for the link. Nice surprise ending. A lot of good points were made in that article that people my age tend to overlook (just my opinion).

It does seem like Girl #2 has sort of taken the lead...

whitepearl · 2011-09-25, 11:54

The friend that was supposed to go with her to the museum couldn't make it. It ended up being me and her only.

It was nice, though almost half of the museum was closed off because of new exhibits being installed. Having some time to kill, we thought it would be a good idea to walk from Midtown all the way to the place we were going for this going-away party.

Little did we know how long that ended up taking. We took a few breaks and chatted the whole way down. The bar was a German bar celebrating Oktoberfest (awesome food) with a very festive atmosphere.

We went to a couple bars afterward; left from the second one because I had to get back. While walking, she did tell me about a Thai restaurant she wanted to try out. Once I got home I asked if we should check it out and she said we should.

Good weekend.

Mystique · 2011-09-25, 17:53

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Originally Posted by whitepearl

The friend that was supposed to go with her to the museum couldn't make it. It ended up being me and her only.

It was nice, though almost half of the museum was closed off because of new exhibits being installed. Having some time to kill, we thought it would be a good idea to walk from Midtown all the way to the place we were going for this going-away party.

Little did we know how long that ended up taking. We took a few breaks and chatted the whole way down. The bar was a German bar celebrating Oktoberfest (awesome food) with a very festive atmosphere.

We went to a couple bars afterward; left from the second one because I had to get back. While walking, she did tell me about a Thai restaurant she wanted to try out. Once I got home I asked if we should check it out and she said we should.

Good weekend.

If you don't make your move at the resturant, I'll disown you, lol.
Means to hint hint at going there if she forgets about it over the few weeks.

The-powers-that-be pulled a few strings for you this weekend, don't get overly friendly with her in a 'nice guy im only platonic' kinda way

DonQuigleone · 2011-09-25, 19:04

Yeah. Seems like you've levelled up. What are you going to spend your skill points on? I've heard Knowledge(cooking) can work out really well, but I can't deny the advantages of Wrestling...

Far as I can see, all the game guides say it's best to invite her over to your house, though you have to be careful, there's one or two traps in the dialogue trees. Have you played any of the other routes?

Knightrunner · 2011-09-25, 21:56

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Originally Posted by whitepearl

The friend that was supposed to go with her to the museum couldn't make it. It ended up being me and her only.

It was nice, though almost half of the museum was closed off because of new exhibits being installed. Having some time to kill, we thought it would be a good idea to walk from Midtown all the way to the place we were going for this going-away party.

Little did we know how long that ended up taking. We took a few breaks and chatted the whole way down. The bar was a German bar celebrating Oktoberfest (awesome food) with a very festive atmosphere.

We went to a couple bars afterward; left from the second one because I had to get back. While walking, she did tell me about a Thai restaurant she wanted to try out. Once I got home I asked if we should check it out and she said we should.

Good weekend.

lol I'm wondering if this is her sly way of asking you to a date without feeling obligating for counting as a real date just in case something didn't work out. Lets just say I think you pass the first test. If you didn't accept her friend she might have canceled on you, but since you did she looks at you more in a positive note. I'll be rooting for you

whitepearl · 2011-09-25, 22:41

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Originally Posted by Mystique

The-powers-that-be pulled a few strings for you this weekend, don't get overly friendly with her in a 'nice guy im only platonic' kinda way

I've a poor track record of doing this so I have a decent idea how not to let history repeat itself.

I'll see if she wants to go sometime in the next couple weeks.

whitepearl · 2011-09-25, 22:51

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Originally Posted by DonQuigleone

Yeah. Seems like you've levelled up. What are you going to spend your skill points on? I've heard Knowledge(cooking) can work out really well, but I can't deny the advantages of Wrestling...

Far as I can see, all the game guides say it's best to invite her over to your house, though you have to be careful, there's one or two traps in the dialogue trees. Have you played any of the other routes?

Haven't gone through all routes yet.

HasuMasu · 2011-09-26, 05:30

Oh God, you know you really lucked out that time,
some invisible dude is definitely setting that up.

But in all seriousness, 100% power must be diverted to
that upcoming thing you've got, if you fail, it's game over.

Good luck.

DonQuigleone · 2011-09-26, 05:34

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Originally Posted by whitepearl

I've a poor track record of doing this so I have a decent idea how not to let history repeat itself.

I'll see if she wants to go sometime in the next couple weeks.

Don't wait, do it now! Ask her out for next Weekend! This Friday!

Why wait?

Mystique · 2011-09-26, 09:45

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Originally Posted by DonQuigleone

Don't wait, do it now! Ask her out for next Weekend! This Friday!

Why wait?

It depends on the girl, but sometimes, if a guy remains cool and not too 'cushy', he can use that restaurant invite as a 'date' in a few weeks when things have chilled and both are getting on with life, etc etc.

Just an alternative, only WP can figure out the situation the best since we're all behind comps

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2011-09-22, 14:35	Link #9565
solomon Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Suburban DC	I wouldn't worry too much about that this one time. Have fun and see if you can't strengthen your rappaport and relationship with the lady (while not totally disregarding her friend too). Doesn't mean that you can't still have fun. Still, sometime in the future (SOONER rather than later). I'd try and carefully choose a time and place that you want to meet up (JUST YOU TWO) so that you can really judge if she wants to "take the next step". Not trying to be pushy or anything, I'm using the "if I were in his shoes". I've let a lot of things go by because I didn't persue them enough in a direct fashion and after a while, especially if I were pinning for another. I'd follow what Mystique said, "tie up loose ends and try another angle". You're gonna want to let the woman know that you are interested in her as MORE THAN A FRIEND. Otherwise, shit will just get dragged out.

2011-09-22, 21:07	Link #9568
solomon Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Suburban DC	Yea dude, go. You can earn points. Not saying you need to ask her steady right this second. Just makes sure to aim for some clarity sooner than later.

2011-09-23, 17:02	Link #9570
Kaijo Banned Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Somewhere over the rainbow, in a house dropped on an ugly, old woman.	Whitepearl, I'll post this link, and you can look it over. Although I feel it's good advice for everyone. And despite it being a cracked link, the ending is kinda sweet. ;p 5 Ways You Know It's Time To Get Married Building off my previous link, it's never really the person you developed feelings for and wanted to date that is the good person you need to be with. It's the friend who can accept you totally and who you don't feel you need to put on airs for. In short, girls who friendzone are completely missing the point, because the friend really is the best person they could ask for. So, whitepearl, if you feel you are putting on any kind of show for either of the girls, you may want to rethink things. Just go, hang out, have fun. Don't make any moves, unless it is blatantly obvious they want you. Don't let yourself be used by #1, either; many girls will get you to do things for them but have no plans of giving anything back in return. So if you do decide to do things for her (resume, cover letter, etc.), make sure you are okay with the knowledge that nothing may come of it. If you are yourself, and they like you, then you're good. It's a nice way to weed out those that aren't good, because if you are yourself and you're honest and they run for the hills, then they aren't as good a person as you thought.

2011-09-25, 19:04	Link #9574
DonQuigleone Knight Errant Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Dublin, Ireland Age: 35	Yeah. Seems like you've levelled up. What are you going to spend your skill points on? I've heard Knowledge(cooking) can work out really well, but I can't deny the advantages of Wrestling... Far as I can see, all the game guides say it's best to invite her over to your house, though you have to be careful, there's one or two traps in the dialogue trees. Have you played any of the other routes?