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2010-02-25, 11:21 | Link #523 | |
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On the matter on masturbation, I believe that most men see it as something naturally introduced to their lives, and that has to be done after a certain period of time (could be a month, could be two days, haven't really compared myself to others).
Also, I was surprised to learn that the hymen can break while biking(!), gotta note it down... Quote:
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2010-02-25, 11:28 | Link #524 | |
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Never denied that. I didn't say it as a critic. I apologize if you saw it as insulting. Last edited by Narona; 2010-02-25 at 12:57. |
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2010-02-25, 11:34 | Link #525 | |
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I wasn't offended, nor do I see any reason to be offended since I'm a guy. I'm just sayin' |
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2010-02-25, 11:35 | Link #526 | ||
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I have to admit that, if I'm married, I'd like to have sex with my wife on a regular basis, even if she doesn't get anything out of it. Sex is a another bond, a way of feeling close to someone you love, and I have to admit, I'm a normal healthy male in this regard. I wouldn't want to force her, but if I'm married, there should be enough love between us that we can work out something. A relationship is about trade-offs and compromise, and there will be things she likes me to do. I'd gladly do them, even if I don't particularly care for it, just because it makes her happy. So it's kind of what I hope for in return. Quote:
And yeah, men get it rudely introduced into their lives. You wake up and find out that you're in a bit of discomfort because you're laying on your stomach and a part of you is hard that didn't used to be. It confuses you until you touch to find out what's going on, and well, the rest is history, heh. Last edited by Kaijo; 2010-02-25 at 12:02. |
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2010-02-25, 11:55 | Link #529 | ||
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EDIT: Don't get me wrong, I'm quite capable of erections. I just didn't wake up with wood while lying on my stomach |
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2010-02-25, 12:16 | Link #531 | |
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Sex is a natural human thing for people in a certain age range. In a relationship where one wants and the other doesn't, and thus it doesn't take place... means it's an unequal relationship. It's not different than if my wife liked receiving flowers and gifts or surprises at certain times, and I didn't like to do that, so I didn't. Over time, her love for me would diminish, until she just puts up with me. It's vitally important that each person is a partner in the relationship, and understands the need for sacrifice for the other. You're no longer just two people, but one person, so it's your own life and well-being that you are working with. In essence, the wrong people got married to each other. It's no different than if two people married because of the hot sex they both enjoyed, but the relationship was lacking on one side or the other for other things. That's not a relationship that will last; there needs to be a balance, give and take. |
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2010-02-25, 12:56 | Link #532 | |||
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Yes, it's possible. It's called asexuality, and it can't be cured anymore than you can turn a homosexual into a heterosexual. Quote:
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Since I'm an aromantic asexual, I don't have this problem as I don't have the desire to enter into a relationship with someone, but if I did, I can tell you that I would never, never force myself to have sex with or french kiss a person, no matter how much I loved them. The mere thought repulses me, and forcing myself wouldn't be any better for the relationship than it would be for myself. So yeah, if it didn't work without sex and french kissing, it would end in a break-up sooner or later, anyway.
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2010-02-25, 13:07 | Link #533 |
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I'm with Kaijo on this one; sexual frustration is a real thing observed in nature and we'd be lying to ourselves if we said it doesn't happen to humans. A man that has sexual needs and is supposed to be in a monogamous or polyamorous relationship would probably feel really frustrated and forlorn if he isn't having his needs satisfied. And can you blame him? It's his instinct! For the most part people are meant to desire sex and their bodies think something is wrong if they aren't getting any. Now I know, respect, and understand there are outliers but for most people what I say is true.
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2010-02-25, 13:10 | Link #534 | |
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Assuming you are female and we became close friends where a relationship is possible... I'd recognize the inherent differences in us, and realize a standard romantic male/female relationship isn't really possible, because we are too different; we desire different things, and dislike different things. So this is kind of what I wanted to get across. I don't see myself getting involved with a woman who is so against sex, so the point is really moot. The chances are low I'll end up with such a person is very low just based on odds alone, as most women do have at least a bit of attraction to sex (when they discover it), so it's not going to be an issue of being forced. Obviously, if I'm married to a woman and she's not in the mood right now, I'm not going to force it, either. I think the last sociology thing I read suggested a healthy couple engage in sex 2-3 times a week, and that couples who drift out of this can start having trouble in other areas. But that's just an average, and each couple needs to find the mutual place that works for them. |
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2010-02-25, 13:22 | Link #535 | |||
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As long as you don't expect asexuals to sacrifice themselves to forcefully keep their relationships with sexual people intact. Sometimes it works out without the sex pretty well - yes, it happens -, and often it doesn't. In such cases, it's not that the asexuals don't love their partners enough - it just doesn't work. Yep, I am. Quote:
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But yeah, I'd say the odds of you falling head of heels for an asexual are indeed pretty low.
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2010-02-25, 13:44 | Link #536 | ||
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It's more clear in moments of intimacy. If a woman tells her man to "turn on the heater"... no man could possibly want her at that moment. It might seem small but if you accidentally swipe your man with masculine energy in the wrong moments, it's that bad. Rather, you would say "I'm really cold" and cross your fingers that he gets it. It's like when a girl asks "What do you want to do?" and the guy goes "I don't know honey what do you want to do?" I'm sure it's just as bad for girls as it is for guys when we get swiped with the wrong energy. Be my guest. Quote:
But the most common complaint about relationships is lack of passion. "I love him/her, but something's missing." And I would imagine that most people want a partner who's more than just a good friend. |
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2010-02-25, 13:52 | Link #537 | |
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If I understand you correctly, you believe that a man does not want to receive "orders" from a woman during intimate moments, while women want their men to be able to make decisions. Call me a feminist (which I probably am), but I don't think this is all that gender-specific, and in fact varies from person to person. Even if I was sexual, I'd totally go for "turn on the heater". It would never occur to me that that might be a turn-off for the guy as long as I'm not snappy about it. Edit: Oh, and I think I'd be very happy to be asked what I want to do instead, assuming it was at a time I've somewhat of an idea/preference and wouldn't end up thinking about it for hours.
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2010-02-25, 14:04 | Link #538 | |
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2010-02-25, 14:14 | Link #539 | |
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I'm straight, male, I have a somewhat jaded homophobia towards gay or bisexual men (but seem to have no problem with straight, bi, or lesbian women or girls, whatever). Yes, I have been bullied because of my sexuality; most of my critics ended up in the hospital with severe or life-threatening injuries. And I think it's natural to be confused about your sexuality. Until I was 5, I didn't realize I was a dude not a girl. It takes time to find out who you are so take your time. I've read of how you were born male but you feel like a woman. I have a stepsister who was male, but honestly felt she was a girl. After a few surgeries, she finally is who she really thought she was: a woman. Basically, if you feel like a girl go for it. Get the external changes and I would think that you would feel like you are finally born. |
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