2009-04-03, 23:22 | Link #41 |
♪♫ Maya Iincho ♩♬
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I've always found, "be respectful, as you may never know when you may meet them again" as my quote on how I do business.
I doubt that is the case. Acting courteous to another or receiving it back doesn't automatically tag someone as a superior person or not. It's like that old saying "people aren't born polite" it's something either taught, by oneself or another.
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2009-04-03, 23:42 | Link #43 | |
Obey the Darkly Cute ...
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Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: On the whole, I'd rather be in Kyoto ...
Age: 66
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I've been in more than a few coffeeshops with that sign displayed About a month ago, I was behind a chatting moron at a grocery checkout delaying the process and I finally said loudly that she should get out of line if she wasn't going to interact with the clerk. Then I glared her down, saying "You are rude. Hang up or move NOW or I'll summon the manager and make a fool of you in front of everyone." Wow, she turned red..... I've had a few clerks thank me for refusing to take a call while I'm interacting with them. That's what the "f'ing voicemail" is for....
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2009-04-04, 11:44 | Link #45 | |||
I'll end it before April.
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Some people said that politeness and respect is not the same but i don't agree here. Politeness is, by extension, a sort of respect. When you say "Hello" to a bus driver, you're not only saying "hello". You're showing him that you respect him and respect what he did. And i think it's something very important that people must do. Back when i was in IUT (don't remember the english translation for this : HNT ? ENT ? ) I took always the same bus with always the same driver. In this bus everyone always said "Hello" to the bus driver and "Goodbye" to him. One day, after I said hello to the driver he said at one of his colleague "You know here, everyone say hello to me and goodbye to me" "Really O_o ?" "Yes really it's the first time i see that" And I cleary saw that he was really happy about it. And that's why I think it's important to be polite with someone who help you with his job. Quote:
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2009-04-04, 12:45 | Link #46 |
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Heh, I live in a country where it's perfectly normal to salute someone you only saw once or twice with a kiss on the cheek. We're candid people
Either way, here it always depends on where you go. In the "lower" margins of the city, where people have a more traditional view of family and social relationships, politeness and warmness towards people not immediately in your family circle is a given. When you go downtown or to the hip zones, people become snottier and less immediately social. I don't know which is better. Since I'm kind of picky with the people I choose to relate with, I may come off as impolite sometimes. The other thing is that, when I'm doing something that annoys me (shopping, getting on the bus after a tiring day, etc) I'm usually thinking about something else, so I pay little attention to my surroundings, especially to what people are doing, and so I don't realize it's time to say "Hi", for example. It has led to a couple of frowned eyebrows, and sometimes an apology on my part.
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2009-04-04, 16:49 | Link #47 | |
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- If a man that scares me ask me if I have already a BF, I will reply yes, in hope that that man will stop to talk to me. It's a lie, but in this particular case, I think it would be the best choice. - Now on normal and/or serious topics with normal people, I don't think there is a need to lie just to be polite. I guess the other people personnality. If it's somebody who is, for example, susceptible, or if I fail at guessing said personnality, I will handle him/her with kid gloves. No need to be rough, or to lie. Just be gently. Being polite doesn't equal lying. |
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2009-04-05, 00:41 | Link #48 | |
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but when a lecturer or tutor has to resort to TELLING the students to be quiet, that's why things take on a ridiculous feel. Age does come into the equation. The older one becomes, the less concession people make for ya. College adults... more like college kids. but are people being less polite these days? It really depends on the culture and personality. Some people can look scary, but once you interact with them, they're quite polite and friendly. Some just don't care how their actions affect others, and unload their day's frustration on the unfortunately polite. |
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