2009-10-17, 21:31 | Link #1923 |
Photographers are sexy.
Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: Finland
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I'm your typical 'nice guy.' I'm always there for a girl, I'm nice, funny, intelligent, and I never push girls around like the other guys. Yet I am unsuccessful, have yet to experience a date, let alone a kiss. I really like this one girl who is super duper freaking mega cute, but, I'm friendzone'd by every female friend I have.
Not to mention I have a case of depression that is untreatable by medication, along with an anxiety disorder, so I'm pretty much always sad about my whole situation. Baww. |
2009-10-17, 21:46 | Link #1924 | |
Love Conquers All!
Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: The Suzumiya Haruhi Section of AnimeSuki, (I placed my main Otaku HQ box there)
Age: 29
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^ _ ^ Your only in high school, so dun worry so muchy.
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2009-10-17, 22:08 | Link #1925 | ||
I don't give a damn, dude
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: In Despair
Age: 38
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If I do try this though, I'd want to write it in French for her (since she's studying it, and it'll help as a measure agaisnt prying eyes), but....I've never learned French. So yeah. Help, anyone? Narona-chan? Quote:
So yeah, I admit I am a bit bugged, but not as much as I usually would be since we've talked this over. Time will tell how this goes from there. |
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2009-10-17, 22:20 | Link #1926 | |
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Join Date: Sep 2009
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I know un peu of french, and I'd be glad to help in any way I can |
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2009-10-17, 22:50 | Link #1927 |
NYAAAAHAAANNNNN~
Join Date: Nov 2007
Age: 35
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I thought I would never need to post in this thread, but apparently a hard reality struck me.
Recently my parents met up with some distant relatives and invited them over. My sister, with her boyfriend, was the subject of smiles until one of them came into my room and asked a question : " Do you have a girlfriend?" Being the male who used his brains more than his mouth, I said, "Why the heck do I need one?" Immediately they bombarded me with questions like, "Why do you not have one?", "Did you just break up?", "Why don't you go and find?", etc. I just replied in one liners until they went out and offered to matchmake me. The last straw pissed me off and I went out and snapped, "Where are you going to get the girl from? The red light district? You old people with deteriorating braincells, wake up your bloody idea! Since when do girls nowadays look for a guy who earns less than 4k? You come my house then talk so much bullshit, why don't you use your eyes and look at how the f***ing world has changed in 20 f***king years? The average income of a local here is $5k per month and I am serving my national service, earning 10 times less and you still come here and make so much noise. Go back to your village!" Often I get people who ask me to, "Go find a girlfriend" in which I can simply slam them back using, "Got lobang(hole/opportunities in Malay, figuratively), intro. No lobang, diam diam (keep your mouth shut)." Naturally people would keep the best for themselves and leave me alone, but this is just too much for me to take when they prod their long noses into a problem I place at ground zero priority and make it sound so important in front of my parents. Now everyone around me is worried that I might turn into a homosexual, hikkikomori or worse : NEET (never going to happen, I believe in working for my own expenditure). If there is a way to quickly find a stand-in which can be quickly dumped on a short notice, life would certainly be easier on those who know the real priorities in life.
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2009-10-18, 03:16 | Link #1928 | |
Emotionless White Face
Join Date: Feb 2008
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Firstly, tell me the big lines of what you want to tell to her. It might cause you some problems if I translate (using nice french words), for example, a text that makes her think that you want to marry her if you're not ready for that. Words can leave a big impression if the lines have a deep meaning. So, I don't want to write something deep if it's not sincere on your side. It would only hurt her if she starts thinking that you became way more serious about your relationship. Also, you can write a simple letter, or do some poetry Poetry using French can be nice. |
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2009-10-18, 03:26 | Link #1929 | |
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No, you're the kind of guy that they end up marrying later on in life, and then making a bunch of kids with. So just be patient. When you're in your thirties, if you're reasonably attractive and not creepy, you'll be beating them off with a stick. But then again, what do I know? I'm just a lonely Christmas Cake myself. ^^;
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2009-10-18, 03:30 | Link #1930 |
Love Conquers All!
Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: The Suzumiya Haruhi Section of AnimeSuki, (I placed my main Otaku HQ box there)
Age: 29
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Questionzu.
If people arn't as good looking, how do they get GF's? Because I dun think there is a good looky machinezu (Plastic surgery dun county). I just dun understand how they find love den. >.< Makes love more gambling and not fair >.<
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2009-10-18, 03:38 | Link #1931 | |
I don't give a damn, dude
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: In Despair
Age: 38
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I'll drop you a PM when I've figured what kind of letter I would want to write to her. |
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2009-10-18, 06:55 | Link #1932 | ||
Honyaku no Hime
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Join Date: May 2008
Location: In the eastern capital of the islands of the rising suns...
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That response is sarcastic and downright cheeky, but then that fact you swore at them just left me jawdropped xD - I'd need to have my funeral ready and me death papers set before i ever even consider swearing to my elders and beleive me, your little interogation is nothing compared to some of the family pressures a lot of ethnic minority kids face in the UK, when split between two cultures, chill down a little Quote:
zero interest in dating, being open to it don't think you need one or even consider it a 'priority', especially when you think that your current social status wouldn't qualify for a girl to look your way. What would turn her off moreover is your attitude, swearing isn't pleasant. No matter how much you're tired of hearing this (take it from someone who's been dealing with that for a long while), they only prod outta concern. Keeping answers brief (not one liners, per se) and repetitive works better than snapping back in anger or sarcasm, which then puts them on the wrong thinking path that you'll turn out as 'such and such.' Q. Have a gf? A. No Q. Why not? A. (take your pick) 'I'm focusing more on studies, my career.' 'When the right girl comes, she'll come' 'I'm waiting for God to present the correct moment' (this actually works well, lol) (insert random 'default reason) - Not is not the right time for me and I'll find my special lady in my own time. Don't worry about me. Whatever you pick, it usually fends them off better, lol. Companionship with the right partner is a wonderful thing, and humans aren't typically meant to be alone for life. You're only 20, only just left the hell that is teenagehood, don't be so bitter and resent it so early. So if they hassle you, it's outta concern, even if it reeeeally doesn't feel like it. Moreover, your attitude probably worries them more, thinking that a girl would be good for you, so maybe you should calmly observe how you carry yourself as a young man? Just something to think about, but if dating/relationships aren't for ya, then this thread isn't really gonna help much, huh?
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2009-10-18, 07:08 | Link #1933 | ||
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2009-10-18, 07:11 | Link #1934 | |
Counting days
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Not even close to the Caribbean anymore
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Now, on the part of girls not wanting you due to your income, that really depends on the girl and maybe even culture. At least in my case, my first bf had no job or studies, 2nd was a musician who had ran away from home, had no job, and was going to drop out from Uni because of his low grades; and the guy I married and eventually divorced had a job, but was a school dropout. We never had a car or a house of our own, but that didn't matter to me. Our reasons for things not working out had nothing to do with how much he earned or anything like that. Of course, I don't know how the stereotype girl behaves in your homeland. Edit: On another note, I agree with Mystique. Swearing isn't pleasant and verbal attacks aren't good for solving matters.
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2009-10-18, 07:24 | Link #1935 |
Protecting the Throne
Join Date: Feb 2009
Location: Asia Tour
Age: 32
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I say don't mind those kind of people who are just pressuring you to get a girlfriend or a boyfriend. Well maybe they do care for you but then again at some point it could get annoying. There was this particular high school friend of mine who kept saying I should get a boyfriend or that I should pick 1 out of my admirers
As of now I know I'm not ready to be committed in a relationship and I wanna enjoy being single with no strings attached. I guess everyone views relationships differently though. I actually use some of Mystique's quotes when asked why I don't have a boyfriend but not as a excuse or a line to get myself out of the question. I really do mean it
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2009-10-18, 07:28 | Link #1936 | ||
I don't give a damn, dude
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: In Despair
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2009-10-18, 07:44 | Link #1937 | ||
Emotionless White Face
Join Date: Feb 2008
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Are they really all like that?. I mean all. |
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2009-10-18, 07:52 | Link #1938 | |
Counting days
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Not even close to the Caribbean anymore
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My 2nd bf/ex bf dumped me precisely because of his situation that time. He said he had nothing to offer me and he wanted me to have a good life. After I got divorced he friended me in FB to know how I had been. We got into friendly terms and he came by my house and told me that he was also divorced, earning a lot, he had a car, a house of his own that he bought with his hard earned money, etc. I am really happy for him and told him so, but after he finished his offer and told me how much he had missed me and looked for me after he 'had something to offer', I had to drop the news that I already have a bf I am really happy with. It was really awkward, but the point is that even if in the past that guy was broke, he is doing really great now. It's bad to judge when one doesn't know what the future holds, but I guess many girls/women don't share the same mentality and simply judge from what they see in the beginning.
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2009-10-18, 08:12 | Link #1939 | |||
I don't give a damn, dude
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: In Despair
Age: 38
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That said, I'm afraid she's probably not entirely convinced whenever I say anything of the sort to her. It's most probably because our relationship is still young, so she's not 100% convinced of my sincerity (can't really blame her, considering how fast I've been moving with my initial approach and the relationship itself in question ), but eh. I still say that to her regularly though, and maybe she'll be completely convinced one day. Quote:
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So no, I have no qualms about girls being a little materialistic since it's a matter of ensuring a decent standard of living for the future; but when a lot of the things one hears from the mouths of the girls around him tend to revolve around shopping, fashions, brands, spending money, having fun, marrying rich guys and pretty much little else, it's hard not to develop a rather low opinion of the local girls where their calibre is concerned. |
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2009-10-18, 08:37 | Link #1940 | ||
Emotionless White Face
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Something like "Tu es la personne la plus importante à mes yeux. La personne avec qui je veux faire ma vie. Celle que je veux voir chaque matin quand j'ouvre les yeux. Celle dont je veux prendre soin, aimer et chérir dans les moments de joie, comme dans les moments de tristesse jusqu'à ce que la mort nous sépare." I guess it would work, but such statement of deep love can only lead to commitment. So only use such words when you'll see her as your Fiançée. Quote:
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