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2010-02-11, 15:01 | Link #3002 | |
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Btw, your family doesn't have a point at all.
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2010-02-11, 15:21 | Link #3003 | |
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2010-02-11, 16:24 | Link #3004 | |
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2010-02-11, 16:33 | Link #3005 | |
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If they're serious, say the same thing only just as serious. Also add that you'd like for them to drop the topic of it for now, and rather encourage you with studying. In otherwords, talk to them, be straight with them, get the feelings out on the table and discuss with them, rather than asking us per se And you're only 18, the study > relationships will buy you time until you've graduated
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2010-02-11, 16:54 | Link #3006 | |
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2010-02-11, 17:08 | Link #3007 | |
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2010-02-11, 17:49 | Link #3008 | |
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So I'm never able to figure them out.
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2010-02-11, 18:43 | Link #3009 | |
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2010-02-11, 21:07 | Link #3011 | |
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I dunno, maybe doing so at this point will make it clear between you and your parents. Whatever happens from this should be a good thing; either your parents will stop teasing you that way, or you start seeing it as the joke it probably is from then on. |
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2010-02-11, 22:50 | Link #3012 | |
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When I was younger I'd simply yell but now I would raise my voice and then lower it, telling them to stop it with a serious tone. Raising your voice get's their attention and then being serious send the message across.
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2010-02-11, 23:00 | Link #3013 |
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Won't work. My dad is one of those people who has an annoying habit of speaking lower no matter how loud we are, and he and my mom both consider it childish to yell. Besides, I doubt I'd really get my point across by shouting at them.
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2010-02-11, 23:59 | Link #3014 | |
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Let them know that you don't want to talk about relationships with them.
Personally, I can't stand it when relatives talk about relationships with me. I remember in highschool I was seeing this girl (living with my mother at the time), and the next thing I know EVERYONE in the family are talking about me and my girlfriend. Um, excuse me, this is my private life. It has nothing to do with the family. Stop gossiping without any concern for my privacy, and GTFO. Then again I don't get along with the family, so I'd use some discretion in letting them know that they're bothering you. Quote:
It's one of those uncomfortable conversations you need to risk hurting them and talk with them about. Otherwise you're just doing a disservice not only for yourself, but for them as well. |
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1. Yeah, but none of them had real character. 2. They seem to be more interested in sleeping with me rather than dating. 3. None of them are really good you know. <so-and-so> is like <that>, then <xxx> is like <that>, etc. None of them are my type. or if you are more daring AND your parents DO NOT HAVE ANY HISTORY OF HEART PROBLEMS : 4. I am picking my cherries before letting them pop mine. I know what I am doing. 5. I think I would go for an IUD implant first. I still think 3 is one of the best replies. It pushes sense across and makes quite a good excuse. But just like any of its kind, it has limited uses so it is best said strategically. However, Ascaloth probably has the best solution to this : Quote:
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2010-02-12, 03:05 | Link #3016 | |
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2010-02-12, 03:27 | Link #3017 | ||
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That's the point, you wouldn't be yelling per say, you would raise your voice, firmly, just to then lower it to a serious tone. There's a big difference and this way definitely catches attention since it is a sign of authority. It helps to study the body language and sit/stand in a (literary) position of authority. This would send many unconscious signals to your parents which should help you get the seriousness of your message across. Quote:
As always, I resort to Logic and Psychology, because in my opinion that is the best way to handle any situation, with careful consideration. A good tip is to read up on human behavior and body-language. It is really useful in situations like this. |
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2010-02-12, 07:44 | Link #3019 | |
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2010-02-12, 09:07 | Link #3020 | |
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Take mine for instance. The only thing I learned from my family is not to learn from my family. I've lived a much healthier life following my own path and trusting the people I chose to learn from instead of my own family, who aren't the kind of people I would call role models. Not to mention the years of damage done by them that I had to recover from. In any case, RB seems like a smart person. Sometimes it's just hard to break out of your parents' grasp when they're hurting you. |
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