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Personnaly, my parent meet each other in high school when they were 16 years old and since that time they are together (now they're around 60 ! ) . My mother even leave a great college just to be with my father
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2009-04-08, 14:14 | Link #722 | |
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Hmm well I'm not turned off by people who like kids, I'm just turned off if they are super baby crazy. You know, must stop by every baby and coo over them, talk about kids all the time ...etc. It's like if you don't like dogs and your partner stops by every dog to play with the dog and talks about how they want a dog all the time. I also dislike people who criticize those who want a baby. I dislike anyone who won't respect the life choices of others. I chose not to have kids. They chose to have kids. Simple as not. Nobody's attacking anyone's choice by making that decision. They are just following their heart. =) Some people feel like having a child is the best thing in the world, some people think having a hamster is the best thing in the world. It's all a matter of taste, and preference on how we want to live our lives. It's fine if people don't understand why I don't want kids or if I don't understand why they want kids. All we need to understand is that that is our decision and we respect it. And that's all there is =) You don't have to agree, just accept is good enough for me. |
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2009-04-08, 14:30 | Link #723 |
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I don't think getting turned off by people who want kids is a bad thing at all. Persecuting people who want kids is a whole different matter though.
Wanting kids and not wanting kids are two extremely different life choice, its like not wanting to date someone from a different religion if you are very religious. Having a long term relationship not wanting kids with someone who wants kids is just a great way to start a big conflict. |
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"I don't want kids" I'd consider it weird and would want to know the reasons why, when so many women suffer with miscarriages, infertility and spend thousands just to have a child. What I considered extreme wasn't his opinion, everyone is entitled to it. It was his opinion of how he judges others because they don't like animals. If i have to use the kid example then: "I don't want kids and everyone who does are nothing more than brainwashed lemmings who can't think for themselves." Something like that.... But as danin said (in an attempt to put this back on track) Meeting someone who finds it as a turn off, isn't bad. As a woman though, I would however definitely take into account: - Their age - Their status (single, divorced etc) - Their stage in life/career - Their gender ... Before fully believing them. Life has too many unforseen events that'll hit us so hard that we're left spinning. Sometimes the preference of raising a family (or other turn off's) changes among them over time...
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2009-04-09, 02:05 | Link #726 | |
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I think we're very much on topic. The discussion on food... okay, I'll admit that we veered off a bit into Chinese cuisine, Vietnamese recipes, etc. But THIS discussion now is very relevant, isn't it? Why are we talking about having kids and whatnot? Because that decision is a very important factor in relationships and, by implication, figures heavily in choosing a partner for your relationship. That's how it ties into turn-offs and turn-ons. Off topic, off topic, go to Yahoo Answers or somewhere like that if you just want questions, answers and lists. We're having a good discussion here. If someone wants to add to the list of turn-offs and broaden the scope of our discussion, he/she is more than welcome to do so. And we'll be sure to discuss those turn-offs, over-analyse them, turn them around and tear them apart. That's the fun of a discussion. [Edit re Kusa-San below] Haha, thanks for the support . Just wanted to clarify, however, that whilst Xvoki's post was spam, Mystique's was certainly not. I quoted and replied to just one line from her otherwise valuable post. Last edited by Yukinokesshou; 2009-04-09 at 02:30. |
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2009-04-09, 08:33 | Link #729 | |||
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I don't say that there are a lot of couples like them or that that kind of couples is better than the conventional ones, but fact is, I have great parents from my point of view, still together and still in love, in a country (france) with a lot of divorces and splitted families (while said couples for the most had PERFECT bases compared to how my parents met). Quote:
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2009-04-09, 08:55 | Link #731 | |||
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For my first reply, it's somewhat linked to what you said at the beginning. keep in mind that it happens that two persons take the next step in a relationship without taking the time to know each other very well. Since we talked a lot about that, imagine that you're dating a girl. That you ask her in fiançailles, and then discover that she doesn't care at all about the Earth/environmentalism. I am sure that you would not be happy at all Quote:
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Take your time to know the girl (1 years for example), then asked her out and then a few month later ask her to be your wife. For me, the step where you need to know better the person is the first one and i find a bit strange to not know well your girlfriend when you ask her to be your wife Quote:
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Hum i'm not sure what you mean here. But you know if the person think you don't like him then he will go see another one not because he don't like you but because he think that he has no chance.
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I'm starting to think that "turn-offs" probably figure a lot more heavily in non-romantic than in romantic relationships. At the end of the day, if you truly love someone, love can overcome any number of "turn-offs" which are essentially nothing more than preconceived attitudes. |
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2009-04-12, 06:38 | Link #737 | |
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Quick disclaimer, in no way or form do I oppose homosexuality, just getting that out there just in case theres a misunderstanding, what you do or choose to love is your business not mine. Any way most gays say that homosexuality is not a choice, you just grow up loving men/women instead or the opposite sex, this pretty much applies to turn-offs, you don't control what makes you want to spend the rest of your life with one other person, or else the popular culture conception that nerds would never be in relationships unless they were with other nerds would be true. In most cases people end up getting together with people who don't fit all their bill of what they consider is a perfect partner, and sometimes they are exact dichotomies of what they like, but it doesn't change the fact that through courtship, many of these turn-offs can be overcome if the turn-offs are based on appearance, habits, or generally things that don't pertain to life style decisions like kids. |
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Probably..., but it's not all true. There's some Turn-offs that you can't overcome, or not easily. A man who not wants any kids (or not desire it and would do it just to please me) is for example, a complete Turn-off for me. I would not be able to overcome that. Quote:
Second part of your post = I guess that when you're young, it's a dream to find the perfect partner, but in most cases, it ends up like you said, people choose someone who doesn't exactly fit their bill. But I think that somebody who date a person that he/she doesn't really really love, creates a couple that has less chance to last long/forever. And I know people who are in couple just to not be alone, and for some, because they also want a family. Is it true love in this case? I tend to think not. Anyway, I hear sometimes amon people of my age, that finding the "(near) perfect" partner is not possible ; and I think it's not true, it's just very, very rare (desesperatly rare)... I know it's possible because of my parents (I am annoying about talking about them so much, i Know ), and another couple of my generation that I know. Even if it doesn't happen to me, I wish and hope that it will continue to happen to at least a few people in this world. Also, one very bad thing, I think, would be to be in love with someone who's perfect for you, while this someone doesn't love you romantically, or is already in couple. Because it's hard to find someone who's quite perfect for you, but it doesn't mean that this person will like you too, and that you'll be perfect for him/her. For the lulz, we should make a thread about what would be the perfect woman/man for each member /joking Well, I have to go, I will not be really present for two weeks because of easter holidays. Happy easter to everyone. So I will reply in a few days or after my holidays Last edited by Narona; 2010-02-05 at 09:32. |
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The idea of true love and soul mates is a crock and websites like eharmony, and matchmaker bill out that if you widen your search you will find the perfect one for you, you know what, all lot of great marriages came out of convenience, the fact that your best friend all along was the one for you, even though you initially didn't look at that person as "the one." Love is not a science and hence finding just one person that perfectly compliments you is just not possible, in a world filled with billions, and a potential amount of suitors teaming at the millions, there is just no logical or physical way to actually meet all potential mates and figure out if whether or not their soulmates. Even though my idea of love is far from what many would consider romantic, I'm actually a bleeding heart romantic who believes in love, its just the fact that the perfect someone for you is not perfect the moment you meet. The whole concept of marriage is so important to love, eventhough marriage is not a requirement, but marriage vows really hammer home the idea that love isn't just about the good times, its about the bad too, and not being able to accept someone for who they are will in the end never result in a good relationship. The point is your knight/princess, will never be as pure or shining as you imagined but it doesn't make them less of a knight or a princess.
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