2010-02-23, 17:19 | Link #3441 |
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Teasing works for some people, but not all. In my mind only guys who are attractive or interesting can pull something like that off successfully. I know that me, with my broken English, would never be able to pull off something like that, hah. I hate my accent so much. It's not even a legitimate accent. Like, according to speech therapists and professionals, it's an unusual mix of a multitude of different ones. I wish I could just stick with a singular accent, even if it's foreign.
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2010-02-23, 17:26 | Link #3442 | |
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My own parents are still married after 40+ years, as are the other parents they hang out with. It's given me a very good idea of what a real relationship takes. The women I've dated or gone out with, haven't had that. |
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2010-02-23, 18:07 | Link #3443 |
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If you're thinking of improving your confidence, you have to do your best to not let these kinds of thoughts cross your mind. Which is hard. I had much of the same mentality in regards to myself throughout my middle school years, and even now it's still extremely hard to shake. But the first trick to getting someone to love you is loving yourself first, as generic as it sounds.
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2010-02-23, 19:01 | Link #3445 | |
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My husband says all the time he doesn't consider me his wife, I'm his best friend, who he happens to sleep with etc. Never before in my life (not even with my first hubby mind you) have I ever felt this.... Comfortable? Content? I'm not sure 1 word can encompass it. But I have absolutely NO problems imagining us 50 years from now, still together, etc. My hubby's folks were married till death separated them prematurely (they passed away in 2001 & 2004, neither older than 65). The feelings I have for him have "matured" over the last 13 years we've been married, as well, and before him, I'd have never imagined myself with someone for this long LOL My longest relationship before had been a whopping 2 years. The other couples we know? *sigh* not so lucky or careful with their choice of mates. I know more on again off again couples than anyone should, and though they've SORT OF been together for 10 years I dont' count it. When you're taking a few months away from one another at a time, it resets the clock, IMO. I think my gf & her hubby're the next longest couple we know, they've been married 10 years this year, I believe, and work very similar to my hubby and I, so I imagine they'll last as well. It's worth it to wait, IMO. Date if you want, sure, but don't feel like you HAVE to, or that "OMG! I HAVE to get married NOW!!!!" or anything silly like that. You may end up settling for Mr or Ms RIGHT NOW instead of RIGHT. I have more respect for someone who waits 20 years before marrying than someone who's had 4 marriages in that 20 years :P
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2010-02-24, 05:46 | Link #3447 | ||
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Of course I'm not criticizing you or anything. I don't disagree if you think you and your spouse will just be like friends when you pass 40+ years. Quote:
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2010-02-24, 08:39 | Link #3448 | |
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What it means when he says that is that he trusts me implicitly, and our bond goes further than the bedroom. Also I only have intimate relations with my husband, so that's rather moot. Most longterm couples I know have the same thing going; they are one another's best friend. The sex, etc is merely a nicety, not the important part of it. I think what Kaijo meant, and I fully agree with, is that if there's not a basis of friendship (which if you think about it, romantic relationships often START as normal friendships), then the relationship may be a short one. "Wow I was attracted to person X, but they got old." vs "Wow, X is my best friend and I can't wait to share the next 40 years with them. Those crow's feet kinda grow on you."
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2010-02-24, 08:54 | Link #3449 | ||||||
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It's not a critic towards your parents at all, but it's not always like how it is for them. But as long as they are happy, whatever how the achieve said happiness, I guess everything's alright Anyway, I remember a program about the very old people in France (because there are more and more veryu old people), and they showed a couple like that. Still being in love and holding hands while being sooooo old That was romantic. Quote:
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2010-02-24, 09:28 | Link #3450 | |
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Seriously, I get all but teary-eyed at an elderly couple who're still obviously so in love They don't paw at one another or play tonsil hockey or anything, they just look or smile at one another and you can tell from across the room, etc. I can't wait to be one of those OK I can but you know what I mean LOL!
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EDIT: How's this for a pick up line "If I asked you to have sex with me, would you give me the same answer that you would give to this question?" Last edited by Tsuyoshi; 2010-02-24 at 09:53. |
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2010-02-24, 10:14 | Link #3453 | |
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2010-02-24, 15:08 | Link #3456 | |
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Also speaking from experience, I would advise not operating a motor vehicle while listening to a shy girl say she wants to go out with you.
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2010-02-24, 15:23 | Link #3457 | |
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Joke aside, you're not there yet. |
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2010-02-24, 15:57 | Link #3458 | |
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http://www.newbernsj.com/news/herber...-children.html They lived less than an hour away from me. |
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2010-02-24, 16:19 | Link #3460 | ||
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Nice read anyway. ^^ |
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