2011-04-26, 12:55 | Link #8608 |
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No fanart yet?
We should totally get an own thread for the adventures of Syn! @Flinch, it really is. You don't have these debates with women: "Could you pass me the blue paper?" "The turquoise one?" "That's the same." "It's not." "It's blue!" "No, it's more greenish!" "But it's still blue!!" etc. till the endless loop gets interrupted by an outside force. |
2011-04-26, 13:17 | Link #8609 | |
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2011-04-27, 04:02 | Link #8612 |
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Join Date: Aug 2008
Age: 42
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Valid point for in general cases, but until people have actually seen synaesthetic's aesthetics for real, can we not slam her for being a redhead? It could be she would make people eat those words once they see her for real.
And for the record, while I have seen unwarranted cases of such a hair dying, I've seen some blondes have great results by going redhead. So give her the benefit of the doubt.
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2011-04-27, 05:53 | Link #8613 |
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Sounds like someone needs to actually read the conversation. No one was "slamming" syn. Just because syn dyes her hair, and some dye jobs look horrid, does not necessitate that syn's dye job is horrid. No need to spin things into a negative light for no reason.
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2011-04-27, 10:23 | Link #8614 |
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Join Date: Apr 2011
Location: United States
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So, hello, everyone! I've been lurking this thread for...such a long time, it's not even funny. I'm sure it's been over a year now! I know some of you quite well when...the opposite definitely does not hold true. Hmm. Maybe that's a bit creepy, wahaha!
Well, regardless, I've finally decided to join in, spurred on by a problem of my own. Any help would be greatly appreciated. I'm honestly not sure what to do. It's a little long, for which I apologize. I'll place it under a spoiler tag, haha. Spoiler for Length:
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2011-04-27, 12:58 | Link #8615 | |
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With the formalities out of the way, let us start. I can understand your parent's outlook on trying to keep you safe. I have a cousin (more of a sister when you look at how close we were) who is only about 14 months older than me, already with a kid that she is probably too young to raise properly. That is probably your parent's biggest fear, and I doubt that can be assuaged. I'd go out on a limb and says that your mother knows, but doesn't want to take action. If you look at it through her perspective, it mustn't be easy on her when you see that she is really just caught in the middle of two opposite views. I'd suggest that you try and become more intimate (physically more so) before going abroad to study (if you truly intend to). I'm not trying to cast doubt, but it seems more sound to make sure you have every angle covered. Other than that, I hope everything works well.
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2011-04-27, 14:08 | Link #8616 |
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Join Date: Apr 2011
Location: United States
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Haha, thank you! Glad to be here, and glad I could give you a nice morning read.
Oh, I'm positive that's the main fear. That and the fear that my grades will plummet, which are both understandable. I'm scared to death of the thought of getting pregnant myself, so I can completely understand that. But I'm sure she knows, and is pretty hesitant with what to do, if anything. I think she understands that having him around in general (whether in person or not) is a great help for me, but at the same time, well. She's a mother who hasn't let go of her child yet (if they ever do!). But I don't quite understand. Become more intimate physically how? I didn't quite understand. Thank you once again, though! I hope it does too. |
2011-04-27, 17:07 | Link #8617 |
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You're a legal adult. Tell them to mind their own fucking business. I have precisely zero patience for parents who want to control their kids like puppets, especially after they become adults.
Some folks just can't imagine the inevitable fact that kids grow up, meet someone, fall in love, have sex, make babies and have a family of their own.
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2011-04-27, 18:27 | Link #8618 | |
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Have you told your parents about studying abroad? If you somehow convince them to let you go, then I say go for it. Just make sure that you both truly want this and neither of you are having doubts about this relationship. Dude, that shit doesn't fly with most Indian parents. Trust me from experience. |
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2011-04-27, 21:10 | Link #8619 | ||
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Second: long read, but a decent one If your planning to move abroad I would try to figure out every angle to support myself. Maybe win some scholarships if your that great of a student. Sometimes state colleges or maybe UC colleges have decent programs to study abroad. Hopefully, your parents would lighten up over time. When you say your parents are traditionally do they know how to use the internet? Also try to figure out your parents real concerns about having a boyfriend. Would they be okay if you had an Indian boyfriend? Just my 2 cents in a short notice. Quote:
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2011-04-27, 21:20 | Link #8620 |
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Yeah, my parents literally tried to kill me. Now I don't talk to them, don't associate with them, don't see them and would rather that they disappeared forever.
It must be hard to go against your parents if you love them. I hate mine and want them to die, so it's easy for me to automatically reject anything they say or do. Since, you know, I'm not really in the habit of listening to child abusers and attempted murderers and all.
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