2011-02-20, 23:35 | Link #21 |
Dictadere~!
Join Date: Oct 2010
Location: On the front lines, fighting for inderpendence.
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Online friends are great. Respond whenever, and talk about whatever without needing to adhere to social manners that your real environment constrains upon you.
Foul language. Instant internet access for funny shit. Plus, you can edit your response if you see something wrong. In real life, once you say it, it's said.
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2011-02-20, 23:40 | Link #22 |
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Join Date: Apr 2010
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I have plenty of internet friends. It's really easy to find someone with a little common ground just to shoot the breeze when you're involved in multiple online communities. I'm probably always going to have an online friend or two to talk to down the line, I think.
Friends IRL are less gracious because that's when presence and appearance are taken into account, both consciously and subconsciously. I wouldn't chat it up with anyone who seems like they have low self esteem, or an aura of arrogance about them. Even if good friends IRL are sparse, relationships with them are far more meaningful. Even if you're like, best buds with this one dude over in Oklahoma, you can never invite him and the rest of the guys over to kick it like you could if you knew them in person. It sucks knowing it's always down to the keyboard and the screen sometimes, but it's okay as long as you keep a healthy balance with non-online affairs. This is a good topic I've haven't seen discussed before, and I'm glad it's out in the open. |
2011-02-22, 12:14 | Link #26 |
Anime Cynic
Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: USA
Age: 35
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Nothing against you guys, but I will always hold online friends in much lower regard than real friends. I'm well aware that simply being online doesn't stop someone from being a good person or a potential good friend, but I just can't make real connections with people I've never seen. Heck, I even met someone in an IRC channel who, after a couple of months of talking, decided that I was her online boyfriend. Needless to say, it didn't go anywhere.
There's nothing wrong with online friends; there are plenty of people I know from forums, online games, etc. that I still talk with from time to time. However, they really don't compare to people who you can actually hang out with and do stuff with. For example, none of you guys can go sledding with me in the new snow from last night. Interacting with you requires me to be at a computer, which severely limits the things we can do, which severely limits friendships, IMO.
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2011-02-22, 12:27 | Link #27 |
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Assuming you never actually meet.
However, a number of good friends that I have, I met through various Internet-related activities... message boards, gaming, etc. And I actually know them now. For me, if I run into someone online, that's just the start of the friendship. It's not a real friendship until I meet the person. Because, as you say, you can't really go out and have a few beers with a computer screen, right?
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2011-02-22, 13:35 | Link #28 | |
NYAAAAHAAANNNNN~
Join Date: Nov 2007
Age: 35
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2011-02-22, 13:48 | Link #30 |
Shameless Fangirl
Join Date: Sep 2008
Location: Germany
Age: 33
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Yay for online friends!
There are a few people I just need to write with to feel close to, though I'll admit they are the exception (but awesome exceptions, oh yes). Other than that, the friendship kind of tends to move from the net to the phone eventually. I don't need to meet people to consider them friends, but I do need to talk to them a lot and think that they are awesome. Talking for hours and watching movies together over the phone can be incredibly fun.
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2011-02-22, 14:56 | Link #31 |
Hack of all trades
Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: Michigan
Age: 36
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I'm amazed so many people actually meet people in real life after meeting them online. I would be way too paranoid for that. I mean, I'm paranoid enough about meeting people normally, and I know all the ways you can fake stuff online (even "live" video chat is easy to fake).
I actually used to talk to a lot of people online up through the age of thirteen, and then my interest in it just died. I don't know why, but I just can't get interested in idle chattering anymore, and I see conversation more as a utility than a recreational activity. I mean, why do you want to start talking to someone randomly, when you have no idea if they know anything about anything you'd want to talk about? The way I usually think of it is like "first prove to me that you have thoughts that are worth my time (which isn't really that hard), and then try talking to me." |
2011-02-22, 16:29 | Link #32 | |
Anime Cynic
Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: USA
Age: 35
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2011-02-22, 16:56 | Link #33 | |
AS Oji-kun
Join Date: Nov 2006
Age: 74
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Looks like Japanese girls are fed up waiting for real-life guys to put down their DS's, too.
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2011-02-22, 18:56 | Link #34 | |
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Join Date: Nov 2007
Location: Tennessee
Age: 36
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2011-02-23, 00:05 | Link #35 |
Seleção
Join Date: Jan 2011
Age: 32
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I have a number of online friends, but few that I've made a true connection with. Sure, I can come online and talk about things that are what I consider very personal with a group of strangers, but there's definitely a difference in intimacy with IRL friends and intimacy on a forum where people don't have a true personal connection, imo.
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2011-02-23, 05:11 | Link #36 | |
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2011-02-23, 05:19 | Link #37 | |
NYAAAAHAAANNNNN~
Join Date: Nov 2007
Age: 35
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2011-02-23, 05:43 | Link #39 | |
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The people that I chat with online are from different countries so I love to discuss about different customs with them. Most of my current friends aren't really into anime or gaming so I find a satisfaction of good discussion online as well. When in need of some advice or information online pals tend to help out too. Of course it all depends in who you talk to.
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2011-02-23, 08:10 | Link #40 |
is this so?
Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: Gradius Home World
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Personally, it's been a fun experience. Have 3 online friends whom I have been together with in another anime forum for almost 4 years now. And we're active up to this day. Having similar interests in anime is probably one reason we've stayed together for so long.
Though it's unfortunate, they're all far away, I'm asian and my friends are from Germany, Thailand, and Canada. Can't go to an anime convention together..
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