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2010-02-25, 09:06 | Link #3482 | |
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Stilettos are even worse. The technology used could be better used to arm soldiers with Fairburn-Sykes fighting knives.
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2010-02-25, 09:06 | Link #3483 | |
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That says, to reply to your question, I am surprised that you don't know it since you're an italian XD (kidding ^^) First versions of high heels (heels as we know it nowadays) appeared in Venise during the 16th century. As for stilletto shoes, the first version of it is apparead in the late 19th century, and then become a classic when a french shoes designer named André Perugia (yes, Yoko, he had parents from italian roots) started designing shoes. Fun fact. Stilletto shoes are named "Escarpins" in French. The word is derivated from the italian word "scarpino" which means IIRC "little shoes". |
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2010-02-25, 09:43 | Link #3486 |
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Just a general question, not so much about me, but I guess about how to handle a situation I'm currently in with my friend. A few months ago she met this boy online, while still dating her boyfriend of two years, and is absolutely nuts about the guy. She broke up with her boyfriend to go out with this guy (who is roughly two years younger than she is, but that's not my problem). And I mean, she is gaga over him; says things like "This is the closest to love I'll ever get", and the kid has some serious devotion to her. I mean, serious, single-minded devotion. Like, she is his world.
Now, on one hand, I want to be happy for her because hey, she's happy.... but for some reason, it sits wrong with me. My gut instinct keeps saying that it isn't right, that something's off, but I don't dare say any of this to her because I know she's happy and I know she probably won't listen to me anyway even if I try to say something. I don't know. At this point, I'm seriously at a loss. Maybe I'm overreacting to the whole situation, but it's been going on now for three months and this nagging feeling of wrongness about it hasn't faded in the slightest.
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2010-02-25, 09:51 | Link #3490 | |
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If it was me, I wouldn't bother journeying all the way to see someone that I've merely exchanged a few words online with (and haven't even seen his face other than a picture). But if she's crazy over the guy... sometimes you can't help it but feel like you're meant to meet him? If you feel so strongly against it, maybe you can convince her to think about her actions a little more and perhaps wait before meeting him. 3 months isn't a long time of getting to know each other >_> especially online... |
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2010-02-25, 09:51 | Link #3491 | |
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EDIT: @Buttercup: She's turning nineteen soon, and he'll be seventeen in March.
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2010-02-25, 09:56 | Link #3492 | |
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2010-02-25, 09:56 | Link #3493 |
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I don't know what to make of this tbh.......
I'm with Kusa anyways. You can like someone you met over the inet, maybe more than you would most other people and be really close, but you can't call it love unless you've met him/her physically and know that you can be around her presence. What irks me the most is that she dumped a guy for another guy she's never even seen. That's what's really stupid. |
2010-02-25, 09:58 | Link #3494 |
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It also sounds like she's being worshipped, and that can go to someone's head. Also, if he's just pushing all the right buttons, it can easily bypass the logical part of a woman's head and trigger pure emotion. Because they've only chatted with text online, they can't really know the other person, which means each is building up a certain idealism in their head; at least she is. that will get shattered when they meet.
Good news is, there is still time before summer, and time for her emotions to drop a bit, until she maybe starts thinking clearly again. The best you can do is be supportive, share your concerns, but not enough to drive her away. She'll need you later, if the relationship ends or goes bad. But sadly, there's no way to talk her out of it. |
2010-02-25, 09:59 | Link #3495 |
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I tried talking to her about it way back in the beginning, when she was still with her ex-boyfriend and everything. Needless to say, it didn't end well since she didn't like the fact that I was trying to talk to her about my feelings on the situation when I was (and still am) single, in comparison. I haven't tried bringing it up again since then.
On one hand I know there's really nothing I can do about it, so I should probably just let it run its course and do my best to be there for her if things end badly between the two of them. But on the other hand.... I mean, she's my friend. I don't want to see her get hurt.
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2010-02-25, 10:11 | Link #3496 |
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Well there's still months away from summer... she has time to think it over and you have time to try and bring it up again ^^''
Within that time, she might come to her senses. I agree with Kaijo that this guy can just be saying all the right things through words... and you can't truly say you LOVE someone based on that. I'm sure the more she talks to him, the more she'll realize that this guy isn't perfect and there are other guys she'll come closing to loving =) |
2010-02-25, 10:12 | Link #3497 | |
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(2) Age shouldn't be a personal issue if they're sure about each other, but it can be a legal issue due to one being under the legal age. Going into a relationship blindfolded really isn't a good idea. They would both need to know more about each other before taking the next step. And the above comment indicates that outside of her current friend, she might not find love with anyone else. Sure she may have to be patient to find love, but it's not impossible if this one doesn't work out.
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2010-02-25, 10:21 | Link #3498 | |
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To be fair to them, they are planning to wait until he's legal if they make it that far; so far as I know, they haven't even done any cyber stuff. I'm not bothered by the age difference, myself, it's everything that led up to them dating that bugs me.
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2010-02-25, 10:39 | Link #3499 |
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@RadiantBeam,
Erm....wow. Your friend is setting herself up to be preyed upon by an online predator. I'm not claiming that's what the guy online is, but....chances are actually pretty high. In this case, I think you'll best serve your friend's interests by tattling to her folks. She'll probably hate you for life (and by that, I mean she'll have a grudge against you until the day she wises up and matures), but y'know, whatever's necessary to save her from a VERY bad decision, especially if she isn't listening to you. I dunno, maybe my suggestion isn't the best way, but someone's got to know about this. |
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