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I don't give a damn, dude
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2010-11-23, 22:16 | Link #6902 |
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Eh, groveling can be appropriate sometimes. Well, not appropriate, but not wrong, either. If you've done everything you can for someone who used to like you, but is now shutting you out, you can do some groveling, ie, "I don't want to lose you, as a friend/bf/gf, but I feel that I am. What can I do to make you happy?"
It can be a way to show much they mean to you, in the right contexts. Also, humans being emotional creatures, it's only natural to feel that kind of groveling despair when someone you have formed a close emotional bond with, decides that bond isn't important anymore, nor wants you around. It may not be right, but it is human. If you don't grovel, then they weren't as important to you as Though, that's why I prefer logic; "Oh, you don't care about me anymore? Kay, bye. Have a nice life!" That's not what most people think in those situations, though, heh. |
2010-11-23, 22:57 | Link #6903 |
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Being blown out of prportions already? Damn. Oh well.
Ascaloth, you really shouldn't be like that. It's perceptual on the term I have no value until I actually enter into society and work, which I haven't. Me being constrained down by emotional ties does nothing to improve my life style, which is pointless. I just used hyperbole, intense words to describe what I meant. It's meant to be exaggerative. I didn't mean grovel or beg in the vocabulary sense. Thanks for playing though! Feel free to play again. No Kaijo, it was one-sided to begin with. Which is why I instead want to interchange that into productivity. Though you are right on everything else. Care to be my spokesperson? |
2010-11-23, 23:12 | Link #6904 | ||
I don't give a damn, dude
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Although, to be honest, I think my reaction to if a relationship is unsalvagable, would be much the same as yours. Quote:
And if your whole "I have no value" schtick was based on your lack of contribution to society and work to begin with, you should have made that clear from the beginning. Unspoken understandings are another of those things that are harder to detect on the Net. |
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2010-11-24, 00:38 | Link #6905 | ||
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Then you notice later that the person immediately started going out with someone else after they dumped you, so it really wasn't you, it was just that they found something better. |
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2010-11-24, 00:56 | Link #6906 | |
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Someone told me this one day. Maybe I heard it here? "The best way to get over a girl is to get on top of another one".
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2010-11-24, 18:37 | Link #6907 | ||
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My sister is getting married so it is not a problem for her, but it is an emotional agony for me to be in-between a Cold War. They are just staying together for their personal gains. I am going to turn the tables on them once I graduate : I am going to disappear to another part of the world and leave them to their own devices, since the law is too retarded to disallow disownership of useless parents. One last thing : if you are a parent-wannabe in a highly competitive society like Singapore, you must first meet the following parameters of provision - 1. Money to send them to school, ALL THE WAY through university in any course. 2. Encouragement If you are unable to provide them with either, don't have kids. Not only is the government baby bonus not worth it, they are a divestment if they are born with mental defects like dyslexia, autism or mental retardation - they won't be able to learn properly like most of their peers. Quote:
Though you stated the obvious with one thing - a person's life has absolutely no value. The value he or she has is given to him by the people around him. From the monetary perspective (often termed pragmatic as money is judged as the best indicator of "real" value), a person's worth is his monthly paycheck, no more, no less. Amount of credit access from the bank is not counted - so even if you have a platinum card and earn $3000 per month, you are still worth $3000 per month; and thus the reason why companies are free to sack anybody they want, or that schools are right to expel any student they want, is because these people are of no value to them anymore. If one desires to worth more to others, he must be able to deliver to those people he is around. However, if one desires to worth more to oneself, to give himself a reason to achieve anything he desires, he must be able to deliver what he or she desires. Simply put, it is one of the basics of marketing applied to human psychology - target market. You have got to know what you want first before going about to achieve it right? P.S She's landing tonight. If you have a religion, please pray for my safety if you want me to post in this forum again.
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I don't give a damn, dude
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2010-11-25, 02:31 | Link #6909 |
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Is getting high heels for your girlfriend's Christmas present a bad idea?
My girlfriend isn't into heels that much, but she'll wear them on a "special occasion" every so often. I like it when she wears heels. She looks sexy. The problem is that it's hard for her to find her size sometimes, which helps contribute to her not wearing them as much. I just wouldn't want her to think I'm being selfish and trying to change her or something like. I don't think she would take it that way though. I also know girls can be really picky when it comes to this kind of thing. I was thinking about getting here some nice mid-level black high heels that look pretty normal and low-key. What do you think?
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2010-11-25, 02:37 | Link #6910 | |
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I'll play Devil's advocate and say it's good. And if my advocacy screws you up, feel free to come to West Virginia to kick my ass. |
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2010-11-25, 02:42 | Link #6911 | |
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2010-11-25, 02:44 | Link #6912 | |
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By the way, it's extremely hard to find a size five in basic, black heels. Online even. My goodness. Everything is exotic. Oh well. I'm kind of having some fun on this quest.
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2010-11-25, 02:48 | Link #6913 | |
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2010-11-25, 03:54 | Link #6914 | ||||
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If our society progresses towards that state, we would be in a dystopic utopia. The reasons are all oversimplified, and black-white are one but not gray. No art, no passion, no dreams, no ambition. Sure everyone is equal and there is peace all around, but there can never be progress because nobody desires anything different (which might even work better or more efficiently). No sooner will I commission a Russian suitcase nuke from the black market and level this place, than to let it degenerate into that. Quote:
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Sure they are cute, not when one wants to stick around with me and the other just wants to punch me. I NEED to study for my exams too!
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2010-11-25, 05:01 | Link #6915 | |
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2010-11-25, 06:16 | Link #6916 | ||
I don't give a damn, dude
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That said, what's the link? How is an increasing rate of single-parent families going to lead to a dystopic utopia? For my part, I was speaking from my sociological background; the breakdown of the traditional family unit is indeed under way at least in the West, and many different types of family configurations are appearing and becoming more prevalent as the moral Zeitgeist is shifting. Personally, I don't see this as anything negative; it's all about how you work with what you've got, and the "traditional" nuclear family was a product of the advent of capitalism in any case, whatever anyone else might say. Quote:
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2010-11-25, 09:49 | Link #6917 | |
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the buying lingerie CAN be a good idea, *IF* she's into that... but again, women often prefer to buy their own, because they know their comfort level and little quirks of what will or won't fit (for instance, I have very large hips, but a much smaller waist. If I were to wear a 1 piece bathing suit, I end up with this silly flap of material (due to having to get a size to accommodate my hips, leaving lots around the waist) that makes me look like a flying squirrel. I wear corsets for that reason, and make sure they have bidirectional lacing (ie my hips are on a different set than the rest lol). most lingerie would fit me HORRIBLY). So, what to do when your hubby knows all this? He A: takes you shopping and says "Pick out something you like" or B: takes the easy way and buys jewelry Besides, what could be sexier than saying "Hey.. Wear this *hands over necklace*.... and nothing else"
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2010-11-25, 10:16 | Link #6919 |
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I agree with Chey. Every girl loves shoes, but it's not just the matter of right taste and right size - they always fit differently and have to match something.
The underwear thing is a nice idea imo - you could just peek at her sizes if you're not sure, since you're living together anyway. One never has enough underwear! But the downside is (like chey already said) most females are very picky about underwear, not just the style but the comfort, too. I lack the english terms for it, but not all types of bras are great for all kind of boobies. They have to look nice after all. I'm not saying you shouldn't do it, but try to fit in your choice with .. her fit. For example if she usually wears bras with wire go that line, too .. it has nothing to do with the fanciness, though. And in my own experience ... I prefer to buy both items myself or together. They're just hard to get right xD But on a whole different matter: ... she doesn't have basic black high heels yet? :O .... *glances at wardrope* ... nevermind. You actually were pretty smart thinking about that, they're really handy since they fit everything and every occasion - a must have. |
2010-11-25, 11:40 | Link #6920 | |
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The single-parent family idea, and that the parent is financially capable, will lead to a dystopic utopia when the kid simply learns from one parent, and therefore inherit all their flaws without the other counteracting to the custodial's. As I have been shaked like cocktail just now and my brain is still in recovery mode, I am afraid you have to read it on your own. Wish I had a girlfriend like Shiori from Kami Nomi. Quiet, pretty and bookish. It is not like I get to make out with her!
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