2007-11-22, 21:43 | Link #721 | |
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It seems to me that a large portion of this conversation has been "people really shouldn't feel sorry so for Miyako, because her actions really don't deserve it". But, so what? When I see an injured animal on the side of the road, my first thought isn't "serves it right from jumping in front of traffic". Miyako may be mentally unstable (and certainly would need professional help, if this were real life), but she still didn't deserve Kei's choice words, or being forced to relive her childhood trauma. Until that point, she hadn't done anything wrong; if she had done something wrong, I might have thought "serves her right". But in this case, she got way more than what she deserved (even though Kei didn't do it intentionally). So, despite the fact that her subsequent actions demonstrate her mental instability (and her phone calls seem, certainly from an outside perspective, extremely obsessive-compulsive/"stalkerish"), I still have every right to feel sorry for her and how she got to that point. I can still find myself hoping that things work out for her. Sympathy is a natural human reaction to witnessing pain and suffering, especially when it was inflicted without provocation. Judging the resulting actions is a seperate issue. |
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2007-11-22, 22:23 | Link #722 | |
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2007-11-22, 22:32 | Link #724 | |
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Taelrak, although I agree with you generally, I think you're talking a bit too much and too conceptually. I think you're hindering your argument by encouraging a tl;dr. Anyway, I made this distinction in my last post; what episode 7 evoked in me was empathy, but no sympathy at all. I understood Miyako's actions and motivations, but in no way do I feel sorry for her. My point here is this. I think most of us can agree that Miyako was behaving in a self-indulgent manner, which only harmed herself and (potentially) others. (just as a side note, how would you react if something like those 99 messages were directed at you? I definitely think that you would percieve the experience as unpleasant--that's why people called the scene "creepy", after all. I will say here that I would judge anybody who answers "I would be filled with compassion and want to help her" as either a bit desperate or a bit naive about the nature of romantic interactions (desperate).) Anyways, her self-indulgence is causing harm. However, the sympathy you all feel towards her leads you to...what? Want to indulge her? That's natural, right? Lift her up, say "I'll (Hiro will) always be here for you", right? Make her happy 'cause she's suffered so much pain... And that would make you a lying fuckwad. Miyamoto said in Samurai Champloo (or maybe he didn't, I forget): “Give a man a fish; you have fed him for a day. Teach a man to fish; and you have fed him for a lifetime.” You're all rooting for Miyako x Hiro now. She doesn't need that. She doesn't need somebody who will always be there for her--and if she did, why should Hiro be the one to carry that burden? Y'know, lots of people wish they had somebody they could trust completely and love and know in their lives; why does Miyako get special treatment? Why does she deserve that? I'd rather she become a person I can respect and relate to. The thing Miyako needs right now, is to get the fuck over it. I agree with lots of you who think Hiro might be in a position to help her do that. However, helping her get over it does not in any way preclude a relationship with Kei. Not that I really support Kei getting Hiro either at this point. Also, all this bullshit about being the "colour" in each others lives is hilarious. You know, give me one good example of how their personalities match each other beyond that. 'Cause I don't quite remember Hiro ever saying that Miyako was that colour, just that he was missing it--and Miyako's just some clingy thing that would take anything she could get right now. Love the show though. Mainly because I trust the director isn't going to let any of the characters get with the lovin' without first resolving these characters' flaws. |
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2007-11-22, 22:44 | Link #726 |
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I hope you're right, honestly, because I don't really like either of those scenarios. I also think that ef has thus far proven itself to be smarter than either of those, but we shall see.
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2007-11-22, 23:02 | Link #727 | |
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Hiro has not yet stated that Miyako is the colour missing in his life. This is important, because her being that colour is not just some inherent thing that results from them being fated or something. There is actual significance to Hiro acknowledging Miyako as something that ideal to him. I want to know why, how Miyako inspires him. Just asserting that the symbolism thus far foreshadows that acknowledgement later isn't worth anything. And on Miyako's side, I'll be waiting for some meaning to be attached to the symbol as well. Right now, Miyako isn't looking for Hiro--she's looking for anyone, and at herself who is alone. Anybody else could provide that colour to her; I want to wait until colour becomes something more specifically situated on Hiro. Telling me "Miyako and Hiro eventually get together" doesn't translate to "Hiro loves Miyako right now and will think Kei is a bitch for keeping her creepy messages away from him." |
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2007-11-22, 23:08 | Link #728 |
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Well, yes -- symbolic foreshadowing is exactly what it is. It provides hints, but doesn't connect the dots entirely. Certainly the coming episodes will tell the complete story in word and action and will complete the picture that has, thus far, been largely poetry and symbolism.
Right, and this is why I don't think the latter either. Even if he knew the "full story", I suspect that Hiro would be far more sympathetic to both girls than a lot of people in this thread are... |
2007-11-22, 23:26 | Link #729 | |
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I agree that the symbolism is pretty blatant anyway. There's other things that point to that pairing too, like the MiyaMiya, HiroHiro thing.
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2007-11-23, 02:27 | Link #732 |
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edit: damnit, lost half the post...
So basically, I was saying that Hiro was the one who lost out when Kei deleted the messages. Hiro is a bit of a jackass, being so inconsiderate of other people. Giving a non-commital reply about going to Kei's game, forgetting about it, saying he'd rather stay home when reminded by somebody else...and it's not even like he dislikes Kei. So I think he could have used the shock of actually having to take somebody else seriously (even if it's because they're psycho). like, he's supposedly a "nice guy" from episode one. But that kind of attention comes at no cost to himself. He's liable to treat a complete stranger in the same manner he treats a friend he's had since childhood. I think that shows that his commitment in any relationships is pretty close to zero. I can't really fault him for not being interested, if that's really the case with either of the girls. But to demonstrate such flaky behaviour without an ounce of consideration for letting the other person know is ridiculous. I'm not wishing for Miyako to totally screw up any chances she has with Hiro by going psycho in his presence, but that kind of awakening would really help him be more aware of his surroundings. |
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2007-11-23, 03:40 | Link #736 | |
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Generally as children we are guided away from all of the above by our parents. Of course you have the messed up tennis parents who will do the exact opposite encouraging their kids to burn up for that one moment of glory Messed up or need help psychologically is all about meeting what society counts as a norm. Psychology itself is a very young science and it is pretty messed up, I've known people who went in with issues dealing with things like commitment and end up with a full blown psychotic break down after the counsellor has dug up some very bad memories of the past. Personally I don't tend to count people who charge head first into something with no consideration for their health, for others, for their future to be normal or healthy. I know we all tend to slip into the mode once in a while, for example you start me watching an anime I will watch it till the end. But it is over within 6 hours or so, so isn't that bad. But then you hear stories of people who game until they drop. Just coz he is getting paid to draw doesn't cover the fact that he is injuring himself with his actions. BTW I can't believe that a pro mangaka would injure their wrist from over working, actually I think their agents would be rather worried that they are damaging a valuable and difficult to replace resource.
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As for your point here, I never said that the proper response was to ignore her. Rather, if Hiro had in fact heard the messages, I would have encouraged him to take steps in helping her reintegrate with society on a social level. Introducing new people to her, helping her make friends--but making it clear that he disapproved and would not accept neurotic or obsessive behaviour around him. On the other hand, Hiro is not in an optimal position to perform those functions. Quote:
I would assert this: Miyako is not actively trying to improve herself and her life. She is acting on her limited world-view and being controlled by her emotions. The thing that is limiting her here is the world-view, not the emotions. She needs to expand from her idea that "the world is colourless and Hiro is the only thing that is colourful". Of course this expansion could be achieved by letting her get disillusioned of Hiro all on her own, by indulging her and letting her continue to interact with him while believing that. However, a much faster way to 'fix' her is to simply let her know straight off the bat that Hiro isn't that colourful, but that if she sits around being depressed about the world being colourless she is going to starve and rot and die. You told me that Miyako needs to "properly follow through on what she is trying to achieve through Hiro". What she is "trying to achieve" is create happiness in her limited world-view, and what that effectively involves is making her dependant on Hiro. This is something only maladjusted individuals who like the idea of being 'bound' to other people and unable to act for themselves would desire. |
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2007-11-23, 05:10 | Link #738 | |
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Though the "similar situation" wasn't all that similar really. Not at all really. Not least of all because Hiro never even heard the messages.
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As for Miyako, I half agree. Sure it's self fulfillment or that is what's aimed to be. But at the very least, she is trying to convince herself that she is no longer alone. I think that is an important detail since she obviously cornered herself into thinking that she was. But her interaction with Hiro is a bit of a turn for her. Breaking out of her shell or not, at least she's trying to change something about herself and her own views (note: TRY. I'm not saying she did a 180-turn on her world view here). Whether that is to positive or negative effect, that's not entirely certain. Quote:
And I don't think it's as simple as letting her realize her situation in a do or die manner. So far, there hasn't been anything to wake her up to that realization and I think that is the most important part, because delusions are not intentional if you're so stuck in it you truly believe in that. Miyako seems to be pretty stuck in her delusion. That is why I'm saying Hiro is the catalyst. Even if he shows that he's not without color, that could wake her up since that goes against her delusion. Quote:
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