2011-07-09, 07:39 | Link #9301 |
Knight Errant
Join Date: Dec 2007
Location: Dublin, Ireland
Age: 35
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I once went to a college speed dating thing (which was a bit messed up as there were only 6 of us, and we spent at least 30 min-1 hour with a single person...) and I ended out talking to this french girl and it was the most awkward hour I've ever spent with a girl. She was completely frigid! I tried telling jokes but she didn't laugh at all (not even faux laughing!), I tried agonisingly to make any kind of conversation possible, but it was like talking to a brick wall! I'd ask something, she's make a short response, but she wouldn't make any effort to continue at all!
Awful awful experience. When you go speed dating, make sure it's run properly, so you don't end out spending an hour trying to talk to the abyss. |
2011-07-09, 09:47 | Link #9302 | |
Hardcore meets Casual
Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
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2011-07-09, 19:53 | Link #9305 | |
Knight Errant
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Location: Dublin, Ireland
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You can actually tell a fair amount about a person in 5 minutes. But make sure if you do go to one, that there's a decent amount of people. I'd say you can get along with 1/6-1/3 of all the people you meet speed dating, so you should be able to come out of a night with 20 people with 3-6 potential dates. Pretty good I think. But it really is unpleasant having to talk to wall like that... Luckily in real speed dating you'll never have to do it for much longer then 5 minutes! |
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2011-07-09, 22:19 | Link #9307 |
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Join Date: Sep 2008
Age: 38
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I'm merely saying that you wouldn't likely see the point of something like speed dating if you don't really have any trouble getting dates or having people become interested in you/give you the time of day. Not all of us are that lucky/cursed (depending on one's point of view).
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2011-07-10, 05:35 | Link #9313 | |
Knight Errant
Join Date: Dec 2007
Location: Dublin, Ireland
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Obviously it would be great to meet people casually at parties or whatever, but for a lot of us that's very difficult. For instance, all my friends are pretty much guys, and all my friend's friends are ... guys as well! When I go to a party the room is pretty much 80% guys (and a lot of the girls are girlfriends). I haven't dated once in my entire life (embarrassing as it is...), and it's largely due to the fact that I rarely talk to women at all in my day to day to life. Given my circumstances there are only a few choices ahead of me: 1. Internet dating, I explained it's downsides in an earlier post 2. Blind dating, I explained how speed dating is similiar but superior above 3. Asking random girls out on the street (embarrassing ) 4. Hoping I meet girls in a future workplace (I didn't get anywhere hoping to meet girls in college...) 5. Speed dating 6. Pay a girl to pretend to be a girlfriend (NO!) 7. Abduct a girl off the street and "train" her to be my girlfriend, rape=love! (This isn't some kind of sick h-game!) 7. Join a monastery (not going to get me a date, but I get enlightenment?) As a format it's quite versatile, they even do speed dating for other things, like business networking. Last edited by DonQuigleone; 2011-07-10 at 05:48. |
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2011-07-12, 19:39 | Link #9314 |
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Question(s) relating to males trying to court/get the interest of a girl:
Is there an easy way to discern if a girl is playing hard-to-get versus being just uninterested? And mixed signals...I dunno if this should be considered as part of a girl playing hard-to-get or just a girl whose actions make someone (me) confused. (Mixed signals in this case refer to someone who, I initially didn't keep in touch with as we were acquaintances. We started to talk again and for a week were talking every day. She no longer talks to me daily via IM or texting yet still keeps in touch with me via Facebook, Twitter and Google+ [added me yesterday]) I don't know whether to give up on certain girls and go for someone new, or try to rekindle something.
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2011-07-13, 11:42 | Link #9315 | |
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I think the bigger question is would you really be interested in someone who is into playing pointless games? Sorry, but I never really understood "playing hard to get". Head games were never really my thing. If it were me, I would cut my losses and move on. |
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2011-07-13, 13:40 | Link #9316 | |
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There is a reason for this. When starting a romantic relationship, people usually want to make sure the person they're dating is serious. They don't want to be fooling around with someone who will fuck them, emotionally suck them dry, and discard them. A good friend of mine has spent eight years angsting over an ex of hers that was essentially a psychic vampire. Countless friends have instructed her to stop freaking out about it, but it wasn't until recently that she figured out what was actually going on. "Playing hard to get" is a woman's application process, to put it in a technical metaphor. They're trying to make sure you're not just dicking them around. They want to make sure the relationship will be equal, that you are as interested in them as they are in you. You can't just automatically trust someone with that much power, which is why people who "wear their hearts on their sleeves" end up hurt so often. They're natural targets of emotional predators and d-bags.
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2011-07-13, 13:50 | Link #9317 |
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Really?! I must have seriously lucked out then. The few times I was actually looking for a serious relationship DID consist of one of us simply asking out the other person. In fact, my husband didn't even bother asking, he just leaned over and kissed me while we were arguing. We have been married for nearly 6 yrs.
Inb4 he kissed you just to shut you up. |
2011-07-13, 13:54 | Link #9318 | |
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he totally kissed you to shut you up... *shot*
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2011-07-13, 15:13 | Link #9319 |
Knight Errant
Join Date: Dec 2007
Location: Dublin, Ireland
Age: 35
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RE: Hard to get
There's a very obvious solution to this problem. If she is playing games with you, then you start playing games with her!!! Two can play at that game. (though another interesting way to interpret that sentence is to bring her to your house for a play "date" and start playing Pokémon with her... "I haven't played it since I was 10! This is stupid!" "What? I've been playing every game released for the past 10 years! I've caught every single Pokémon! 4 times!" "Uh, I guess that shows you're hardworking but...") The above is not based on personal experience... |
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