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You know guys, thanks for all your replies, all my friends were telling me to stay with him, as the right choice.. but it's the lying and the chance of him finding out , thats concluded this decision the most. I mean, he can text me for now if he wants, but on Friday I am definately telling him my decision. - It stops me from having to continue lying to someone who I know doesn't deserve it, and it avoids a bad situation on my own behalf. Thanks Everyone ~ x
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2010-09-29, 17:26 | Link #6622 |
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You silly forum rage-addicts and internet white knights, Miko Miko doesn't live in the US. The entire world is not the US, you know.
She's not jailbait in the country she lives in. The lie about the age was only to get into the club (due to drinking age). The reason she doesn't want people knowing is because she might want to go back to that club at some point.
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2010-09-29, 17:31 | Link #6623 |
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Join Date: Sep 2010
Location: Writer's Ville
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A guy I'm dating... confused!
I need a little advice.
You see... i am dating this guy. He has a kid and is older then me. He lives in another state(not too far). Now I kno your thinking that I'ma ask you wheather should i stay or should I go? No. He doesnt have a job yet, but he looks after his kid as best he can and doesnt live with the baby mama. So he isnt a bad dad. We've been together nearly two months and we have already talked about moving in with each other, and potential marriage and future kids. None of what i have just listed was forced into coversation, or asked. But merely just slowly brought about. He goes to school and does conctructive things when he isnt busy. We talk EVERY night on the phone and we have webcammed so we have seen eachother. Ive known him for two years perviously so he isnt a complete stranger. What i want to ask is: Does he seem like the type to cheat? I worry highly because: He has a very pretty ex.. very pretty. She doesnt like me at all. Both her and the Baby mama seem to plot things for our break up. So far it hasnt worked. But my boyfriend goes to visit her siblings and he called me ONCE when he was with them because he found out i was mad he never calls when he is over her house. BUT when he is over his baby mama's house he makes time to call or contact me. But when he is over his ex its like... "I love you... but I'm having fun.... soo I'll call you when i get home and settled down." He doesnt say it in those exact words but that seems to sound exactly like what he says in my head.. I never make a federal case of it and he ensures me ever time that i need not worry about any other female. DO to do!!??? |
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2010-09-29, 21:56 | Link #6626 | |
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Drinking laws are retarded anyway.
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2010-09-30, 01:36 | Link #6627 |
You're Hot, Cupcake
Join Date: Aug 2008
Age: 42
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Well...thanks for those that told me in various ways they appreciated that...including Miko. It may suck now, but in the long run you'll be better off for doing it.
I'm so glad I didn't have to go to work today...Time I woke up yesterday...7am. Time I woke up today....2.30pm. My head feels flocked as well. Oh well, such is life.
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2010-09-30, 10:23 | Link #6628 | |
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I was in every nightclub in my city by the age of 15 and while I did a lot of stupid things for a long time - I also learned a lot from it. But I guess it's been laxer in my situation since beer always was allowed by 16. Too bad I didn't like it until two years ago At least I never needed a fake ID ... that would mean big TROUBLE if you get caught. Lying is no good, I totally agree, but it's for everyone to decide themselves when they're ready to roam around the adult world. You just have to live with the responsibilities and consequences. The age limits are there for a reason, yes, but I won't judge someone else if s/he thinks it's ok and their parents are fine with it also. Specially, when they're 16 already. Maturity differs from person to person, right? I just guess Miko has a different mentality and environment than most of the posters here. Btw, I wish you luck Miko and hope it ends well or at least ok with the guy :3 Just for the record: No guy ever exploded because I lied about my age and confessed later. Sometimes they lied themselves and were happy to tell the truth, too XD I guess it would be a harsh lie if it were about jailbait, but it's nothing illegal in this case. But I'll go with the flow and say it's good that you're telling him that it won't go anywhere, Miko. It's mean to lead someone on unnecessarily. Your post was still pretty epic, Last Sinner! XD ---- @bunbun, you know that's hard to say. No one here knows if he's a cheater. My advise would be to trust him for now. Jealousy can destroy the healthiest relationship. Remain a little skeptical, but don't be too jealous and push the issue too much. There is never a sure way to know if your trust was put into the right person. |
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2010-09-30, 12:22 | Link #6629 | |
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The gap closes as both sexes approach 30, but it is especially obvious in the teens. Miko Miko may not be interested in other sixteen year olds because they're largely, universally morons. (Not saying sixteen year old girls aren't also morons, either. I was sixteen once and I was an enormous idiot.)
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2010-09-30, 12:33 | Link #6630 | |
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No, I partially agree with you, but I'd suggest that on average, it's just that boys and girls tend to mature along different lines. Girls tend to develop earlier in the areas of empathy and emotional intelligence. Guys tend to develop self-sufficiency and emotional self-control earlier. That has been my experience by and large, and girls who tend to date upward significantly are often doing one or multiple of the following. 1) Overestimating their own maturity. 2) Giving in to the 'forbidden fruit' aspect of stigmatized behavior. 3) Specifically looking for someone mature in the same ways they are, in which case, yes, that is more likely to be an older guy. The same also applies to most situations where a younger guy is dating a significantly older girl. But, again, this is just what I have observed from the experiences of those around me and from my own experiences, and there are going to be exceptions all over the place.
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2010-09-30, 12:33 | Link #6631 |
You're Hot, Cupcake
Join Date: Aug 2008
Age: 42
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I could tell you so much more. Believe me - I know how much evil lies in the hearts of men. But this isn't the place for it. I simply didn't want to see what seems like a decent person be deceptive when they don't mean to be due to inexperience and still finding their way in life. I've seen too many people I know make mistakes that have taken them years to overcome. I've seen some make mistakes that were fatal. I didn't want to see someone that young mess up.
On age - because I'm 29 yet look more like 21, it makes adults take me much less seriously. A lot treat me like I'm still kid-like and it annoys me. Just everyday situations - it's just weird. Even if I dress adult-like, people still don't buy it. Hell, I was still being asked to prove I was 18 two years ago. Honestly, how many people that are 27 are asked to prove their freaking age...Christ, I knew 15 year olds that were able to get into clubs and casinos with ease because no one even thought to question their age.
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2010-09-30, 12:55 | Link #6633 | |
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Afaik when it comes to dating, it's not a matter of stupidity, but responsibility...and there's an equal amount of irresponsible people from both sides, like seriously moody girls that never keep a schedule and mind-boggled guys that wouldn't remember your name after a week. On to the matter of age, I've met my share of mature girls even as early as 14, but then again I've been setting an example to my peers ever since I can remember. It is not really age that affects a relationship (unless you're going through the "old" phase and everyone seems too young to approach), as it is what comes with age: a job, your own house, different ways of passing your leisure time, different topics of discussion, different tastes. |
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2010-09-30, 14:41 | Link #6639 |
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Well, Syn, I mostly agree with you that guys are pretty much mindless dolts when they're in their teens, but not all of them are, and that was actually why I also suggested (if you read what I wrote after I said the things you selectively quoted) that if there isn't anyone she found worthy or fancied, she should worry more about making friends, wait until she gets older (as I have considering I've only dated three girls in my life and is still a virgin), and mature herself before looking for a mature relationship with someone, which is what I'm guessing she's after. I'm also certain that it's not a clear cut case of guys being less mature than girls in all cases around Miko. Only she knows that. Also, when I suggested she date people her own age, it was nothing more than a suggestion. I don't mean specifically 16 year old guys, but guys who're closer to her age.
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