Dating

[DonQuigleone]

Originally Posted by zebra

This first cousin once removed sounds so strange to foreign ears What do you remove? XD

One generation removed from me, two generations removed fro me...

Removed also means distance, kinda. You might also say "I'm looking for a house somewhat removed from downtown", similiar concept.

[GDB]

Originally Posted by zebra

This first cousin once removed sounds so strange to foreign ears What do you remove? XD

As I said before, cousin comes from the first level of ancestor you share. Grandparents for first cousin, great-grandparents for second cousin, so on and so forth.

For "removed", you then go the other way. For each generation after your current generation, it's considered to be one level "removed". For example, your first cousin once removed is your cousin's child. You're still technically cousins with the kid, since your first ancestor are your grandparents. The "once removed" just goes the other direction.

[DonQuigleone]

Originally Posted by GDB

As I said before, cousin comes from the first level of ancestor you share. Grandparents for first cousin, great-grandparents for second cousin, so on and so forth.

For "removed", you then go the other way. For each generation after your current generation, it's considered to be one level "removed". For example, your first cousin once removed is your cousin's child. You're still technically cousins with the kid, since your first ancestor are your grandparents. The "once removed" just goes the other direction.

One removed applies in both directions. My mother's first cousin is my second cousin once removed. My cousin's son is my first cousin once removed.

The rule is: Xth cousin-> last common ancestor. Grandparent is first, great grand parent is second etc.

X removed-> generational difference. For ever generational difference, add another degree. Parent's/children's generation is once removed, Grandparents/grandchildren's generation -> twice removed.

Note that you can be about the same age as your cousin once removed, if two prior siblings had children at very different ages. If my grandmother only had children at 40, and my mother again at 40, but my grandmother's sister had children at 20, her daughter at 20 and her daughter again at 20, then I would have a 2nd cousin once removed, who is about the same age as myself, but we would be seperate generations.

[RadiantBeam]

Originally Posted by Tsuyoshi

That's cheating D=

Some people have different definitions of 'cheating'. Sad but true.

[Calca]

About a month ago. So, what should the plan be? Her ex and her had been together for about 5 years which is an incredibly long time. Shall I give her some time and let her enjoy single life since she has not experienced it in a long time? Or should I try and make my move.

If I were to try to make a move, it may lead to awkwardness, but she is just a part time worker and only works a few hours every few days while I am a full time worker.

[Hiroi Sekai]

I'd post this in the Dating thread.

As for your question, give her some time; she's probably not in the mood to think about that kind of stuff right now. It's not good to take advantage in this situation.

[Endless Soul]

Speaking from experience, never date someone you work with.

[Hiroi Sekai]

Originally Posted by Endless Soul

Speaking from experience, never date someone you work with.

I believe the saying is "don't mix business with pleasure". It's never a good idea.

[Last Sinner]

Originally Posted by Khu

So to try to get this topic on some notion of relevance:

How long after a break up (assuming you're the one who initiated it), is it okay to enter a new relationship?

When you see someone that you want to pash and flock her gently.

[Samari]

Originally Posted by Endless Soul

Speaking from experience, never date someone you work with.

Every situation is different. Especially since every kind of job is different. Not to mention the people you associate with. I don't think you can just make a generalization like that.

[Endless Soul]

Originally Posted by Samari

Every situation is different. Especially since every kind of job is different. Not to mention the people you associate with. I don't think you can just make a generalization like that.

It's not a generalization, it's a rule. You're quite right, there's an exception to every rule. My original comment was intended as a warning. If he can manage to go out with her and keep their relationship out of the workplace, hey great! However odds are that isn't going to happen. If they get together things will get akward in the work place, especially if somewhere down the line they break up and are still working together.

It might happen, it might not happen. Who knows? However, I'm going to stick with my original advice and say don't do it until one or the other works someplace else.

[RadiantBeam]

Originally Posted by Streetor

About a month ago. So, what should the plan be? Her ex and her had been together for about 5 years which is an incredibly long time. Shall I give her some time and let her enjoy single life since she has not experienced it in a long time? Or should I try and make my move.

If I were to try to make a move, it may lead to awkwardness, but she is just a part time worker and only works a few hours every few days while I am a full time worker.

I'm going to say give her some time. Five years is a long time for a relationship to last, and she needs time to recover and enjoy the single life a bit.

[Samari]

Originally Posted by Endless Soul

It's not a generalization, it's a rule. You're quite right, there's an exception to every rule. My original comment was intended as a warning. If he can manage to go out with her and keep their relationship out of the workplace, hey great! However odds are that isn't going to happen. If they get together things will get akward in the work place, especially if somewhere down the line they break up and are still working together.

It might happen, it might not happen. Who knows? However, I'm going to stick with my original advice and say don't do it until one or the other works someplace else.

Sorry I can't go by that philosophy. If it can potentially cost you your job for whatever reason, maybe. If not, who cares. Sure people break up and things can happen down the line, but I wouldn't let work get in the way of a chance to be happy with someone. Essentially I wouldn't be scared to make a move "just because". That would be like choosing not to go outside because you could get hit by a car.

[HasuMasu]

That would be like choosing not to go outside because you could get hit by a car.

finally someone understand, those damn drivers driving too fast

[Throne Invader]

Originally Posted by Streetor

About a month ago. So, what should the plan be? Her ex and her had been together for about 5 years which is an incredibly long time. Shall I give her some time and let her enjoy single life since she has not experienced it in a long time? Or should I try and make my move.

If I were to try to make a move, it may lead to awkwardness, but she is just a part time worker and only works a few hours every few days while I am a full time worker.

Befriend her first or if the both of you are already friends just spend time with her. Do some gentlemanly stuff but don't make it too excessive. Don't rush as she may still harbor feelings for her ex.

[Endless Soul]

Originally Posted by Samari

Sorry I can't go by that philosophy. If it can potentially cost you your job for whatever reason, maybe. If not, who cares. Sure people break up and things can happen down the line, but I wouldn't let work get in the way of a chance to be happy with someone. Essentially I wouldn't be scared to make a move "just because". That would be like choosing not to go outside because you could get hit by a car.

That's fine. In the end it's not up to either one of us. I guess we'll see what happens.

[hamandbacon]

My aunt has been divorced for 4 years... his ex husband already has a new girlfriend now. She is now on her 30's... do you know how i can help her to start dating again after her divorce?




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[Tsuyoshi]

This thread is better suited here imho

[Vexx]

Frankly, I'd recommend a dating service like eHarmony. Otherwise, her options are "church of choice", taking classes (either non-credit or credit), or annoying "friends fix up". Obviously, I do not recommend the random "bar hopping" option.

Crafts, hobbies, learning, activities - places where people with a known chance of like-minded tastes in something....

Several of my friends who have successfully found new companions in "after 30" life all used a dating/matchmaking service or activity clubs to narrow the search down.

[synaesthetic]

I wouldn't suggest eHarmony unless she's a conservative Christian. Since, well, that's all you find on eHarmony are conservative Christians and the odd raving fundamentalist.