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2010-01-04, 15:26 | Link #2463 | ||
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Under normal circumstances I probably wouldn't be sexually attracted to her; she isn't my type. But due to living in the homeless shelter, having zero privacy, being somewhat emotionally weakened due to general circumstances... Since I'm transgendered, there aren't a whole lot of girls who would actually want to date me to begin with. Whenever I meet one, even if she's not my type, doesn't have much in common with me, etc... I tend to have this issue. I don't want to "settle" because there are reasons we have preferences. And it's not something simple like hair color, breast size or height--I don't usually have those kind of type requirements. It's all her personality--she's very immature and childish, she's not terribly bright or well-educated. I'm not trying to be mean; just saying it like it is. She's not that smart, and that will bother me intensely. So we clash pretty badly on that aspect, but I'm a tolerant person and she likes me, so she keeps clinging to me. Quote:
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2010-01-04, 17:09 | Link #2464 | |
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2010-01-04, 17:41 | Link #2465 |
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If she doesn't want to be friends with the girl because she doesn't like her, then she doesn't have to be friends with her. Besides, it might help anyway if they don't become close. If that happened, the girl might think she has a chance when Syn isn't interested in her like that.
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2010-01-04, 20:11 | Link #2466 | |
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2010-01-05, 00:40 | Link #2467 | ||
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I've always thought most people were welcoming to friendship--never to judge and pick who to befriend. It adds easier connections, experience, and understanding and overall I believe, a better society and person. But if that's not so important, there is no other choice. |
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2010-01-05, 00:46 | Link #2468 |
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Keeping my distance isn't all that easy, but I'm going to be careful and keep my eyes open.
It's not so much that I don't like her; it's not a question of elitism and feeling that she's beneath me, it's just that... I don't know. I like her a little, but she gets on my nerves from time to time, but... it's like, she's the only one around me that I can connect with. There aren't many other people my age around me since I'm in a shelter right now... Anyway, I'm probably going to think on it some more. I spent a long time conversing with her today and it was actually really pleasant... so I dunno. Maybe Cipher is right and I shouldn't just turn a potential friend away just because she makes me a little hot and bothered (in both ways). At the very least I'll be able to learn how to tolerate annoyances better.
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2010-01-05, 02:07 | Link #2469 | ||
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2010-01-05, 09:23 | Link #2470 | |
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You are under no obligation to be friends, acquaintances, partners or anything else with people you don't enjoy being around. If someone annoys you, why in the gods' name would you voluntarily be around them, if you can help it? o.O The fact that your living situation is FAR from ideal and offers little to nothing in the way of personal space would most certainly not help, and I agree with those who suspect that letting her in any further would send the wrong message, not to mention up your stress level, which is not something you need on top of everything else.
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2010-01-05, 09:47 | Link #2471 | |
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While I don't agree with his recent opinion/posts although he's probably more thinking in terms of 'being more tolerant/open to people' (albiet the situation with Syna wouldn't help), yours was just downright rude. (There is being straight to the point, no sugar coating and giving some tough love as advice, but how you carry that through attitude matters greatly). And if Cipher is known to be irratating or unpleasant, drop a neg rep/report and be on your merry way. :\ But try looking at yourself before you criticise others for their seemingly negative responses that aren't even aimed at you, honestly. Chill already...
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2010-01-05, 14:18 | Link #2472 |
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Tread carefully here, then. If you think the two of you can be friends then that's all fine and good, but remember that she might take your decision as a chance for a romantic relationship and that in becoming her friend, you're going to be in steady contact with her when your gut says to jump her.
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2010-01-05, 16:08 | Link #2473 | |
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2010-01-05, 16:53 | Link #2474 |
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And then you have situations where there's an attraction and it completely destroys the friendship and how close you were to your friend. I stand by what I said to Syn. If she wants to be friends with this girl, then she's free to be friends with her. She just needs to be careful and remember what's at stake if they become lovers.
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2010-01-05, 17:14 | Link #2480 |
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It seems I misread the tone of your posts, then. From the feeling of the words, it appeared to me that you were implying that the friend in love was the friend who is to blame for the loss of the friendship, though you say that isn't what you meant. My bad.
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