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However, regarding character traits you are right... partners most likely won't change them (especially if they are fully matured).
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2011-12-08, 05:42 | Link #9782 |
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Age: 35
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Actually, after reading through all of these posts, sometimes I wonder why many guys actually want to go into a relationship when they expect heartbreaks or failures despite putting their all into it, or even worse, doling out expenses the Dutch way.
Males are supposed to be more rational - and I am a pretty good example; I have so plenty of 2D waifus, and I am very happy to have near-perfect girls like them to love. Plus I don't have to spend much on them too by going out to build relationship points. And when I want another one, all I have to do is the basics of starting a relationship - plan, improvise and execute......no need to waste effort on being introspective, or rather, totally forgetting about that during the relationship.
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2011-12-08, 05:56 | Link #9783 | |
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Location: The Middle Way
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Also, it feels pretty good when things don't go as expected.
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2011-12-08, 06:27 | Link #9784 | |
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Location: In Despair
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2011-12-08, 06:45 | Link #9786 |
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Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: Athens (GMT+2)
Age: 35
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That's a mean blow below the belt To his defence though, I may not have 2D waifus but my town is a place of superior tranquility, so I rarely ever feel the need to go out dating. The only time I do is in winter, and I already got my plans set for December 27th
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2011-12-08, 07:43 | Link #9787 | ||
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It get's me more angry than anything else lol. Here's a straight example from last year's winter holidays. My gf and are live a few hundred miles apart. We are both going to Toronto for the holidays. We've been already officially together for almost a year: Me: I'm really booked and busy this winter holiday, are you free on the 28th? We should spend the entire day together. Her: Sorry I have plans on that day. Me: Aw that sucks, that means we only have new years eve and new years together AFTER the 28th: Her: Do you not want to see me that much? Me: What? Of course I wanted to see you. Her: Well when I told you I'm busy on the 28th, I wasn't. But you didn't seem to care at all or ask me to reschedule. ^ It went to hell from there and we broke up before new years eve. But to me it's like "what the fuck?" , Honestly, we both have our rights and wrongs. I put her privacy and her life before my own feelings. She wants to feel wanted more and wants me to try harder. Well it didn't work and my relationships keep ending over these sort of things that make me sit on my toilet for two hours thinking: "you're breaking up with me because of that?". It's hard to feel heartbroken from those kind of things. I'm also not the type who gets drunk from my own testosterone so I doubt I can be heartbroken by a girl that I am not official with. I'm also surprised I haven't ran into paranoid girls that constantly stalk you and wonder if you're cheating on them. Maybe because they think I'm too fugly to cheat on them dawww, hey wait a minute. I enjoy sex-free but fun dates more than relationships as of now. Note that I'm still very young :P |
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2011-12-08, 07:50 | Link #9788 | |
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Location: Dublin, Ireland
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2011-12-08, 08:04 | Link #9789 | |
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She was particularly lecturing me about how after my ex-gf dumped me, that she tried to make up again. And I turned her down without forgiving her, even if it was clear she realized she made a wrong decision. But I was really angry that time so I don't see my decision would have changed even with my friend's lecturing. :P ------------- Before I engage in a relationship, my major concern is always 'will she dump me for another man' (No, doesn't have to be cheating). And I kind of just forget about everything else. Because that condition alone just cuts down the fish population by so much. |
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2011-12-08, 09:03 | Link #9791 | |
NYAAAAHAAANNNNN~
Join Date: Nov 2007
Age: 35
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If you think that is unfair, think again because as a guy you don't have to have a control rod rammed in between your legs and being commanded by it.
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2011-12-08, 09:13 | Link #9792 | |
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Join Date: May 2008
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What a guy has that is deadlier than any sin (lust in your case) is pride. The worst of the lot and men have done some stupid ass things just for the sake of pride. Forgiveness isn't one of them. If a man is bowing down to a woman being spiteful and manipulative, he's pussy whipped beyond self respect. As for 'who', well I can look personally for that, on a general note, it's amazing how many women get thrown out, disowned, discredited or stoned to death for 'transgressions' that she actually doesn't commit...
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2011-12-08, 10:51 | Link #9793 | |
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Eventually, I was sick of it and said, "Either break up with me or stop threatening to do it." That got the job done.
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2011-12-08, 11:04 | Link #9794 |
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Join Date: Dec 2007
Location: Dublin, Ireland
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My words would be "I don't want to be with a girl who would break up with me over such trivial things..."
*or* "So I guess [insert trivial thing] is more important to you then our relationship then, then I guess you don't think our relationship is worth much..." If she comes back begging(after feelings have cooled sufficiently) take her back magnaminously, you've made your point. It's important not to let yourself get "whipped". And anyway, don't women like the confident type who isn't easily controlled? |
2011-12-08, 11:21 | Link #9795 | |
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Don't take that seriously as something against only women though xD I hate the break up of a relationship used regularly as threats. It's so demeaning and crude. |
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2011-12-08, 13:13 | Link #9796 | ||
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2011-12-08, 13:28 | Link #9797 | |
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Sad but true.
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2011-12-08, 13:58 | Link #9798 | |||
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2011-12-08, 14:14 | Link #9799 | |
Anime Cynic
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Men are more straightforward than women; it's just their personality. Why do you think there's so much conflict in relationships between men and women? It's because each gender sees things differently. That's simply a fact of life, not sexism.
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2011-12-08, 14:25 | Link #9800 | ||
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Regardless, you're correct in saying that it's a generalization, and I apologize if it offended you. Quote:
Why do you think there's so much conflict in the world, even though governments tend to be run by men? Because people - that term encompasses both genders - tend to run into conflicts. Or do you have a study proving that homosexual couples tend to fight less than heterosexual couples? If so, I'd be very interested to read it.
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