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日本語を食べません!
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- Getting away from the computer is easy. Shut it off and go do something outside. |
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2008-07-13, 17:52 | Link #142 |
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MY MOMS KID! lol. shes having another one. T_T big mistake...but we all make them and there isnt much we can do now. And ive been trying....its easier said than done. Theres this feeling i get everytime i get home or wake up in the morning. Its telling me to get on the commputer...like a meth adict..There body wants them to go to there stash and Smoke the meth. its the same thing. IT inslaves me....Should i be getting an intervention? lol. (not a meth adict)
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2008-07-14, 15:22 | Link #144 | |
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A quick way is to see if you're neglecting your friends or family to be online, or if you're always tired because you spend all night on the Web. Though I'm not a trained psychologist by any means, I would suggest this: - Borrow your mom's kitchen timer or a watch with a countdown or something - Set it for 45 minutes or an hour or whatever - Surf. When the timer goes off, can you step away from the computer? |
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2008-07-14, 20:29 | Link #145 |
Ooooo what?!
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Ah, I'm reminded of a person who used to be in my WoW guild who applied as a female, addressed themselves as female, got his girlfriend to talk on vents for him when required and gave out her picture to his online friends claiming it was him.
He eventually stopped playing after his gf left him over his idiocy.
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2008-07-14, 20:44 | Link #146 | |
noch einmal?
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2008-09-28, 14:03 | Link #148 |
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Get to know each other in real life, then you'll naturally know If you are ment for dating each other.
I dated a girl I met in a metal music forum, and It lasted 9 months, It was pretty good overall, and there weren't any big surprises for both of us. But we were just the lucky ones. That might differ for you mate |
2008-10-03, 13:16 | Link #149 |
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I, as an individial, do not understand how internet relationships work at all.
Understand that this is my personal opinion, but people falling in love with text on a screen and a display picture is beyond me. Yes they can speak through microphones and may also have access to web cameras, but I do not see how that even compares to having your first meeting together in person. Introducing yourself to them, talking, laughing, having a lovely walk, all as you are looking into their very real and beautiful eyes. To me that is a lot better than sitting in a chair and typing comments....which also, knowing the interweb, could be from sarcastic people that want something to laugh about. I could never trust the interweb when it comes to things such as this. So if you are in an internet relationship then please be cautious. But if you know them well enough to trust them then that is fair enough. |
2008-10-03, 18:34 | Link #150 | ||
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Sometimes distance gives people no choice and this would be the only susbsitute they have. But it's the same blind faith that people put in others as we all do now on Asuki, reading each others stuff, deciding to believe or not who pple say they are, or what they claim to know about topics in here.
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2008-10-03, 18:39 | Link #151 | |
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2008-10-03, 20:57 | Link #152 | |
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2008-10-04, 06:40 | Link #153 | |||
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Understand that it is simply just something that I could personally not do because of my lifestyle and thoughts. I do not disagree with it and I know it sometimes works amazingly, although it is just something I would never do as an individual. I hope you can understand that, we are all different. |
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2008-10-04, 06:58 | Link #154 |
Honyaku no Hime
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We're not bashing ya, to each their own to be honest, I wouldn't force everyone to conceive new relationships or friendships via the net, it just happens to be another method available that's all.
You weren't sure how it could even work, so I think we were just giving examples. Anyways, good luck with the offline chasing
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2008-10-04, 08:04 | Link #155 |
I desire Tomorrow!
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People are here, people are there. As long as you can a) attend your work efficiently, b)eat properly, c)sleep enough d)have some OTHER interests availabe, you can be wherever you want to be and make the friends you want to make, whether they are online or offline. The rest is purely a matter of preference. If I prefer going out, I'll go out, if I want to talk to my friends online instead, I'll do that. I hardly see how one is objectively more preferable than the other if everything else is ok. After all, going out with friends is for fun and communication, both of which you can also do online. Damn, I can be going out with friends and neglecting everything else of importance, that's not good either but no one ever makes that point when talking about internet addiction.
Now going on to romantic relationships, yeah I partly agree that you DO have to think about meeting eventually, even if you can see the other person in a webcam, it's really not the same level of communication. Communication between lovers has to be physical as well as emotional, so you really should be thinking of taking that step eventually. Otherwise, we're just really really really really good friends. I'd consider it pretty abnormal if you're perfectly content with not seeing the other person live or even against that under this particular situation. And no, if you really care, all obstacles can be, in some way, overcome, maybe not right here and now, but planning and being patient is essential when you try a relationship online. But friends... Nah, friends can be anywhere and everywhere.
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2008-10-04, 16:20 | Link #157 |
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/me hasn't read the entire thread so please do not shoot.
I find that there is nothing wrong about internet relations. Of course, I would always be wary about those people who hide under the guise of being a female of a certain age and looking a certain way but I don't think that should govern the way you act completely and totally. Be careful, don't do anything stupid, you know the whole jazz. As far as personal experience goes, I had a "long-short" distance relationship for 'bout nine months. Long as in we did meet via a small private forum that my friends and I made and she came along as a friend of one of my friends. Short as in she lives about 15 miles from me (which is short in Florida). We did meet up a few times and all that. Nothing too serious. So yeah, they are possible. Nothing's wrong with 'em. Just be careful with 'em. |
2008-10-04, 20:13 | Link #159 |
I desire Tomorrow!
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Could you please elaborate on how CASUAL social skills are lowered when you have relations of some kind online. I mean, sure if you don't practice etiquette and tact (which you hardly practice in online chats), they'll get rusty. But casual social skills? What, just the pickup lines? There are pickup lines or starting lines online, too, so it's pretty much the same.
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2008-10-04, 20:13 | Link #160 | |
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But as far as relationships go, I'd agree that getting out and meeting people is probably best. As I said a long time ago in this thread, there's a difference between getting along with someone communication- and value-wise, and getting along with them in person. There's a lot that goes into a relationship, but compatibility in both aspects that I just mentioned are rather critical if you want a relationship with lasting power and that provides more happiness than misery.
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