2010-02-05, 03:01 | Link #2881 |
The AnimeSuki Pet kitten
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The whole teenage dating thing is more of a "latest craze" sort of thing in much the same way as Apple releasing a new iPod: basically it's "I want it because they have it and it's cool"
Brutally speaking, entering a relationship for the reason of following sheep is like starting out driving with a monster truck. It's cool, but dangerous, especially if something goes really really really wrong. When I think about it, it's hard to reason why any teenager should have a relationship with someone else. Maybe it's this Generation Y thing. We all seem to want to outdo each other, want to be the best at something. The higher you rise in the social ladder, the further you have to fall, and the more likely you'll permanently injure yourself.
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2010-02-05, 03:29 | Link #2882 |
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^ You are onto something with Generation Y imo. The abolishment of most privacy and the entry of social medias together with new technology opens for a much more open society Generation Y, and to some extant Generation X, has attached themselves to. They/We share information like never before and hence build up new relationships that might or might not lead to something serious (online/distance). Whether this is a good or bad thing can be discussed, though.
It's also a race online, and offline, to outshine each other, come blogs, school, hobbies or, as you say, relationships. It's everything or nothing, but reputation is kept in high regard. Just so happens a BF/GF is a status item in this era. But, that's just how I see it. I'm busy with Uni and my hobbies to care about someone else on such a level at this point in time.
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2010-02-05, 04:26 | Link #2883 | |
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Join Date: Oct 2006
Location: Vancouver, Canada
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I don't want to presume to know you, but are you sure it's the lack of romance in your life that's causing your depression? I know geek males often really want girlfriends - I've felt that way myself from time to time - but it seems to me more likely that you're suffering depression due to lack of social connections in general. All this being said... Quote:
I'm not sure how much that really helps since clearly I went through several unfruitful years on the romance front. And hell, it's not like simply finding that girl put me "in the clear" since she's shy and I've had to respect that, but I hope it provides a bit of perspective.
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2010-02-05, 06:11 | Link #2884 | |||
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That worries me a little, I don't want to see my life 'pass me by' that sucks ;P And I don't look down on solitude - it's just I have been in this house - on my own for the best part of 10 months now. I can stomach it but sometimes I just feel sad for apparently no reason. I don't have that kind of relationship with my dad. I see him maybe 1 hour a day if i'm lucky, he's not at work all the time though - also i'm not socially on that level with him. We have had a rocky relationship, whenever something 'bad' happens in the household he has to take care of it. So if my mum asks him to punish me then i'll take it out on him. He's also very stubborn, and also I get too embarressed to talk about this sort of thing with people. I can only talk about it to people I've never met, seems easier. And I don't want a relationship to feed my lonliness. It's just something that would pull me out. I want my relationship to be true, I'd take it completely and whole-heartedly serious, although it's impossible to put that into words. Quote:
And also, sorry RadiantBeam, I couldn't find anything to comment about your post but I'm not rushing and I don't think it's too early. Like you guys said, you never know when your going to hit a relationship, so it's never to early or to late, ya? (within reason) I think it's beneficial to prepare myself for the next card I'm dealt.
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2010-02-05, 06:16 | Link #2885 | |
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I just 'crave' the relationship, I crave having the house and kids - the chores, the love, the fun days, the sad days, everything. I just.. feel theres a part of me missing, ya? kind of hard to explain, you would have to feel the same things to understand And you were pretty lucky with that, shy girls = win. Also, where would I got for an anime convention, I'm in the U.K and have never heard of any over here. Though i've heard of them in japan and america.
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2010-02-05, 06:22 | Link #2886 | ||
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2010-02-05, 07:13 | Link #2887 | |
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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of...United_Kingdom Wiki only lists two sadly, but there's Minamicon in leciester on march (tickets sell out in 2 days in Oct) and there's Amecon 5 this aug, i better go check the website myself actually >.> Anyways, dating wise, you've brushed off your father as an option. I know its hard to talk to those closer to you who you get on with so so, but that's how it is sometimes with a partner. If you drift apart, are you just gonna find someone else to spill your problems to or are you gonna be a man and sit your partner down to seriously discuss things. You can try with your parents, you never know what'll happen. But for being at home alone for most part, methinks you need to go out once in a while. (even if it's just walking around a shopping centre, checking out game stores to hitting the library or park). Or more over, you should be focusing on GCSE's and 6th form (which is usually a nice new world, compared to high schol) and joining new clubs in there. Life passing you by is a luxury as long as you're enjoying it. Trust me, there are a million and one things to fufil your life outside of being in a relationship. The craving is natural but you learn to live with it, rather than let it consume you. I don't think you'll magically become brave and open when a girl you like comes by your way, if you feel really reserved at present. Rather, begin by building the confidence from within by yourself.
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2010-02-05, 10:34 | Link #2888 | |
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So again, honestly, don't stress. You're still young, and you have a lot of time. Things change when you're in your teen years; you don't need to panic now or feel depressed about being alone, and honestly, it isn't beneficial at all to wait for "the next card to be dealt" as you put it. Doing that will only put you on edge and make the current situation you're in much worse.
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2010-02-05, 12:38 | Link #2890 |
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I came across a very interesting article on Sankaku about dating. It is a worthwhile read if you ignore the other articles on the site.
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2010-02-05, 13:40 | Link #2892 | ||
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2010-02-05, 14:10 | Link #2893 | |
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Dating is like fishing. Not everyone gets a big catch, or even any, on their first.
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2010-02-05, 14:40 | Link #2894 | |
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2010-02-05, 14:44 | Link #2895 | |
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2010-02-05, 15:19 | Link #2897 |
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There was an formula kinda like the Drake equation. Can't remember it now but the maker applied it and it went something like: in his country 40m people, chance of finding meeting a woman who meets all his criteria around 2%, chance of them liking him back burned it down to around 0.4%. So don't go holding your breath for meeting someone utterly perfect for you huh xD
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2010-02-05, 15:23 | Link #2898 | |
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2010-02-05, 15:26 | Link #2899 |
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Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: England
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*Sighh*
I daren't ask him out.. we are friends, we talk, we have a laugh together but we never see eachother out of school. I want to ask him out but I am scared. I get really nervous, I've only known him a couple of months but we get along really well and he is the most gorgeous and kind boy ever. And this time he is more my age, he is 15 Any good techiniques, for asking him out but not directly, like not asking that question.. something that wont make me nervous.
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