Dating

[Sarugaki]

Originally Posted by bluejazz87

It's been about thirteen days since that girl I was interested in asked me to be her friend on Facebook. In that time span I've tried to make contact with her twice. Once at around the 14th and the second time I did it on Christmas Eve. I sent her an ecard with a very short message basically wishing her happy holidays. Still, nothing. No responses, nothing at all. I'm guessing she might be on vacation and/or doesn't check her Facebook and email. It's really kind of dejecting. I'm starting to think that maybe that one gesture I saw her do in the hallway of our class building that time was just a small sample of how she really saw the situation as. This whole issue seems to be bothering me. I just wish that she would say something. Anything. I think I deserve at least that right? I've been quite patient...just for the possibility of trying to be her friend, and still nothing. I really just don't understand women sometimes.

EDIT: Wait nevermind, she's updated her Facebook quite recently. Like several hours ago. She just hasn't responded...and I'm still left to wonder why.

Quite unfortunate...I'm really starting to feel the heartache...

don't be so needy and whiny, man up and ask her out face to face, this is what men who get laid do

[Fome]

Originally Posted by bluejazz87

I'm going to stop for now. I've decided. I personally wouldn't have ignored someone though. I think that's just rude in my opinion. I mean, I would have at least said "Hi" back.

You've got to remember that people have no obligation to be polite to you. What would you have thought if she had kindly replied to you out of courtesy? You could have taken it as a good sign, even though she had no real interest. So to prevent you from getting any ideas, the most logical thing for a disinterested person to do would be to ignore you. I am saying this hypothetically of course, but I've seen this happen often before.

[deathreape98]

I disagree, Fome. Its polite to atleast reply so they know you're not interested. Not replying can lead to people getting anxiety, always thinking about it, worrying about it, possibly going emo, and more. The best thing is to let them down softly, and say "Sorry, but I don't want to date you."

As for me, I'm so happy~
Tonight, my ex and I were at a semi-formal dance for 5 hours. At the end, I asked her to be my gf again, and she said yes Also, was going to kill this guy that tried to peep down her shirt...good thing I have good self control...

[Samari]

Originally Posted by Sarugaki

don't be so needy and whiny, man up and ask her out face to face, this is what men who get laid do

I'm trying to get to know the person first. If I were to do what you're advocating she's going to say no.

[Samari]

Originally Posted by Fome

You've got to remember that people have no obligation to be polite to you. What would you have thought if she had kindly replied to you out of courtesy? You could have taken it as a good sign, even though she had no real interest. So to prevent you from getting any ideas, the most logical thing for a disinterested person to do would be to ignore you. I am saying this hypothetically of course, but I've seen this happen often before.

I don't know. I disagree. I've had a couple of girls that were feelin me before but I wasn't interested. I still talked to them though and pretty much told them how I felt about them when the time came. I just wouldn't want to put someone through the ordeal that I'm going through now, because I obviously know how it feels.

[Darkman.exe213]

Originally Posted by Fome

You are desperate. If you get paranoid about something that small, you aren't ready pursue a romantic relationship. I know it's hard, but I want you to try this with all your might: let go. There are other fish in the sea.

I wouldn't really say I was paranoid, I just didn't know any better. I've never been on MySpace before, and I've never had a girlfriend before, so this whole thing is fairly new to me.

And I already figured out that she's not avoiding me. I've seen her put up an away message without going idle even when I'm not online.

[raikage]

Originally Posted by Darkman.exe213

I looked at my crush's MySpace out of curiosity, and well...she posted a picture of her with a friend of mine from my church.(he's a guy btw) It's my friend, but I don't want to think he's going out with my crush. Does a picture on MySpace usually imply anything?

The good news? Perhaps she isn't avoiding me. She put up an away message but didn't go idle yesterday, even when I never said anything to her.

And I won't ever tell a girl I can only think about alone time with her in a bed.

Originally Posted by Darkman.exe213

I wouldn't really say I was paranoid, I just didn't know any better. I've never been on MySpace before, and I've never had a girlfriend before, so this whole thing is fairly new to me.

And I already figured out that she's not avoiding me. I've seen her put up an away message without going idle even when I'm not online.

Gotta be honest -- you're creeping me out here. Just a little bit.

[Darkman.exe213]

I don't blame you. Honestly, though, I'm not taking this as seriously as I really make it seem. That and I'm just a moron.

[Fome]

Originally Posted by Darkman.exe213

I don't blame you. Honestly, though, I'm not taking this as seriously as I really make it seem. That and I'm just a moron.

Well that's good to hear. To me, taking it easy is the best way to go about things, in love and life in general.

[Vestus]

Originally Posted by Darkman.exe213

I wouldn't really say I was paranoid, I just didn't know any better. I've never been on MySpace before, and I've never had a girlfriend before, so this whole thing is fairly new to me.

And I already figured out that she's not avoiding me. I've seen her put up an away message without going idle even when I'm not online.

Dude, not to offend you, but to make you aware. You're leaning toward the stalker side.

[Darkman.exe213]

Originally Posted by Vestus

Dude, not to offend you, but to make you aware. You're leaning toward the stalker side.

I stopped to think about that, and I thought "wow, I'm a loser." I'm more laid back and not so paranoid now.

I want to invite the girl I like out to a movie or something as a friend, but I don't know if she's going to feel weirded out or anything. I've always been told to avoid asking a girl out to a movie, but I never really got the reason for that... D: *is still a complete moron about dating*

[raikage]

Well, a movie's kind of boring (from a dating perspective).

What is a movie, after all? You... sit there for two hours in (possibly awkward) silence. I suppose it would be good if you were a very uninteresting person -- or if you were planning on making out in the theater, which is a HUGE presumption on your part.

Go somewhere you two can actually converse and stuff.

[tripperazn]

If you're not very confident or new to the dating scene, IMO a movie a good first date choice. Of course you don't stop at the movie, that's really only part of the deal. Make sure you go get a cup of coffee or something after.

The benefits of doing this are that the two of you have a starting point to converse. If you are not very confident, it helps to have a mutually interesting subject to kind of springboard the conversation.

[Kristen]

Never just take a girl to a movie. Movies are fun, but not a chance to talk. And don't try to make a move that first movie. I like dinners after. Guy pays.

[Darkman.exe213]

Thanks for the help so far, guys. I was thinking more along the lines of lunch BEFORE the movie. Would that work?

[Chibi Nasu]

I think after the movie would be better. If you go out for lunch before the movie, there may be possible moments of silence when neither person can think of a conversation. On the other hand, going out afterwards gives you both something to talk about--the movie. Use that to springboard a lively conversation.

[Supah Em]

Originally Posted by Darkman.exe213

I wouldn't really say I was paranoid, I just didn't know any better. I've never been on MySpace before, and I've never had a girlfriend before, so this whole thing is fairly new to me.

And I already figured out that she's not avoiding me. I've seen her put up an away message without going idle even when I'm not online.

*cough*cough*

sorry to burst your bubble dude, but these two words should never be put in the same paragraph.

myspace will NEVER be the place to find your FIRST girlfriend. trust me, you'll hurt a LOT. given the reputation of myspace(in terms of relationship building, that is), i can safely say that most people will agree to what i said.

[Densha]

anybody from asia?

[Darkman.exe213]

Originally Posted by supahem

*cough*cough*

sorry to burst your bubble dude, but these two words should never be put in the same paragraph.

myspace will NEVER be the place to find your FIRST girlfriend. trust me, you'll hurt a LOT. given the reputation of myspace(in terms of relationship building, that is), i can safely say that most people will agree to what i said.

You got the wrong idea. I've known this person in real life for a while now. It's just that I rarely see her.(NO, I didn NOT meet her on MySpace)

[Satomi87]

I'm a girl who had a boyfriend and a girlfriend.I currently dating with my girlfriend and I afraid my boyfriend will find out about my girlfriend.What I'm going to do to prevent it from happen?