2007-08-17, 15:22 | Link #2 |
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Ok I'm not 100% sure what you are trying to say, but here's my 2 cents.
Ok if I don't know anything about you I am going to judge on your looks. Yeah there's a chance the unkempt one has a better personality, but I'd rather go talk to some who keeps his/her stuff tidy. I like looking at good looking people k and who says good-looking people have to be bastards? So it is there possibility for me to socialize with lesser looking people? hell yes! I treat everyone with at least the same etiquette out of politeness. I will talk back and am disgusted by no one... most of the time , but I won't go out of my way to talk to you unless there is no one else. xD (I get bored fast :/ ) Ok you're less on looks department develop some social skills. I'm not the hottest guy in town, but I can talk. |
2007-08-17, 15:48 | Link #6 |
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I think that it's obvious that the first impression of somebody comes through your eyes and depending what you see you'll make an idea how is that person, that's unavoydable The real problem is all those persons who doesn't want to know some more from people depending of that first impression |
2007-08-17, 15:51 | Link #7 |
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Join Date: Oct 2004
Location: Netherlands
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If I don't know you I will judge you on looks. I'd rather talk to someone better looking. If you are some one of the lesser looking kind develop some social skills.
Yeah my first post was kinda weird. D:~ Oh yeah of course my opinion changes, the better I know you. |
2007-08-17, 15:56 | Link #8 |
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I might be on the more sympathetic end of the spectrum, but I can't see why the way people look or dress matters. If they dress badly, that's what they're comfortable with, or maybe they don't know how to dress any better(and yes, people do get raised unaware of how to dress properly)
And 2H, People who look bad most likely are self-conscious, and develop an inferiority complex because of it. They withdraw from socializing. Expecting them to feel comfortable socializing with the same people that's discriminating them for the way they look is too unreasonable. It's the discriminator's fault, not the anti-social's fault.
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2007-08-17, 15:57 | Link #9 |
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If by "appearance" you mean clothes, well perhaps sometimes I judge a person if they come up to me wearing XXXXL shirts and numerous chains, etc.
However I don't judge people based on looks. Judging people based on something that is not under their control is rather lame, in my opinion. It's like judging them based on gender or race. Although I guess that says a lot about the person who does it.
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2007-08-17, 16:19 | Link #11 | |
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You might be surprised how interesting they can be by talking to them, and you'd certainly be helping them by boosting their confidence.
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2007-08-17, 16:25 | Link #12 | |
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Looks are not everything! Everyone thinks if someone looks great then all will go well but that is a lie. If you hang around them enough and they are mean and don't give a rip about you then the good looks they have are useless. I see someone who is good looking AND nice as a bonus. But the way we look is most of the time what we got (unless you do stuff like plastic surgery or whatever) so I try not to judge people on something they cannot change. People can change the way they act, but most of the time people cannot change how they look . . . . that's my 2 cents . . . |
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But some people don't have the knowledge to help themselves. They feel overwhelmed and trapped. Most of these people weren't raised "properly"... not being told to do their homework every day, not being forced to learn how to earn their own money or pay their own bills. Technically that helped kids that DID have all of those things become independent... I think that if one didn't learn from their parents, they should have proper guidance later on instead of everyone telling them they can do everything on their own if they put their mind to it. They weren't raised to have it in them... it's pretty unfair.
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2007-08-17, 16:57 | Link #16 |
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It's funny that most of us would agree that you shouldn't judge others based on appearances, but we enjoy watching Anime in which all important characters are attractive. The fact that anime has so many stick-thin people only exacerbates unrealistic expectations for how people should look.
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2007-08-17, 17:03 | Link #18 | |
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2007-08-17, 17:18 | Link #19 |
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I have a different approach to dealing with many sorts of people. However, I try not to judge based upon looks. I have had the opportunity to meet people that dress in an unusual manner and may act differently, but end up being some of the nicest people I have had the honour of knowing. Basing your decision on how a person looks is a cold way of observing someone. There is an opinion that you can determine how someone is within the first two-minutes of talking to them. I do not fully believe that as some people might be in a different state-of-mind when you are talking to them. Quintessentially, a person might act differently towards you when you meet him/her for the first time opposed to meeting him/her a second time.
Therefore, it is not right not judge someone based on their looks. It takes time to judge someone. This is a fundamental problem with our society - based on looks rather than personality. At the same time, most of us know that looks does not equal a better personality. |
2007-08-17, 17:19 | Link #20 |
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We all judge others by their looks to some degree. Anyone whos tells you otherwise is either lying and is full of shit, or they're just unaware of it.
As long as we restrict our judgements about another's appearance to his/her appearance alone, there's no problem with it. However, should one superimpose his/her judgements on others' appearance to other unrelated aspects of their existence, it'll become a problem. |
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