What type of woman/man you want to be with ?

[psycho_luny]

Originally Posted by synaesthetic

Joint accounts? Pretty much asking to get cleaned out if things go sour. My personal method is three accounts... one for each of us (which our money goes into) and one "house" account in which money for shared expenses goes. Things like rent, groceries, internets, etc. Our own phone bills are paid out of our personal accounts.

Though, right now until I get the evil empire to stop being evil, my bank accounts are frozen... take my advice and don't ever bank with Chase. They're horrible.

now that's what i call a smart person

[NoemiChan]

Hmmm.... My choice for my ideal girlfriend would be:
Character: intelligent, nice, friendly, patient, optimistic, shy?
Looks: Beautiful, long hair, pony tailed?
Body: Sexy? an inch shorter than me.

[Vexx]

Originally Posted by synaesthetic

Joint accounts? Pretty much asking to get cleaned out if things go sour. My personal method is three accounts... one for each of us (which our money goes into) and one "house" account in which money for shared expenses goes. Things like rent, groceries, internets, etc. Our own phone bills are paid out of our personal accounts.

Though, right now until I get the evil empire to stop being evil, my bank accounts are frozen... take my advice and don't ever bank with Chase. They're horrible.

Most financial planners will tell a couple that the "3 account" plan is an Outstanding Idea. You both need your own credit history, it encourages family finance planning meetings, it gives each person their own "play space".

[DonQuigleone]

Eh, my parents maintained a single account, and never had any financial issues, despite my parents seperating.

In fact, my father's account is still shared with my mother, though she now also maintains her own account.

Though I think a lot of it is down to my father never dealing with money related issues. My mom still does all the money related paper work for my father!

[synaesthetic]

I know lots of couples where one person takes on the financial obligations. With me and my fiancee, I tend to handle a lot of the money-related stuff, but she's also involved. Due to the nature of the way we are surviving right now, sometimes one of us will pay for the other's tuition or books and vice-versa (due to financial aid coming in at odd intervals).

[MUAHAHAHAHAHA]

Someone who could stand my machine-gun mouth. Once I start talking, there's no end to it. It's an annoying trait, I know,and guys will find it suffocating, but I love to talk!

Also, he must agree to sign prenuptial agreement before we register our marriage.

And he must not be mama's boy.

[Paranoid Android]

Originally Posted by MUAHAHAHAHAHA

Someone who could stand my machine-gun mouth. Once I start talking, there's no end to it. It's an annoying trait, I know,and guys will find it suffocating, but I love to talk!

Also, he must agree to sign prenuptial agreement before we register our marriage.

And he must not be mama's boy.

LOL machine gun mouth. I'm chatty but I can't talk nearly as fast as I can type. I have a hard time deciding whether a quiet or chatty wife is better. My ex-gf was as chatty as me and we don't get anything done because we have so much junk flooding out of our mouths.

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The ideal wife for me is someone who is polar opposite in every characteristic. But it's so hard to even describe myself as everything fluctuates for each situation.

Instead of naming random characteristics on thin air, I'm gonna talk about ex-gf 2 years ago because I found her to be closest to my ideals than anyone else I've met

Spoiler for Basing off ex-gf:

Things I liked:
- She can be both really tomboyish and girly.
- Goldfish memory, slow, clumsy.
- Book nerd/academic. She's one of those people who gives off a dumb/slow aura but will always achieve more than you will. It gets me really really jealous and angry but I don't mind.
- Chatty, can yap about anything.
- Not much of a joker but responds to my humor really well.

Things about her I found amazing:
- She does not do any form of physical activity/exercise, yet she agreed to bike with me to downtown and back home for 60km which to anyone who doesn't bike is 'insane'.
- Generally open minded. Terrible with computers but she plays video games with me.
- Not afraid to 'suggest' against things I do that she doesn't like.

Things that I disliked:
- Background. She was raised by a single mother, multimillionaire. Her mother has quite a lot of issues. Her entire life and foundation is just too different.
- A bit -too- irrational. We had a lot of things scheduled for Christmas holidays with our own circles. We wanted to spend time together. Whenever I had free days, she told me she's busy. It turns out she lied and she was free. and afterwards she got angry at me because I didn't cancel my plans to meet her. I see her thought process but that's too much for me.
- Not confident, too much fluctuation. She's the type that gets jealous easily and will always compare our relationship with every other relationship around her. I want to live our own love life and not someone else's.

Spoiler for General Description:

Physical:
- Not too gorgeous, not too ugly.
- Doesn't bury herself in cosmetics.
- 150lb and under. Weight matters to me because I'm underweight (125) and I -hate- it. I don't like the idea of being with a woman who looks twice my size.
- Height doesn't matter to me. No particular fetish for short girls. But it is quite fun to pick up a small sized girl and running away like a raging pedophile
- I don't care about curves or anything.
- I like short red hair but I don't really care if it's not.
- Typically older. I KNOW WTF BLASPHEMY. I have never dated someone younger than me. Oldest was probably this girl in 3rd year math department when I was in my first year university. I don't know why. Just don't seem interested in younger women. This trait alone will make me unmarried until I'm 50 where I marry a 70 year old widow.


Psychological:
- Slower in the head than me
- More emotional than rational. But not all the way extreme-emotional
- Open minded
- At very least understand my sense of humor. But I totally adore girls who are funny.
- Not 2D. I like people with a varying personality/interest.

Social:
- Less salary. I don't believe I know any woman that has had a successful relationship with a man that has a lower salary.
- Financially independent. 50:50 to 70:30 on the house.
- Cautious and independently capable. Not someone who always gets scammed or stalked.

Leisure:
- Travel. I will never marry someone who doesn't enjoy going anywhere aside from the hometown.
- Appreciation/involvement in any form of art.

Spoiler for Probably my future spouse::

sizzle sizzle

[LeoXiao]

Originally Posted by MUAHAHAHAHAHA

And he must not be mama's boy.

Count me out then. I love my mom. The ladies I find most attractive resemble her.

[Paranoid Android]

Originally Posted by LeoXiao

Count me out then. I love my mom. The ladies I find most attractive resemble her.

How was your relations with your mother when you were a child? For whatever strange reason, I really admire and respect my parents, they didn't even raise me through my teenage years.

I recall seeing a psych study that men have a bias towards woman that resemble their mother. Which applies to me as well. It's so creepy XD.

[LeoXiao]

Originally Posted by Paranoid Android

How was your relations with your mother when you were a child? For whatever strange reason, I really admire and respect my parents, they didn't even raise me through my teenage years.

I actually was closer to my older brother in my earlier years, but as I got more articulate I found that it actually was more relaxing (and often more interesting) to talk with my mom than him. I just think our personalities are really similar; I see a lot of her rationale and logic in myself.

Why didn't your parents raise you when you were a teenager? Perhaps you have a kind of nostalgia for them?

I recall seeing a psych study that men have a bias towards woman that resemble their mother. Which applies to me as well. It's so creepy XD.

I think it's natural, and not actually very creepy when you think about it. As guys, we want to find women that will be easy to have a harmonious relationship with, and since we know our mothers' personalities well, it goes without saying that someone with a familiar personality will be easier to get along with.

And speaking of attractiveness, I always get the feeling that I could be turned on by all kinds of women, but the ones that resemble my mother aren't often women that I would describe as being "hot", but that the attractiveness is more present at the personal level, i.e. "I would do her" versus "she exudes a really attractive personality".

[grylsyjaeger]

I'd just be happy with somehow who likes me for who I am, not who I should be...

Plus she'd have to like guns.

Definitely like guns.

Just putting that out there.

Seriously, someone who likes me for me and someone who I like for whom they are. Not what we could and should be.

[warita]

Hmmm, I am already in a happy relationship and my current bf is what I always asked for:

Kind, gentle, patient (extremely patient), intelligent (I have to be able to talk to him on my level) and he likes the things I do. No matter what we talk about, we always agree and I feel so comfortable in the relationship. I know he is reliable and honest and wants the same in life as me and that makes me feel like I can relax in my relationship. I find it very soothing.

In my opinion a harmonic and balanced relationship stands on 3 big pilars:

1. Similarities :hobbies, character traits, expectations in life, etc. I believe it is especially important to click on the personality level, because the more the partners are similar, the less friction will there be and consequently less fighting.

2. good fighting culture: there will always be fights and in fact I think it is healthier to have a good fight now and then rather than bottling negative emotions inside, that will eventually poison any relationship and become a ticking time bomb.

3. tolerance for differences and respect: As much as I think similarities are important, there always will be differencies and rather than trying to change the partner to fit your perfect ideal, you should let him be the person he is. I think one of the most unfair things you can do to a person is to try to change him. If it is a triviality, then go ahead by all means, but dont try to change anything basic.