2008-10-31, 12:09 | Link #822 | |
Naughty & Nice
Join Date: Oct 2008
Location: I travel alot....but at the moment i'm in Hawaii
Age: 34
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drama when it comes to a realationship and you have to be ready ^_^ and saying that ur not ready for a relationship or the drama tells me me that ur actually not childish ^_^ |
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2008-10-31, 12:36 | Link #823 |
Senior Member
Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: England
Age: 34
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There is no girl that is above me as it is usually vice versa. I am just really good looking, you see.
More seriously though, if ever a girl does seem a lot more higher and out of reach towards me then I usually do not like them anyway. The type of girls that care more about their appearance than their education and what not, yes they may seem pretty, but they are more dimmer than a campfire that has been lit in a storm for five hours. Not my type of girl at all. I prefer a specific type of girl so I do not have to look up at these girls that are too good for me, if there are actually any. I like the small and cute girls, so that is all that I look for. |
2008-10-31, 12:37 | Link #824 |
Senior Member
Join Date: Sep 2008
Location: UK
Age: 15
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I agree with your mom, 16 is to young... In fact, I think a law should be in place to ban all dating before the age of 21! Enjoy your childhood first, it doesn't last long, then you have the rest of your life to date.
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2008-10-31, 12:39 | Link #825 |
Dreamer King
Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: lost - with no intention to be found...
Age: 38
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Wow, its must be really something to be able to pick and chose among so many who approach you .
I know as a guy when one of my friends gets a girlfriend, while dont get me wrong Im happy for him/them, its not so much an achievement if she was the one that asked him out. Its like its nice you have a girlfriend but you shouldn't be bragging too much, I mean the ability to say yes or no isnt that awe-inspiring . On the other hand I also have friends who built up the courage - put their heads on the chopping block and asked the girl out. One time a girl admired from afar, (she was a cute waitress at a restaurant), and another scenario with a girl who was a close friend he hanged out with a lot...Lest just say we dont go to a particular restaurant or see a particular girl anymore... Anyway, while they never did get the girl and spent some time rolling on the floor to extinguish the fires of that plane wreck, respect to those friend definitely went up . |
2008-10-31, 12:48 | Link #826 | |
Dreamer King
Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: lost - with no intention to be found...
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2008-10-31, 12:51 | Link #827 | |
Naughty & Nice
Join Date: Oct 2008
Location: I travel alot....but at the moment i'm in Hawaii
Age: 34
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this amazing guy.......but he had to leave T_T..........i guess its good as long as it is puppy love.........nothing too intensive ^_^ |
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2008-10-31, 13:09 | Link #828 |
Dreamer King
Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: lost - with no intention to be found...
Age: 38
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Yea...I know as a teenager you are totally racked with insecurities (some unfortunately more so than others) and you feel all these highs and lows and you dont know why or how to deal with it.
The sensation of simply holding someones hand in public knowing they like you can be a total high, while the anger and sadness of not know why they dont anymore can be crushing. Of course you dont have to be in relationships at that age to not get whats happening in you life. I remember at 14 I could being so angry at times...and I didnt even know why...freaking hormones. The fact is dating can come more easily for some people than others. Some start young, some start in their 20s some haven't even dated once at the age of 26. Its really unfortunate its not fair. If only you could approach someone you had interest in, spend some time talking to them, getting to know them - without any embarrassment or awkwardness and whether it pans out or not just say your farewells without reverberating issues. |
2008-10-31, 13:25 | Link #829 |
Senior Member
Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: England
Age: 34
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Love is both the most greatest, yet the most tragic thing there is.
Relationships are nice and happy when in progress, but if it ends it is a horrible thing for somebody to go through with a lot of sorrow to follow it. |
2008-10-31, 13:32 | Link #830 | ||
Emotionless White Face
Join Date: Feb 2008
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One of my most precious wish in my life though is to have children, to be with a man as great as my father (I know I know, freud blablabla <_<.) and to be a mother as great as my mom, but it might not happen. As I said in another thread, you can't always get what you want. I'm rolling on the floor XD Last edited by Narona; 2008-10-31 at 13:42. |
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2008-10-31, 14:55 | Link #835 |
Dreamer King
Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: lost - with no intention to be found...
Age: 38
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Just curious on the whole old enough for dating...
For the people who havent started dating and for those who have, or currently single what is the age where you should have at least started dating...? Is it all on the individual or is there and age where you reach, the fact you havent started dated seems a bit...peculiar (not wrong...just a little unusual). Any opinions? |
2008-10-31, 15:00 | Link #836 | |
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Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: England
Age: 34
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I have refused starting relationships with girls that 'liked' me for the simple fact that I would rather have college and education out of the way first. Having a relationship carrys a very big burden, one in which I am not willing to carry until I am successful in my chosen career path and have completed college. If I meet someone really special during that time then I may consider it but that is all. |
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2008-10-31, 19:13 | Link #837 | |
Honyaku no Hime
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Join Date: May 2008
Location: In the eastern capital of the islands of the rising suns...
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Like I've mentioned before, relationships during early/mid teens tend to be like a shooting star, incredibly strong and poignant but they can burn out fast (by this i mean from a month to a year) It's a period of such rapid change, physically, mentally and emotionally, not to mention everyone is going through various stages of education, where going to uni (or 6th form for us at age 16) may cause distance between the couple, sometimes it's easier to mutually break up and find your own paths. For some people, they simply don't want the responsibility nor can dedicate their energy to keeping a relationship healthy, but would rather focus on their studies and themselves first. For some people in their teens, they see dating as 'practice', don't look for anything too serious until they are in their 20's and are slightly mature. Depends on the individual and from i'm hearing lately, the area where pple live for the opportunity. Me personally say '17/18 onwards' cause at this time high school is over, we're in the transition stage before entering uni and for some reason people suddenly mature a hell of a lot in 6th form colleges, lol.
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2008-10-31, 19:34 | Link #838 | |||
Love Yourself
Join Date: Mar 2003
Location: Northeast USA
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No drama, no mucking around. I discovered new things about myself from that relationship (which was sex-less, by the way) and more importantly, I discovered that there was an incompatibility. Or perhaps there was a compatibility, but I wasn't strong enough to deal with any conflicts that arose. Either way, some dating experience can only help you. You'll learn about how to communicate with a partner, you'll learn what you really like and dislike, and you'll learn about some of those feelings that you may have not yet experienced. I disagree that you need to date a lot, but definitely don't enter into a relationship immediately thinking "this is the one - for life." From my own experience, while it may make you more dedicated, it'll also make you less honest with yourself. That may cause you to prolong a bad relationship. Quote:
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2008-10-31, 20:19 | Link #839 | |
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Join Date: Feb 2008
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About the rest, you're not aware about a lot of things (I don't blame you at all!), but I just don't feel like writing another PM to another person about a private thing like this. ^^ About the bolded part, I don't want to change, so I hope it will not happen for me. |
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2008-10-31, 20:54 | Link #840 |
Honyaku no Hime
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Join Date: May 2008
Location: In the eastern capital of the islands of the rising suns...
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Actually, I’ll step in a little, since she did pm me with specifics of which I won’t mention here, but I think her meaning was slightly lost in translation.
@ narona – first off I think your concept of a date, in comparison to like me or Ledgem is different. For us, we’re saying that when you get good vibes of someone on the first meet, when you see that they seem to share similar ideas and beliefs are you, the ‘date’ is just another meeting that could simply be at a café, where you continue to talk and find out about each other. The media portrays a date as, fancy restaurants, lots of money spent, it can get to that stage but that isn’t the only environment a date can be in. All depends on the people involved. You said you wanna get to know someone better before going on a date, but then how are you gonna get to know then if you don’t go on a date…? - Is why I was thinking your thoughts were somewhat judgemental. Secondly, ideals of marriage and babies, well see to mention that straight up on the first few dates would probably scare most men, lol. You kinda enter a relationship with the intention, though I can understand the guys who’re like ‘kids?! Marriage!? Uh no, let’s just mess around.’ Then sure, I can understand why you’re like ‘no thanks.’ But you’re 20 and basing a ‘1 person for life’ ideology from how your parents met (which may apply to most of our parents generation) and comparing that to the teenagers of society today, (which we all seem really fickle in comparison huh?) It can’t be done, times change, attitudes towards sex change too. I’ll give an example, a friend of mine is now engaged to the woman he hopes to spend the rest of his life with and have kids. When they began, it was on a casual basis and they were friends for many many years. Huge, big risk they took, but luckily for him it’s paying off. Before that, he met the 1st love of his life when he was 18 and did everything for her, she was ‘the one’, kids, marriage, the whole bundle. Up until life changed and she had to go abroad to study, (they were 24 by this time, so 6 years) – and she sadly was unfaithful. You never know, you can never tell. I think with Ledgem’s last point, he’s also saying ‘be careful not to delude yourself into staying in an unhealthy relationship’ If the person seems like the ‘right one’ but later in life he changes to the point where he doesn’t respect you, don’t think ‘but we share the same ideas.’ – marriage and kids are initial desires, but then when those are done what next? What else do you share that’ll keep you interested in each other for life? While some guys may not express that they want kids and marriage anytime soon, that doesn’t mean they don’t want it at all. That also doesn’t mean that you’d have to have sex before marriage either, like I said it depends on the people involved. A relationship can go as fast or as slow as the couple involved want, it just matters if you’re both honest and dedicated to spend energy on seeing if something can work out between the pair of you. While the ideals of our parents generation are seeming harder to find, since we’re all drowning in a sex obsessed world (within the west) –remember there are people out there who feel the same as you, just the initial way of finding them may not seem as clear cut from the start as it was 30 years back. Hence I said, give some people a chance, be patient too. But you’re 20, so it gets to like 23 ish when guys may take kids and marriage into more consideration. Be aware though that you can also be manipulated within the first few meetings or dates. While you may see someone who ‘seems’ like the perfect person, the further you dedicate yourself to them, the more trapped you’ll end up being when they show their true colours. I guess the bottom line is to ‘keep an open mind’ – don’t refer to methods or experiences used 10,20 years back to find the one true love, keep your beliefs but don’t be so quick to cross of potential people who may seem not so suitable at first. Sometimes it may take 2 or 3 semi serious relationships before you find them, instead of the 1, but through those experiences, you'll be a stronger, (hopefully) more confident person by the time you finally find the one for you.
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